Have your friends betrayed you? What did you do? R u smart enough 2 help?

Question

Well my best friend has been friends with me since kindergarten.
But now that we are in 8th grade, she is all changed
She hangs around with these new!! FRIENDS and doesn't even pass by me. I keep having a feeling of jealousy and sadness!
OMG please help!

Answer 1

Look.....I totally understand what you're going through. Unfortunately, I think all of us go through this situation once or twice in our lifetime, whether we want to or not. But, you've got to stay strong and keep your head up. You've got to start making your own friends. You don't see her walking around with her head down do you? I doubt it. Your friend is just seeing what's out there, friend-wise, and you need to do the same. Start hanging out with some people, keep yourself occupied, and keep on moving. Also, I do question your friend and her loyalness. By that, I mean, it sounds like she doesn't keep it real all the time. If she were truly your friend, in my opinion, she would address you/make your presence known no matter where you all are and who you all are around. If someone starts ignoring you like that, heck, start ignoring them. Let it roll off your shoulders! Go out there and have fun. Don't sweat it. More than likely, when she sees that you have made your own set of friends, she may become jealous too. And, you all are in the eighth grade which is a very pivotal moment because you are going through so many changes....especially physically. Soon, you'll be off to HS. A lot of people feel that they have to hang with the "cool crowd" because they may feel an urge to have to fit in. Like I said before, though, live your life. Your friend may just be going through a stage now, and may want some separation by making her own friends. Be strong and I promise, in the end, you'll find out whether or not this girl is your true friend. If she is....she'll eventually snap out of this "transe" she may be in and act like nothing ever happened.

Answer 2

Friends aren't forever--it's sad but true. Pretty often in life, you'll find that people you were pretty tight with go in another direction, and you rarely hang out any more. I'd say the average friend lasts two years and the average best friend lasts four years.

If you just separate naturally without a fight, this is great--you stay friendly even though you don't see that much of each other. You can bump into them, catch up on each other's lives, and you are still friends. Meanwhile, you've met some new friends--it all works out. If she is actually snubbing you, that isn't nice, but if she doesn't have time for you anymore, that just happens. It always hurts, but just realize that she won't be your everyday friend anymore--and meet some new people to hang with today.

Answer 3

She will never know how you feel unless you tell her. It sounds like you guys know each other pretty well, so I think maybe you should pull her off to the side and talk to her. It will definetly clear things up. I had the same problem in 8th grade with one of my friends & i felt the same way for practically the whole school year until i finally had the courage to talk to her. But it really did save our friendship in the end. we are still best friends and go to different high schools. Good luck :)

Answer 4

We are all grow up in different directions. Childhood friendships oftentimes stay or stray, depending on circumstances --- incompatibility of likes and dislikes;
uneveness in the pace of social development, etc., etc.
So be prepared to go through life with different circles of friends. But don't be surprised if some old friends come back coz it's bound to happen too. Isn't friendship sweet?

Ur ok, girl....things are very ok....no betrayals...just stay cool...new friends will come 2 u too...let old friends find new friends if they want...ur all growing...things change...like nature doing her work...ur ok...very ok...just stay cool...k

Smart enough for you? SMILE!

Answer 5

That happend to me once and what I did was left them alone. It may take awhile but sooner than later she'll realize what a good friend you were and come back. But until then move on with your life.

Answer 6

Yes dear i have had such, my bf betrayed me by hanging around with best gf, to the extent of pregnanting her. But i overlook everything, because i understand that he's not for me, and get away with him. So dear am advicing you to overlook her bad behaviour, your heart is somewhere there waiting for you.

Answer 7

don't be sad..
i mean, don't you want to see your bestfriend happy.?
maybe she just need someone new,.
i dont' think she's trying to be someone that's not her.
if that happen you better act something fast, but i'm sure you loved her,right?
try to find a new bestfriend if you feels lonely.

Answer 8

I ditched them as friends!!!!

Answer 9

kinda wat happend to me today
sucks dont it