My friends parents have been divorced recently and she cant come over it. She has been swearin and she slapped her best friend messed up everything
How can she get back on track?
2007-03-22 08:00:25 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My parents got divorced like 6 years ago and it was very hard. However, i never did anything like that. Shell need time to heal those wounds for that is a very hard situation. Be there for her, listen when she wants to talk, tell her that maybe she should get some counselling. I wish my parents did that for me. It will take time, it took me 3 years to get over my parents divorce. But shell do it.
2007-03-22 08:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first suggestion is, and let me first apologize but she needs love and support from those around her. If she's not getting it from her parents (assuring they still both love her, will be there for her etc) she needs a friend she can count on to listen and do just that, listen. She may also need to talk to a councilor/therapist. Divorce is like grief, in the way that it is a death: a death of dreams of the future, a death of someone being there on a constant basis, etc. There are stages she will go through before she reaches acceptance of this situation. One of them is Anger. Not knowing how old your friend is, there are also great books for any age in dealing with divorce. Time and love will help her get back on track eventually, but it will be in her own time. No one has the right to tell her she should be over this "by now". No one knows exactly what she's feeling, how she's hurt etc. Be there for her and give her time to heal. Keep an eye on her for obvious signs of depression and suicide, but other than that, give her time to work it out. Offer advice, but ONLY if she asks. Sometimes all she may want to do is just talk. If all she gets is advise on how to "get over it" she could quit talking and then any depression she is feeling will get worse. I'm 37 and my parents just divorced 3 yrs ago. Its not any easier as an adult to deal with your parents divorce. My brothers won't talk to my dad, even though we ALL knew they shouldnt have been married as long as they were. Its still hard. I will see shows, read books, hear songs that talk about that "Forever Love" and it still gets to me. Give her time, give her a shoulder and an ear, withhold advise until she asks, and keep an eye on her health. Other than that, she's got to get through it in her own time, how ever long that may be.
2007-03-22 15:13:44 · answer #2 · answered by swee_pea630 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have a lot of friends with divorced parents. You need to give your friend space and try to put yourself in her shoes. Imagine if your parents divorced, and try to understand. It is so hard for a kid to see their parents divorcing because they feel like their safe foundation has been broken apart. They have to chose between Mom and Dad, and they feel like both parents are pulling an arm and pulling her apart. She will get back on track when she feels like everything ok. All you can do is be her friend and listen.
2007-03-22 15:06:13 · answer #3 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to see a family therapyst, possibly with both parents present so they can help her through this hard time.
My parents got divorced when I was 4, so it didnt effect me that much. But me and my brother had conceling for about a year after the divorce.
2007-03-22 15:03:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents divorced when i was 2..But are best friends...so I can't give any advice on the divorce.. But she needs to calm down..its not her getting a divorce..being mean to people because of your problems is childish, and selfish...she needs a *** whooping and get out of her spoiled rotten way of life..
2007-03-22 15:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my parents got divorced it was kind of a shocker! But an easy way I got over it was realizing that the divorce was better for me, my parents, and the way we feel about each other. I also bought a bunch of chicken soup 4 the teenage soul books. I woudnt have made it without them!
**GOODLUCK**
**GODBLESS**
2007-03-22 15:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by °♥BeautyQueen1192♥° 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless her heart, you are a good friend. Get her to go to counseling. There should be someone at school or at church or both that she can talk to. If she won't do it, you get the info. for her, and maybe offer to go with her or ask her to go with you to get her there. You are a good friend... just look over her 'fits' right now like you are, and understand that she is in a very difficult time in her life.
2007-03-22 15:05:33 · answer #7 · answered by Ginger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to go to counselling but you can try to talk to her yourself, just stay back so you don't get smacked too lol! Seriously though,they should all sit and talk to a professional for group therapy because even though their realtionship is breaking up, she probably feels responsible . Also, you can take her out, let her stay at your house more just to take her out of her home enviroment and get her mind off of things.
2007-03-22 15:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by !!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to come up with a sceme to get your friends parents back together. If they still wont get back together maybe your friend needs to see a counselor
2007-03-22 15:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by shnswaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that it is not her fault and reassure her of it. If she has lost friends over it, tell her to go back and talk to her friends about it and how it affected her. I am sorry that your friend has to go through this and I honesly do not think that it is fair when this happens to kids.
2007-03-22 15:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋