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Question

OK WELL iM 15 YEARZ OLD; 16 iN OCTOBER; && YET MY MOM WiLL NOT LET ME GO OUT TO A MOViE WiTH MY FRiENDS iF iT STARTS AT 9:30?

DO YOU THiNK THAT iS FAiR?

i MEAN SHE TREATS ME LiKE i'M 2 OR SOMTHiNG;

i MEAN SHE CAN TRUST ME YOU KNOW; i DONT DO DRUGS OR ANYTHiNG

MY GRADES HAVE GONE DOWN RECENTLY THO;

SiNCE MY DAD iS NO LONGER HOME; i DONT REALLY HAVE ANYONE TO PUSH ME TO DO BETTER LiKE HE DiD

*HE'S iN A DETENTiON CENTER FOR iMMiGRATiON-HES NOT AN iMMiGRANT THO.=]*

ANYWHO; DO YOU THiNK iTS FAiR NOT TO LET ME GO 2 A LATE MOViE?; i MEAN MY FRiEND iS 15 HER BF iS 16?

i HAVE MY OWN $$.. SO iTS NOT LiKE SHE HAS TO GiVE ME ANY && WE HAVE RiDES THERE; SO SHE DOESNTS HAVE TO DO THAT EiTHER

iS IT FAiR?


HOW DO i TALK TO HER ABOUT iT?

THANKS FOR THE HELP SO FAR

1. i LiKE TYPiNG LiKE THiS; HAH

2. iM ON SPRiNG BREAK; SO NO SCHOOL FOR ANOTHER WHOLE WEEK

Answer 1

Cool down the all caps button!

First of all, being allowed to stay out late isn't just a right of passage. It is all about being responsible and being with other people who are ALSO responsible. Just because you are almost 16 doesn't mean you are ready to take on this type of activity. And it doesn't mean your mother doesn't trust you.

9:30 at night is sort of late for someone who is in school. Assuming the movie is of a feature length (about 2 hours) that means you won't be home until about midnight considering traffic and all following the 11:30 close of the show. There are some pretty seedy people who are out and about in the late hours of the night, some of whom ARE drinking and using drugs. She may be concerned that their choices could bring you harm through an accident or random violence.

By your own admission, your performance in school has slipped since your father is out of the picture. If you are not sufficiently motivated on your own to get and keep your grades up, I am sure your mother is concerned that this will not be helped by late nights out with your buddies.

That plus the fact that you indicate your father is in some sort of detention center is a level of worry that she cannot handle right now. She needs to know that her child is safe and doing well.

Also, regardless of your friends dating habits, your mother is justifiably concerned for your welfare.

Instead of pouting about how unfair life is, buckle down and bring up your grades. Show her that you can obey the rules and "bring home the bacon" on that report card!

Then you will have something to offer her as proof of your maturity and willingness to do the right things in life. At that time, you may be able to negotiate some movie nights, though maybe not quite that late a night.

Good Luck and STUDY, STUDY, STUDY!

Answer 2

while I can understand your frustration (we've all been there) I have to say I agree with your mom. first of all, it's a Thursday! There is no way I would let my child stay out that late on a school night. Maybe if it was a Saturday I would be willing to allow it, under the condition that I drove.

I do think it is fair of your mom to not let you go. It's no fun for you, I understand, but trust me that she has your best interests at heart. Just because your friends are the same age as you and they are allowed to go doesn't make it right. You should be grateful that you have a mom who cares about you and wants you to be successful in life!

By the way...I wouldn't let my two year old and his friends go to ANY movie :)

Answer 3

Well by the way you type you sound like your a little bit immature. I mean you can't type properly then how well do you pay attention in school. If you stay up late then you will be tired for school and cant do your work. Your mom is looking out for you because she wants you to be successful in life and you can't get anywhere anymore without an education. I know it feels like the end of the world that your parents are making you stay home from really late movies but they are just looking out for you trying to push for you to do better for your life. Just trust that they know whats better for you because they do. You see your friends at school and if they want you to go to a movie with them suggest the 7pm or the like 3pm afterschool matinee and save some money. Then you can get your homework done, be with friends, and not fall asleep in class.

You are not the only one out there who lives like this so dont throw yourself a little pitty party looking for sympathy here. Just wait until you get to college or the workforce, they don't accept not showing up or falling asleep, so learn to budget your time, and be responsible when hanging out with friends. Besides the older teenagers who are more mature than you are out that late and don't want you getting in the way of their well earned freedom.

So learn your place kid, and that is to concentrate on school, have friends, and listen to and respect your mom, she will always be there for you, your friends wont, and you will learn that in a few years.

Answer 4

As the mother of a 15 year old, I would suggest you try to sit down and talk with your mother about this and her reasons, which may be valid. It's hard for moms to let their children grow up sometimes. Depending on where you live I couldn't say if it's fair or not. Larger cities are very dangerous for teenagers in my opinion. But you really should address this with mom.

Answer 5

I think it's perfectly fair. I wasn't allowed to be out past 10 until I was 16, and if a movie starts at 9:30 then you're definatly going to be out past 10.

If you really want more freedom then maybe you need to get your grades back up and show your mother that you're not a little kid.

Answer 6

i think its fair and would impose the same rules on my daughter. there is no reason to be out later than that just go to the early movies and deal with it at 16 i had to be right home after work and if i went out i had to be home by 10:30 and i didnt see a problem with it. im only 20 so its not like this was forever ago for me i think kids want to much these days without being responsible with it why does your dad need to push you take responsibility for yourself congrats on not doing drugs but you need to do alot more than that to be responsible.

Answer 7

You have to do what your mom says plain and simple. I wouldn't want my daughter running around late at night either so I'm sorry I can't agree with you. I think you should learn to spell as well, I'm not talking about your typing either. Bring your grades back up and try talking to her then. You have to show you're responsible to be treated that way.

Answer 8

Why do you want to go to a movie so late anyways?....Well, she is not treating you like your 2, she is treating you like you are 15 (2 year olds are not allowed to go out hehehe)

The truth is you are getting older and really do need to start experiencing life. Show you mom that you are responsible and capable of making reasonable decisions. Good luck.

Answer 9

Yes it is fair! You are only 15! I'm 13 and I'm not allowed outside after dark, but do I complain? No! You are probably thinking, "Oh, she is only 13 and she doesn't know anything." Well do you know what, I know a lot more than most people! A LOT MORE!

Answer 10

I understand... been there! However, I believe your mother has your best interest at heart. That is kinda late for a school night. I think you ought to try to work on your grades. Maybe there is someone you can talk to.... friend or family member... someone who can encourage you the way your dad did?