If you are in love w/ someone would you choose them or choose the father of your kids to make a better life for them
2007-03-22 07:39:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
either way the father will always be a part of the kids life because he is their father, unless he is abusive, neglectful, etc. and even though kids usually want both parents to be together, more than that they want their parents to be happy. as long as the man you love not only loves you but also your kids and understands their father remaining in their lives then i say be with him.
2007-03-22 07:54:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose the person your in love with. Staying with the father purely for the kids wont do them any good in the long run, after all there's a reason you guys aren't together now (it's only a matter of time before you begin to annoy each other again). However, keep in heavily involved in the kids life so that they know he's still there for them, and make sure they are ok w/ the new guy and things should be fine.
2007-03-22 07:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by Tracee R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1 Do you love the father of the children?
#2 If you are not happy the children will see and in time feel it!
#3 Does the father love you?
#4 Ask the kids how they would feel if you're with their father?
#5 Ask the kids how they would feel if you were with the man you love?
#6 Think long and hard and realize when the kids are gone it will just be you and your man. Can you live with that?
Good luck!
2007-03-22 07:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by hey_there_heathe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first I'd try to figure out a way I could be happy with the kids' father. If I tried everything and just knew for sure I needed to be with that other person, then I'd go with the one I loved. Making sure my kids were happy, healthy, and whole would be my first priority, and you can't make anyone else happy until you are happy first. Also, it doesn't matter what kind of material things you provide or what kind of "security" - kids can tell when their parents aren't happy and consequently, they won't be, either. Plus, if you stay with the kids' father out of obligation, you'll be modeling a way of life for them that says all you deserve in this life is to be with the person you had children with - your only purpose is to fulfill obligations. I'd rather have someone model "you deserve to be happy so get out there and do what you need to do to make that happen."
2007-03-22 07:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by Poopy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow that's a tough one, i'd say screw them both and be with me J/K, anywho i guess it really depends on how good the life would be with the new man...i mean if the life could be a great life for them then go with him...but if the life with the new guy could be bad, then stick with what you got. Plus people seem to think that divorce and separation are the end of the world to a child, and in some cases it may hurt them tremendously, but in time as the children grow and they see that mommy is happy and daddy are happy and they're still nice to each other and step dad is a good guy who loves and supports them they will come to understand that things are just better this way, for all of you.
2007-03-22 07:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by Sire_D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose the one that would give you and your kids the best life, whether it is the father or not. A good man makes a good father, not a sperm donor.
2007-03-22 07:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by kristin747 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever you're in love with and can see yourself living happily with and spending the rest of your life with.
Why pick the Father just because he's the Father? If you're not gonna be happy, you will just live a miserable, resentful life!
2007-03-22 07:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Choose who you love. Don't choose you child's father if you don't love him, b/c it will actually harm your children rather then doing them any good. They will see you in a loveless relationship, but a good message to send.
2007-03-22 07:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would chose the person I love I lived in a relationship for my children with a man that I didnt love for 5 years and when i left him from someone that i really loved i was so happy and havent been happier trust me you wont regret it go for the one that is pulling the strings on your heart
2007-03-22 07:48:22 · answer #9 · answered by slimnottygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say choose the father because he was the one who was ther in the hospital and he helped with creating them and if the kids have a great relation ship with him and visa versa i dont think they should be seperateed.
2007-03-22 07:47:11 · answer #10 · answered by Chelsea P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋