this is totally out of the ordinary with my wife. Her best friend has recently divorced, and just wants the physical intimacy, my wife is rather conservative when it comes to sex and her friend is not. I like her friend, she is sexy even after 3 kids. I love my wife always have and always will! My wife and I have always thought of ourselves as monogomous and when I brought this up she stated that she wants to help out both of us( me with more sex and variety her friend with intimacy and sex) Any suggestions out there?
2007-03-22 07:34:30 · 92 answers · asked by filths 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't believe you
2007-03-22 07:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by spiegy2000 6 · 10⤊ 2⤋
I say don't do it! Your wife is probably having mixed feelings about this and she may be feeling like she is not enough to satisfy you. Her friend, on the other hand, obviously is more than enough for you...that is, to keep you stocked up with plenty of sex. I think that in the end you will just end up hurting your relationship with your wife. While she really wants to see you happy and is seeking to please you and her friend by allowing the two of you to have sex, I think that if you really love her you will consider her feelings in this situation. You said that it is not like you wife to allow such a thing. Maybe she is just fed up and doesn't know what else to do to please you. You should really look to your wife to meet your needs and not some other woman. If your wife isn't giving you enough sex maybe you're expecting too much or maybe she is going through a difficult time emotionally. Either way, you need to be more supportive of her. Take the high road and stick with your wife if you love her. You won't regret it!
2007-03-22 07:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes the fantisies of life seem a little strange but if your wife is really ok with it i say go for it. On the other hand she may just want for you to break the ice so she can join in and get what she really wants. I have to sit down and really have a good understanding about the whole thing and make sure you both are on the right page before anyting takes place. Good luck 2 u.
2007-03-22 07:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by aggfem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude: There is certainly something wrong with your wife's mind. This whole thing seems destructive. Your wife is either cheating on you already and just wants to ease her mind by helping you do the same or she is very depressed and seeks an excuse to explode. I say that you are treading muddy waters and that predators are swimming all around you. Your answer should be a firm NO and you should have a heart to heart talk with your wife since she is certainly up to something. You, my friend, are being set up, so watch out. It is for good reason that we are told to always be as wise as serpents.
Good luck, tiger.
Mr. M on "wife's best friend."
2007-03-22 07:41:50 · answer #4 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly and sincerely love your wife don't do it, she is testing your loyalty. A good looking woman like you described your wife's friend, could get any man, at any local bar in 5 minutes to get her in bed, so she doesn't need your help or wife's help. I would say to your wife thanks for the chance, but if you want to make it fun for me, why don't she do with her, as that will spice up your sex life to watch the two women, and the wife will get pleased, as I am sure the girlfriend will too, and you watching the whole thing will be a blast. She is pulling your leg for sure. No wife wants her husband to do another woman.
2007-03-22 07:47:14 · answer #5 · answered by Maria A. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that something maybe going on to make your wife not care who you sleep with. Is she having a relationship with this woman? People can't just change like that for no reason. You mentioned she was Conservative, I don't think the next day she can become as liberal as to let her husband have sex with her friend. Maybe she has been going out of the marriage too.
2007-03-22 07:39:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lenka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to know for sure what your wife is really thinking. Could be sincere, could be a test. My husband and I "fool around" but we do it as a couple, not without one another. My thought here is that your wife isnt interested in being part of it, she's not bisexual, so I cant see why she'd truley want you to be with someone else. Very possibly she feels guilty for not being (or thinking she's not) what you need and crave and so she feels safer allowing you rather than worry about you doing it behind her back. Not saying you would, but this is the woman's mind. MY suggestion is, dont, unless you know without a doubt she is sincerly cool with this.
2007-03-22 07:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is usually all well and good with these things whilst it remains a fantasy. When it becomes a reality, it's a whole different ball game - if you pardon the pun.
I'm sure if your wife is as conservative as you say, she will live to regret the day she invited another woman who you find sexy into your bed.
I'm sure there are other ways for you to get you kicks and for your wife's friend to get hers without going down this route.
2007-03-22 07:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My suggestion is don't do it. It could be the beginning of the end without the two of you even realizing it. Is this new and exciting possibility worth the risk of losing your marriage. i didn't think so. Rev it up with your wife and reassure her that she is the only person with whom you'll ever have sex. Tell her it was a passing thought and that you apologize for even having thought it.
This makes your life all about sex and less about the deep relationship you have and hope to continue to have with your wife.
2007-03-22 07:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by Dino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it,your wife must be an angel because not many women would allow this..i cant get over your question..lol..it will prob cause rows especially if you want to have sex with wifes mate more than her and what if shes better and does more for you than the wife..your playing with fire but hey if your up for it and you all no where you stand just lie there and think of england.x
2007-03-22 07:41:15 · answer #10 · answered by easty90210 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a fantasy... good luck with making it a reality, but you KNOW it'll never happen. Just go on already and grab a litle action on the side - don't get caught, don't fall in love, don't get a disease - or you'll resent your marriage for the rest of yor life and ruin your relationship with your wife.
2007-03-22 07:39:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋