it was my birthday last month and my best friend and boyfriend bought me the same dvd as a present. i was fine with it, but my friend said she would swap it as there is no point in me having two of the same. so i gave it back to her.......
i text her as noraml but had no reply for a week, then she text saying i had really hurt her and i was snobish and rude for giving her the present back? i could understand if i thrust it into her hand and demanded it was swapped but i didnt.
this was 3 weeks ago and i have text her and apologised on several occassions....but no reply. what would you do? shes 22 im 23. we have been best mates for 7 years, do you think i should persist with contacting her?
2007-03-22 07:33:01 · 7 answers · asked by xxx sara xxx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It's happened now and she shouldn't have offered to change it if she didn't mean it or think it was so important you shouldn't have agreed to it. She is being childish and after all a DVD is not exactly something really personal that she had searched all over for. It would be a shame to break up a good friendship over a trivial matter, although I admit it doesn't sound trivial to her. I would give it one more try, if too lond to text, email her, write a letter or leave message on her phone. You've done the apologising bit so just tell her no way you meant to hurt her, you thought she was happy with the idea and would hate to think you would loose her friendship through this. That is more than enough grovelling and I would finish off by telling her she now knows how you feel and hope she will contact you and if she doesn't you will realise she doesn't want your friendship anymore. Good luck!!!
2007-03-22 11:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like this friendship is worth it you should keep trying. However, she doesn't seem to value your friendship as much as you. I'd just give her an apology and let her make the next step. You should be ready for some heart break though. It sounds to me like you might be losing a friend.
2007-03-22 07:43:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about it...i bought my partners grandson an educational toy for his 1st birthday last week and someone else had bought the same thing....so what we did was gave it to his other grandson for his 1st birthday (they were born 10 days apart)...there was no hard feelings between us, your friend is over reacting about this DVD...and should count her lucky stars that your her friend...if she does not answer your calls or texts...just let her sulk till she's over it.....what you should have done is took it back to the shop later on and not said anything to her.....and if she wanted to watch the DVD then all you had to do was got the one your b/f got you and cracked on it was from her, then she would have not known any difference
2007-03-22 08:19:35 · answer #3 · answered by Dazzlebox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 years is a long time sounds abit like me and my best friend we have been friends for 10 years now and we always have our ups and downs but thats what best friends do!we always make up thats how important our friendship is!
if ur friendship is that important to you i would keep texting her or even try ringing or see her make her listen to you! dont give up cause you will regret it if you lose her for the rest of your life!
hope that helps u good luck i hope u get ur friendship back!
2007-03-22 07:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by chelsea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's pretty immature of her. She felt like you were choosing your boyfriend over her so she was offended (even though she was the one that offered, she was hoping you'd ask him to return his). Give her a few weeks (without contact), she'll come around.
2007-03-22 07:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by AmandaHugNKiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your friends being really silly about all this do what you think is right darling
2007-03-22 23:29:24 · answer #6 · answered by dream theatre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well shes dumb she was the one that first asked to return it shes stupid tell her that well u offered
2007-03-22 07:45:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋