where did my sex drive go?

Question

before i got pregnant my sex drive seemed to be normal and i was always about it with my hubby.
now were goin on 2 weeks and he is starting to get a little annoyed at the fact i dont want to. Im just not in the mood and dont seem to want it like i use to. Im only 15 weeks so its not like my belly is that big yet.... any body else get like this? Ive heard some peoples sex drive goes out the roof while pregnant but not me... is there anything i can do, or is it just a phase somepregnant women go through!?
help!

Answer 1

I'm in the same boat as you, although I am now 30 weeks. My sex drive has completely disappeared, and it's awful because during our 7 years together, I was never this disinterested! My fiance knows that I still love him though, because I love caressing his skin and hugging and holding him...anything beyond that really bothers me. I do love him and want to be intimate, but when we do attempt to make love, I find that I'm not into it anymore and then I tell him to "rush." Lol. It's just our hormones and everything will be back to normal eventually...most days I just give my fiance oral because it's not fair for him to suffer...poor man.

Answer 2

UGH I used to have such a high sex drive and wonderful sex life, but now I'm 13 weeks pregnant and I don't want to have sex...or oral sex...or even kiss passionately. I think it's because I'm still nauseous and tired all the time. I made my boyfriend do without for 2 weeks, then I finally gave in yesterday...and it wasn't bad once I got into it, it was just hard to get motivated. lol. I've read articles about sex drive that say the more you have it the more you want it, so maybe you could try having sex a couple times even if you're not that horny, or masturbate alone a few times, and see if that perks you back up. That's what got me motivated yesterday! I'm soooooooo looking forward to the horny part of pregnancy, because I obviously love sex or I wouldn't be in this position! Good luck with finding your mojo!

Answer 3

I definitely lost my sex drive during the first trimester.... and my husband DEFINITELY was not happy about it. Every woman is different, but for me I didn't want to do it because I was so nauseous and tired all the time.....I was also freaked out by light spotting I had around 13 weeks (due to my friable cervix..) nothing to worry about, my doctor told me that was normal with intercourse, but I still didn't like the idea of it so I made my husband keep away from me. I am almost through my 16th week, and have certainly gotten my sex drive back. I think I enjoy it now more than I ever have.....it's just really important to talk to your husband about how you are feeling. If he is a loving husband he will be understanding...

Answer 4

I'm going through the same thing right now (I'm 11 weeks). My husband and I haven't had sex in over 3 weeks! My body is doing crazy things and I just feel like I can't have sex right now. But like the girl above me said, there's always oral. I feel bad for holding out sex with my husband, but at least you can do other things.

Answer 5

Well it's not unusal for your sex drive to go down in the first trimester and increase during the 2nd. For me I have no sex drive because at 31 weeks I still have terrible morning sickness. I gave up on sex at about 8 weeks. Don't worry and I hope your husband will understand. Good luck to you and God bless.

Answer 6

If you find your sex drive, let me know because mine ran away as well. I will be 18 weeks tomorrow and have had sex with my fiance once in over 3 months.
The first trimester I was really sick, so it was understandable. I also heard that the second trimester brings a higher sex drive... I haven't got there yet though.
Maybe soon because my fiance is very frustrated... and so am I

Answer 7

I am in the same boat (and am 18 weeks also) and feel really guilty about it because I don't want my husband to feel ignored or that I am not attracted to him. I just am tiredand sometimes I have a headache and things like that. The idea of oral right now makes me kinda sick so I assist him with manual stimulation and lots of dirty talk, kissing, stuff like that. That way he still feels happy and that I care.

Answer 8

I never had that problem my hubby complained all the time because { I was horny all the time}.
I have heard some women freeze up when they get preg. Just go do it and see what happens, won't hurt you or the baby but will keep hubby happy for a while. Who knows it may change your way of thinking.

Answer 9

My spouse's dropped off after each and each baby, for approximately 12-18 months, yet picked up gradually and she or he's now lots greater energetic (childrens 9 and eight) than earlier. She started workout (working) twelve months after our 2d, that would have helped. She's greater healthful than earlier (nevertheless no longer aggressive/athletic). The lull after each and each baby is infamous and blamed for a marvelous type of marital issues (alongside with sleepless nights, no time on my own, etc.). only determine you do no longer ignore to do issues for yourselves, spend time, pass out, destroy one yet another, presents, etc. protecting up with those romantic issues will make beneficial that as quickly as your physique is waiting, you nevertheless love one yet another and prefer to get it on. think approximately to do your ultimate to muster some enthusiasm interior the period in-between.

Answer 10

it depends on your hormones. I was really sexually active before i was pregnant with my first baby and bugged my husband about it all the time. I was still sexually active being pregnant with my first baby but after i had my first baby...i just didnt like sex that much any more...maybe its all the hard work that you put into the baby but im pregnant with my 2nd baby and do not feel sexual at all...it is normal and really just depends on you...