Personal question for the women?

Question

Do you, in reality, accept only the men who make you feel very special? Or do you just settle for anyone with whom there is a mutual attraction & the guy is a good person?

I am talking about real life situation (not what you think of, or expect)

Answer 1

What do you mean by "accept only the men"? Accept for what? Dating, sex, marriage?

If you are talking about marriage then I would have to say, I would only promise to spend the rest of my life with someone that I had a special connection with. (love)

If you are talking about dating relationships and sex in general, then I would have to say as long as there is mutual attraction, trust, respect and I like the person.

Answer 2

I have been with both. I chose a man who chose me because we both made each other feel very special. That is the best of all possible loves.

However, death got in the way. I fell in love with another man who made me feel very special. He was / is a rare man and i was honoured to have his love. Unfortunately we had to part. Now I compare all others to these two men. I cannot help in. I settled for a marriage with a nice man with whom there was attraction, but it was not the same of course.

When a marriage is arranged in the Middle East, attraction and compatibility of the couple is very important. But often these marriages are not based on immediate infatuation romantic love. However, after a few life experiences together, love usually grows between a couple, or a very good companionship that can be nourished. There are different expectations is all.

To me... mutual attraction and a good guy are what count best.

Answer 3

First off - I don't "settle" for anyone. I do like a guy who makes me feel special but if there is a mutual attraction and he's a good person I give him a chance.

Answer 4

Ever noticed that everything starts out as an attraction one way or the other? I am talking about a real life situation here. The man being a good person is fundamental, as is me being attracted to him. Someone that recognizes and loves the unique (or at least interesting) bits about me is when things start to feel special.

Answer 5

I look to this song: Somebody by Depeche Mode

I want somebody to share,
Share the rest of my life
Share my inner most thoughts
Know my intimate details

Someone who'll stand by my side
And give me support
And in return
He'll get my support

He will listen to me
When I want to speak
About the world we live in
And life in general

And though my views may be wrong
They may even be perverted
He'll hear me out
And won't easily be converted

To my way of thinking
In fact he'll often disagree
Through the end of it all
He will understand me

I want somebody who cares
For me passionately
With every thought
And with every breath

Someone who'll help me see things
In a different light
All the things I detest
I will almost like

I don't want to be tied
To anyone's strings
I definately try to steer clear
Of those things

But when I'm asleep
I want somebody
Who will put their arms around
Kiss me tenderly

Though things like this
Make me sick
In a case like this
I'll get away with it.

Also, this is my philosophy....i don't look for the greatest love on earth nor do I look for the perfect man, both are anomalies. Also, though having someone make you feel special is nice and brings warm fuzzies, I don't expect someone else to actually do it, that's my job not anyone elses. I like the ones that keeps my interests up and who I can tolerate. So the guys who's bad habits I'm able to deal with and will keep my mind stimulated and challenged, that's the one I stick to.......for awhile at least :P

Answer 6

I think that mutual attraction and and being a good person are prerequisites...but making me feel special has usually always been what "sealed the deal." Usually it was a very small thing that did it...not buying me anything. Something like being really tender and taking care of a cut on my hand. Those things are what made me feel like he really cared about me.

Answer 7

theres no possible way a guy can make a woman feel special all the time. sorry, it just aint gonna happen. maybe u chiks feel great at the beginning of the relationship, but it will all wear off. kinda like ur favorite perfume. how by the end of the day, it dont smell so nice. n by usin it so much, u dont even really like it n e more. that is real life, buddy.

n how many frickin "special" people r there really in the world? we gotta run out sometime. so all these chiks answerin this stupid ?, im quite sure none of u deserve to do so.

Answer 8

Mutual attraction, good person, funny, listens to me, talks to me, etc. Never felt particularly special, but have been loved a lot. I think that "special" is a very American concept (I'm French). I need to know the person loves me, and is not going to look around. As long as I'm happy!

Answer 9

For a long time I settled because I had not found the man who made me feel special. Actually, I had awful taste in men and was always getting hurt. Then, I found that man, the one who made me feel like a queen.

Answer 10

well, in my case, i'm not really attracted to my husband when i first met him but he makes me feel very special & he is a good person. that's why...i'm still married with him for 17 years with kids ages 16, 14, 11 and for all i know i just want to spend my whole life with him. ;>