The reason I asked that was because my boyfriend asked me to marry him but right now he is very jealous of other guys. I have made it very clear to him that I don't want no body else but he thinks I do just because I talk to someone else.
2007-03-22 07:24:14 · 16 answers · asked by fay day 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It doesn't get better unless the mentality changes, there is always constant trust between you and plenty of affection towards each other.
2007-03-22 07:28:24 · answer #1 · answered by E! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your bf has trust issues and this may not have anything to do with you. Jealousy can be a really big problem.
My littler sister just got out of a really bad relationship where her boyfriend was constantly trying to accuse her of other man even though she was completely faithful. Try to work with your bf on his problem. Make him understand that you are not going to live your life explaining your self every time you talk to someone. Until he gets past the jealousy, I wouldn't marry him. It will only get worse. Sorry I know that isn't what you wanted to hear. But it is the truth. this is something that leads to abuse. And I don't think you would enjoy being in a relationship like that. Think of your own future. Good Luck!
2007-03-22 14:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RED FLAG!!! Jealousy will never improve over time unless the reason for the jealousy is resolved. Do not say yes to marrying him unless you are sure you can live with his jealousy. If a your partner gets jealous just because you talk to someone else, then that is a big sign of control and things could end up worse in the long run. I have seen jealousy destroy relationships and people. It never works out unless you resolve it. Be careful, and watch for other signs like trying to control who you go out with, when you go out, what you do, etc. Please be careful. It may seem innocent at first but "beware the green-eyed monster".
2007-03-22 14:31:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The biggest relationship killers are expectations, obligation and jealousy in my opinion. How could this man be expressing love and commitment in one breath and in the next breath be jealous of other men? I mean isn't the implication that U cannot be trusted? Personally I would be offended.
Don't you have the right to have male friends? Well I suppose it is your choice, but do you want a lifetime of this? Your whole life revolving around one person? Jealousy has brothers and sisters too: they are called anger, paranoia, and control. Only you can choose what you want in life. Needing someone is not love, it is a ball and chain.
2007-03-22 14:36:03 · answer #4 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have known my wife for almost 10 years now. We've been married a little over 5 years. Our relationship is many times better today than it was even when we got married!
I'll tell you the secret: as a husband, I've learned to put my wife's needs in front of mine. As a wife, she has learned to let me be the leader of our household. When she knows that I lead with the idea that her needs are before mine, and I know that she is not manipulating me to get something that she wants, then we are BOTH INCREDIBLY SATISFIED!
It seems simple, but it has taken us time to learn the finer points of communicating our needs to each other, but that's the fun part about living life with your spouse. We are going to get better at making the other happy as we get older!
As far as your issue goes, it's not that he doesn't trust you. He just doesn't trust the other guys. That's his right and part of his role in protecting you.
There is a healthy middle ground here. You shouldn't be isolated from the rest of the world, but he should be able to express his concerns as well.
I encourage you guys to have a conversation about that. Let him know you trust his judgment, but that you will be miserable if you can't have any friends.
It boils down to being able to effectively communicate your needs to each other. Get past that, and it's a beautiful life!
Best of luck!
2007-03-22 14:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by Justyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy was a major factor of why I was divorced, but the kicker was my ex cheating on me, and she was the jealous one by the way, I think people who are openly jealous is because they think of others or of cheating themselves, and if he's that way now, once you get married, he will probably feel like he now has ownership of you and shows a real insecurity issue, that is always destructive, I don't have to know you to know that. Good luck with everything.
2007-03-22 14:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by doc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a serious issue. Better deal with it now before you get married. And a relationship can get better the longer you are together, but it has to be good in the first place.
2007-03-22 14:28:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jewel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful of over jealousy -- could be a trust or other problem
the longer the better -- No doubt
2007-03-22 14:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will get better unless you burn the meat while cooking dinner. Make sure that you don't burn the meat and have the house smelling all burned up.
2007-03-22 14:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't get married until you resolve this matter. Marriage doen't fix problems, it only makes you feel trapped if you can't resolve them.
2007-03-22 14:27:29 · answer #10 · answered by Katt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋