How can i gain back my self-confidence?

Answer 1

Everybody needs a confidence boost sometimes, so here are a few tips...

1) Feel Good when you Want

When you need to boost your self confidence or self esteem, find 3 things that make you feel good. These could be memories of good times, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person's face - use photos if it helps. Practise thinking about them and bringing them to mind.

Developing self confidence that lasts - because of the way emotions 'attach' themselves to memories, you will quickly train yourself to feel good when you want - a great help.

2) Beat Self Consciousness

Self consciousness is the No.1 enemy of self confidence. Learn how to keep your attention off yourself. You can do this easily by following these steps...

a) If you notice you have become self-conscious, (you can usually tell because you start to feel anxious), choose something 'everyday' you can see and study it in detail. For example: examine a door, look at the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who made it and how and so on. The important thing is that you're learning how to keep your attention off yourself.

b) If you feel self-conscious in a social situation, it's usually because you don't have enough to do! Focus on what your purpose in the situation is. Whether you're there to:

* find out if you like the other people in the situation
* make others feel comfortable
* find out some information
* make business contacts
* and so on...

It's easy to feel self-conscious if you have nothing to do, and much more difficult if your attention is occupied by a task.

Think how comfortable you have been with others when you're all working toward a common goal. The common goal of socialising could be making friends, it could be the exchange of mutually beneficial information, it could be whatever you want it to be!

3) Don't Take Undue Criticism - Even From Yourself !

Challenge your own assumptions. Here's a few to get you started:

a) Confident-looking people have bad moments too.

b) Just because you feel under-confident, doesn't mean other people can tell.

c) If you're saying things to yourself like "You're no good at anything" then rest assured, you're wrong. Everyone can compose a sentence, get successfully to the store, eat without choking. Don't let yourself make sweeping statements about yourself - in the long run it is this sort of thing that can really damage your self image.

Building self esteem is not just about thinking good of yourself, it's about not thinking bad for no reason!

d) Just because you have felt bad about yourself in the past doesn't mean you're always going to feel that way. I have seen hundreds of people surprise themselves once they have learned how to build self confidence in a way that it stays built!

e) Learn how to develop your self confidence by following the tips from this site and the free Self Confidence Course and notice the small differences as they happen. Persevere and don't expect everything at once. Beating low self esteem is a wonderful thing, and it's much easier than you'd imagine..

Answer 2

Self confidence takes a beating, when you lose or under perform badly, in whatever field. But remember, you lose......... only when you stop trying. Whatever incident made you feel low or unworthy, do a self introspection, and charter out a course of action that will make you overcome that feeling. Remember, self confidence and self esteem strengthen with performance that is recognised.
So, pull up your socks and work towards your goal, one step at a time. Set yourself achievable goals, and reward yourself when you achieve it. Celebrate your victories, but don't let failures affect you adversely, as their are no failures ......... till you stop trying.

Answer 3

1> BELIEVE in the GOD and JESUS. HE will HELP you find what YOU are good at and make YOU CONFIDENT.
2> DO NOT LOSE HOPE. Einstein's teacher used to say that he is a dummy, slow and good 4 nothing.
3>BELIEVE YOURSELF! Come on, their are millions of people who are worst than you.
4> DO NOT SHY AND FEAR! Compare the benefits of doing a task you fear and its worse outcome. Almost always, BENEFIT > OUTCOME.

Wish yu good luck for your remaining life, and hope you regain it.

YES YOU CAN!

Answer 4

talk with ur close ones take advice frm experienced people who can help u out. work on ur probs plan a schedule and work towards it it may take time but it work for sure. do things that u like and try to keep urself motivated for another step towards that prob.
eat chocolates as they give a feel good factor but not too much as they hav a lot of calories
last but not the least pray to god and hav faith in him

Answer 5

Just Realise u have not lost it in the first place.

Answer 6

do meditation and yoga...think positive be positive.ask yourself how you lost it..find ways to get it back.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

figure out where and how you lost it. undo whatever damage was done.

Answer 9

face whatever it is that made you lose it.