My b/f and I have been together almost 18 months and friends for 3 years. We started to think I was pregnant. We talked about it alot and agreed that we would get married. Turns out I just had a stomach bug and my period actually came early. There have been so many changes lately. He got a job an hour away and is moving up there with a friend, his mom is recently divorced so my son and I are moving into her house, keep her company and so I can finish my RN full time. We gave up a 3 bedroom house that we were renting, and it seems so stupid to be thinking about having a child now. But I was slightly disappointed when I found out I wasn't and I walking in the house and gave him a smile cause I thought he would be happy, and he frowned when I told him. His mom was talking about what she wanted grandkids to call her at dinner last night, and he and I just look at eachother. It was strange. We are in our early 20's, I have a 3yr for previous relationship, we make over 60k yr
2007-03-22 07:14:57 · 7 answers · asked by B4Me 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I wasn't exactly asking what we should or shouldn't do, that is between us. It was more wondering if these thoughts/feelings were because we thought I might have been. We never really thought about it. I was looking for the others experiences - like the one where she had the same thing happen and realized at that point that they were ready. We can afford our own house, we choose to give up our house because he didn't want to commute and we didn't want his Mom to be alone all the time. I pay $400 a month for my sons daycare, and combined we have 30k+ in savings. We live in a small town with a very low cost of living.
This wouldn't be some over night decision/change. We would need to get a place near his job, and I would have to transfer my job. I was just interested if others had a similiar experience and what they felt or did.
2007-03-22 08:56:13 · update #1
Wait until you are able to get your own place together before you think about having a kid. If you are in your early 20's and already have one kid, maybe it's time to slow things down. If this relationship is meant to be, you guys will still be together in a few years. Don't get pregnant now...use protection..
2007-03-22 07:20:08 · answer #1 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think positive, I might sound like a bad mom, but I'm kind of regreting that I had my son too early, just had him last year I was 27. My husband is kind of disappointed because after I had him I couldn't work any more, I'm a RN also, but it doesn't make sense if most of my salaries were going into daycare, it's about 500 dollars a week on average, even if you let his mom look after your child, you'll be owing her a favor.
I would waited until I'm 30 if I can do it all over again, since people these days live until their 90s anyways, which from my opinion is way too long, so enjoy your life without a restraint while you can.
2007-03-22 14:31:39 · answer #2 · answered by 結縁 Heemei 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I first realized that we were ready to have kids when we thought I was pregnant. Turned out I wasn't, but that got the ball rolling. Only the two of you know whether you are really ready to have a child together right now but sometimes a situation like this can let you know your true feelings about something.
2007-03-22 14:20:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only the two of you can decide whether your ready or not. You should really think out all the consequences good- and bad.
2007-03-22 14:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by QT314 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
though you thought you were pregnant and played with the idea,please think it through together before deciding.There are to many unwanted childrenin the world today.
2007-03-22 14:23:21 · answer #5 · answered by karens lovinlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, whatever.
Have a kid. Don't have a kid.
It's a drop in the bucket.
2007-03-22 14:17:38 · answer #6 · answered by Barrett G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who's we? do you mean "You"
2007-03-22 14:17:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋