How can I convince my husband to fire his secretary?

Question

He co-owns a business with his father so our bills for our house get paid at his shop. The ones in my name like dr bills from having our kids, and our storage building we are renting, doesn't seem to be getting paid. I don't have the money cause I stay at home with the kids. The man that owns the storage building is threatening to sell our stuff if its not paid. The secretary claims she sent the payment in 2 weeks ago, but the man called today claiming she hasn't and of course is blaming me because its in my name. How can I convince him to quit being lazy and take care of this? I'd get the stuff out of there but I can't haul the big stuff without a truck and someone to help me lift it. Hubby doesn't care about the stuff, claims its junk, but it means something to me. Nothing I say or do convinces him to help me load this stuff so we'd have one less bill to worry about. And nothing I say or do seems to get his secretary to get it paid either. I don't know anyone or have the money to

hire anyone to help me. What can I do? Just because it doesn't matter to him I should just let it go? There are things in there important to me, I got out what I could in my car but need a truck to haul the rest...

Either fire her for lying about getting the bills paid or have a good talking to her

Besides it may be in my name but it was paid with the company check from the beginning. His father asked me to get this storage in my name because it was our stuff that needed to get out of our other house we are remodeling. Couldn't leave it in there for the remodelers to tear up now could I?

Answer 1

Go to your husband's office and get a check from the secretary and pay it yourself! Or hire a moving company and put it on the charge account!! Then I suggest you get your own checking account or your name put on your husband's account. You are entitled to the money just as much as he is even if you don't work outside the house!! Stand up for yourself and quit letting your husband push you around!! Sometimes they get the idea that THEY make the money and so it's all theirs. Funny the law sees it differently!!! Be more independent, instead of relying on him for everything!!

Answer 2

Since the bill obviously got lost in the mail *wink*wink* I would imagine you're going to have to go get a check from the finance Nazi herself and personally take it to the storage company. Or call the Storage guy and give him the name and phone number of the woman that wrote the check.

Since your husband doesn't care if your stuff gets sold by the storage company or not, he's not sounding very sympathetic and isn't going to be much help. Ask one of your neighbors if they know ANYONE with a truck that might help you out. I know most single guys would love a homecooked meal and would move anything if they were offered a pot roast dinner!

I think it really sucks that you have ZERO control over this situation and that some other woman has the checkbook! I'm also at home with kids and have ATM cards, credit cards and a checkbook.

There is a real imbalance of power here, and you need to get some contol over a little cash or you're going to really resent the hell out of that woman.It's your husband you should be angry with for leaving you penniless on a daily basis.

Best of luck to you honey!

Answer 3

Is there any possibility that the business is experiencing money problems hence some of your bills are not getting paid? Just maybe the secretary is not inept, could be she's just following your hubby's instructions.

In the absence of any money problems, would hubby be amendable to increasing your household allowance so you can pay the storage rental yourself? Tell him it's your credit rating on the line and you'd rather that bills in your name be paid on time. That's a very reasonable request and I sure hope he agrees to the new arrangement. In the meantime, start loading in your car whatever little things you can get out of the storage --- start with the more important items --- make several trips as necessary. You need to do this before they completely lock you out (for non-payment).

Good luck. I hope things work out to your satisfaction.


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Answer 4

Perhaps you can sell it all on your own from the location--if the guy wants your stuff out of there badly enough, he should go along with it.
As for the secretary, if she really did pay it she should have proof. A copy of the check (which I'm sure you could get from the bank), an invoice, some sort of paper trail. If she really didn't pay it, then you should bring proof to your husband and his father. Perhaps talking to your Father-in-Law might help. Although your husband doesn't seem to care about this situation, your FiL might. You never know unless you try.
Frankly, I'd be a little more worried about why your husband does not want to get the secretary in trouble, and why he doesn't care about what is important to you. Strange, indeed!

Answer 5

I would march my butt in to the office and ask the secretary to provide the proof that the storage bill has been paid. I am assuming you are more than 30 days late in payment of this account. They cannot sell your stuff if you are only 30 days behind. Time to visit the office and get things straightened out. If hubby don't like it then he knows where to find the couch!

Answer 6

Sounds like your husband may have told the secrectary not to pay the bill if he really doesn't want the stuff.
I assume you use a credit card for grocery shopping etc... go out and buy something for 50 dollars, then return it and ask for the money back in cash, use the cash to hire someone to help you move the stuff.

Answer 7

Your a cry baby and you should fire your husband and stop worrying about the secretary. Storage companies are always looking to make a extra buck and the check probably did get there, and if you don't trust the secretary then why don't you get off your bottom and mail it yourself. If the stuff is going to stay in the storage and you just continue paying on it then why have it anyway? Your not using it.

Answer 8

I don't know how you might get your stuff out. I do have some advice about your husband. It is obvious that he does not appreciate you nor truly care for you. This situation is ridiculous. Your husband sounds like a real prick to me from what you have said. It sounds as if he is taking advantage of the fact that you don't have money or know anybody. This is the same a abusing you. I would think long and hard about this relationship.

Answer 9

It is not about his secretary, it is about him. If the bill is legit., regardless of what he thinks about the items in storage it should be paid. I'm quite certain that he does not put up with people stiffing him in business so he should do unto others.
If that logic does not work, ask him to sleep on the couch and see how he likes it.

Answer 10

tell the storage man your having a yard sale and will bring the moneys to him. HAVE a yard sale and pay the storage man. THEN take the stuff out, one box at a time and move it home. Find a neighbor to help you. MOVE the big stuff home.