Was I right - after this I said 'it's best if we go our separate ways - and you find sum1 who makes u smile!

Question

O.K My girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago. She gave pretty feeble excuses, and we had been dating for a year. I had no contact whatsoever with her, until she asked the other day if i would mind going for a drink with her as friends. I went along...we just argued...and she spent the whole time telling me about a guy friend she met up wiv 4 1st time in 3yr...i stupidly admitted i loved her, and said that this whole friends thing wasnt working, and i walked out of the room. Since, I get texts saying how hurtful she was,sorry,& could we be friends.i ignored her.she then asks my friends have they seen me today cos she's worried about me!Anyway,yest i had enough,& textd her back saying that she hurt me 2much & to leave me alone,i said u've moved on,so should i.anyway,she replied saying she still has feelings 4me,& misses parts of our relationship,but doesnt want to date again.i agreed to meet her 4drink 2moro, but i backed out..then she said she was naive 2 think friends would work

Answer 1

leaving the relationship sounds like it was a good idea, however if you had enough to spend a year together, then there is still probably a lot there. it may, and probably will, take some time, a lot of time, and then once the feelings have calmed down and the relationship will be more of a past, then you can try to be friends again. when you get to a point that you actually think of her as a friend, with responding to texts and the like, then i might think of it a satifying to have a drink together

Answer 2

I do not think that you were either right or wrong, I think that you were just going by your feelings and that is just that. If you felt something maybe it was for a reason. If it is hard for you to be friends with her because of too many emotions then just let it be. It is difficult but no one wants to hear from someone else about another person while at the same time you love them so deeply. It will be hard to do and hard to get over. Of course she still has feelings for you and this is just the beginning of your breakup only you and her will see and know if you belong together and sometimes being apart will tell. She may be fighting herself dating other people but she still needs you and wants you around as you can see, and when she doesn't gets her way then she wants to back out or just forget everything. It is kind of like a control issue with her, and if she can't have her cake and eat it too then it is her own issue. If I were you, I would just keep short distances with her, be cordial and most of all don't share my feelings just because of not wanting to get hurt eventually everything will work itself out.

Answer 3

It sounds as if the relationship is dead and you both need to move on. It only prolongs the torture to remain friends if one person still has feelings for the other (and even though she says she has feelings her actions don't). Good luck to you and God Bless.

Answer 4

Think about this a moment. Who do you really think is hurting?