Man, I'm so mad right now... I'm a good person inside and out. There's this girl I knew for 1 year, and she said to me... I'm your best friend, you're so cool... Well, couple months later we emailed each other like friends, but something happened that tore me apart... She emailed me back saying "Don't talk to me anymore f@ggot!" So I sent her an email calling her a stupid a$$ homophobic bi!ch...f@ck her, our friendship is over.
Still inside, I feel hurt because of what she said to me... I get offended when someone calls me a f@ggot, I'm Gay and I guess she found out by someone else... I don't know.
It doesn't matter, what can I do? What can I do to let go? Help me... I'm out of friends, I am. My boyfriend dumped me for another guy a week ago. I am... Just so lonely, I thought I had a friendship going on with her, and it was ruined.
Don't be fooled in life you guys, people will use you just to be their friends, and end up backstabbing you.
2007-03-22 07:08:29 · 7 answers · asked by Randy S 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
What can you do?
1) Try to educate. Suggest that her energy tied up in hating could be used in understanding, and promoting equality. Suggest that you both join - or form - a gay-straight alliance at your school/work or join PFLAG.
2) Don't mirror ignorant behavior. Be open to her when she comes around, when her mind finally opens.
3) Move on if 1) or 2) never happen. Some people are just haters and are intractable. How sad.
4) Go to local LGBT events, such as sports or discussion groups. They should be listed in the local LGBT paper, or at www.pflag.org. You can find friends there.
Good luck!
2007-03-22 07:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If she really feels that way about gay people, then shes not worth your time. You will get new friends, and I am sure you will get a new bf with time. Everything will turn out ok. It just seems like it sucks right now. You have to remember there are a lot of people out there who will be your friend and they dont care if your are gay.
2007-03-22 14:23:48 · answer #2 · answered by U2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear of your troubles. Try to get over it and move on. If she feels that way about you, you don't need friends who only offer conditional love and support. Then again, maybe she thought you had been dishonest with her. As for the BF troubles, again, move on. Don't sit around and brew over it, because it will eat you up. Get on with your interests in life, get out, see a movie, do things, keep active. Don't sit around and mope. Things will improve, but don't get in the "poor me" state of mind, or that will accentuate your loneliness, and it will make you resentful. Better days ahead -- good luck.
2007-03-22 15:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by SB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i m sorry to hear that your friend hurt you. As a friend she should not be so mean to you just be cos u are gay.. That shows how narrow minded people are.
Not so long ago i fell in love with a guy who is confused about his sexuality and i found out about it. Even thou finding out that he might be gay is something that hurt me deeply.. but i decide to cast my feelings aside and try to be a better friend to the man that i love. To me.. its better to have him in my life as a friend than not at all.. His friendship is too valuable for me to lose it.
As i have many gay friends around and i try to learn more about their lifestyle and i have to admit that gay people are much more fun to have them as friends.
Maybe your friend is angry with you for not telling her the truth about you being gay.. Its only natural that people react in a rage.. But its wrong on her part to be calling you names.. its very disrespectful and mean.
What i suggest is maybe you could email her telling her the truth and that its a waste to let go of a great friendship just becos of you being gay..
Good Luck.. I hope that things will turn around for you..
2007-03-23 11:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by Belle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry bub. You kind of brought some of this neggativity into your life by not being more honest upfront. Be fearless in your honesty and you will attract better people.
2007-03-22 14:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look babe, obviously she wasn't a true friend if she cant except who you truly are... F&@K her!!! I would not even let it bother you. You dont want friends like that anyway.
2007-03-22 14:32:57 · answer #6 · answered by ItalianPrincess 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well that is deep wat i would to say to you is forget abt her move on she should have accepted you the way you are not because of what you are wat she did was bad u just have to forget abt her and move on the world is full of friends im sure you can get another one good luck
2007-03-22 14:26:43 · answer #7 · answered by Bambie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋