I said 'we should go our separate ways' - was I right? I really miss her!!!?

Question

O.K My girlfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago. She gave pretty feeble excuses, and we had been dating for a year. I had no contact whatsoever with her, until she asked the other day if i would mind going for a drink with her as friends. I went along...we just argued...and she spent the whole time telling me about a guy friend she met up wiv 4 1st time in 3yr...i stupidly admitted i loved her, and said that this whole friends thing wasnt working, and i walked out of the room. Since, I get texts saying how hurtful she was,sorry,& could we be friends.i ignored her.she then asks my friends have they seen me today cos she's worried about me!Anyway,yest i had enough,& textd her back saying that she hurt me 2much & to leave me alone,i said u've moved on,so should i.anyway,she replied saying she still has feelings 4me,& misses parts of our relationship,but doesnt want to date again.i agreed to meet her 4drink 2moro, but i backed out..then she said she was naive 2 think friends would work

Answer 1

sounds like your just loanly and want company not so much her.....i think it would be better to go hang out with your friends...than try to be friends with her........you can't even talk with out being friends......if you are going to try than you have to be prepared for her to have a boyfriend and to tell you about it....if you can't than tell her that you think that it would be to hard to be freinds....i know its hard but think about what you need.........

Answer 2

I think you are doing the right thing in leaving well enough alone. You are in a very vulnerable position as you have told her that you still love her and yet you still don't really know why she ended the relationship 2 weeks ago - she sounds like she is trying to hedge her bets and have you waiting on the sidelines in case new guy doesn't work out.

You deserve better than that, she may miss parts of your relationship but that's life, she can't mess around with your emotions like this. I believe that once you've slept with someone, you never can 'just be friends' - it's all or nothing.

You deserve to have a fresh new relationship without any of this drama - keep away cos I think she's being too full on, esp. asking your friends if you're ok. Your friends are the people you should be with at the moment, not her. I would keep away til you feel stronger cos she's in the driving seat at the mo with this and you could end up getting hurt again.

Answer 3

Yeah! She has obviously moved on, and so should you. Not everyone can stay friends after a relationship. In fact staying friends with her could bother the next girl you date. So move on meet someone new and be happy.
Good luck.