Ok, so we just moved into a brand-new house this month. Nobody has ever lived here before. There as unused carpeting on the top shelf of his carpet. I moved it so I could take it to basement. Some dirty clothes were on top of the carpeting. When I pulled it down off teh shelf, both fell on the floor, clothing and carpeting, along with a wand of mascara, a kind I DO NOT USE!!! So I dont know if it came from his clothes or rolled up inside the carpeting. ALthough I have no evidence, I have had a gut feeling of him cheating for the past month or so, then I found this. Yea it could have been left in the rolled up carpeting by someone else, but what are the chances of that? I told him he said "Well its not mine, maybe it was already there" and said nothing else about it ( this was over the telephone). He called me later on, I was asleep and didnt answer, he left me a message asking why I had an attitude and whatnot (I never showed an attitude) I am thinking guilty conscience.
2007-03-22 07:07:02 · 27 answers · asked by da_trump_queen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I cannot afford to leave him and live on my own. Plus the lease is in my name, and I cant afford all the bills bymyself. What should I do?
2007-03-22 07:08:23 · update #1
He is not a crossdresser, if anything he is cheating not trannie.....
2007-03-22 07:11:27 · update #2
You have set your own limitations. Sure you can do it on your own, otherwise, treat him as a roomate until the lease runs up and get a place you can afford on your own.
2007-03-22 07:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by E! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey: Even if he were cheating on you, why would he have mascara on his closet? Cheaters have sex with other people and do not bring their make up home.
It is his routine that will tell the tale of cheating or faithfulness. Does he have guys night out? Does he work long hours? Has he become a bit cold or disconnected lately (before you confronted him about the mascara)? These are the signs of a cheater, not some tube of mascara which he could have easily put in the garbage.
Don't jump to conclusions, but be vigilant.
Good luck,
Mr. M on "Mascara."
2007-03-22 14:17:40 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you're not 100% sure don't jump into conclusions, you are going to be paranoid for a while but the best thing I think would be for you to just watch him and see if there are any other things he does that would be pointing out to another woman, while you're doing this try not to me too obious and cold towards him because it may just drive him away from you instead. I know it's really hard and easier said than done BUT you should even try to be more loving and caring towards him... this way IF anything is going on it'll make him think twice when he thinks about the loving sweet woman he has at home....
2007-03-22 14:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by Jamester 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what this was doing there... He may have an answer and a reason for it. It may have been in the house though some where when you moved into it. Follow your gut though and you may want to have him followed or watched. I hate to say it but if you have a gut feeling about more then likelly he may be very well cheating on you.
2007-03-22 14:13:23 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not really worried about the mascara, it sounds like you're more worried about him leaving you. If you're not married than you have made an un-wise decision. You need to treat him as good as you can until you can find a more affordable place on your own, by yourself so you can get some sense. You never leave a person on this earth in control of your well being.!
2007-03-22 14:12:45 · answer #5 · answered by Khalil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to tell someone "I think you're cheating on me" without putting them on defense. His voice message should be cause for relief since it indicates he cares about your reaction to what you found.
The chances that this wand came from somewhere else are EXTREMELY HIGH. There have probably been dozens of people in that new house before you moved in. You didn't find perfumed lace panties in his briefcase. You found someones lost makeup wand.
You summed this up best yourself when you said that you have no evidence. Now you are watching his natural reaction to being accused and interpreting that to be a sign of guilt. You are also ignoring his phone calls and treating him like he is guilty.
I think you are scared of the level of commitment you have made by moving in with him. I think you are looking for a way to end the relationship without taking responsibility for having done it. He might be cheating, but he probably isn't and you seem determined to find any excuse to believe he is.
2007-03-22 14:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by Automation Wizard 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, it doesn't add up.
Why would he bring a lover home? Most men cheat outside the home.
Why would a woman leave her mascara there, and why would he keep it?
Brand new house, are you sure the wife/gf of one of the construction workers didn't leave it?
If you think he is cheating, check up on him and find out, but don't accuse him with flimsy evidence like the mascara.
2007-03-22 14:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by Indiana Jones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either it is his or it was left there by someone else. A girl isn't going to give him an wand of mascara, and he sure isn't going to keep it around for you to find. I know it's hard but think for a minute. We know it isn't his (or you really do have problems) and it doesn't make sense for a girl to give it to him or for him to keep it.
You are punishing him for the least likely of the options. Nice way to build trust, he should dump you now and find a good woman.
2007-03-22 14:12:57 · answer #8 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are jumping to conclusions. There could have been someone who worked on the house who left it. Don't look for trouble or you will appear jealous and unreasonable. Time will tell if he's actually cheating.
2007-03-22 14:11:02 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he never get you a "signal" that make you think that he's cheating on you (as you know we have an 10 sense), you don't have to treat him like you are.... be confident with him....
and forget about the Fu.......ing mascara...
be happy!!!!
2007-03-22 14:18:11 · answer #10 · answered by claudetteeps 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋