he's 17yrs old and we have never allowed him to have a girlfreind. I want my son to wait untill he's 18yrs old, I think then him might have girls worth choosing. He will be in college then. I just don't want him with some high school drop out that is a baby making machine. I want him to have a future.
2007-03-22 07:05:16 · 7 answers · asked by loving U 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let him hear the same sentiments from another 17-year-old — me.
"OK, kid, listen close, because this is important. There are more important things to worry about in high school than dating. I and most of my friends are perfectly happy when we're single, and are generally doing better in school and all other walks of life. What do you need to date for at any age?"
2007-03-22 11:26:42 · answer #1 · answered by Rio Madeira 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh well you should be very careful with that one.
You can't tell him outright not to do something, he might actually do it just to have his way.
I would actually have a talk with a somewhat more mature 17 year old girl, maybe a daughter of a friend of yours from church or some other organization or someone you know and trust. I would have her over and her talk with him.
Ultimately though, unless he's really not a good choice maker and gets deceived alot, I would trust my son. You have to let go at some point. Easier said than done, I know but.. that is what I would strive for.
2007-03-22 07:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by sassinya 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you to the extent that nobody "needs" a girlfriend, but the way you're dealing with it is selfish. Are you afraid that he'll make poor decisions and get some girl pregnant? If so, that reflects more on your parenting and raising him than it does on his age.
What makes you think that no girl he meets in high school will go on to college, or that all high school dropouts are baby-making machines? Your son's girlfriend is not your decision, you are not dating them.
If you make him wait until he's 18 to have a girlfriend, he will have no experience interacting with the opposite sex, and he won't know how to behave when he's around so many of them in college. He has to figure out what it is that HE wants in a girlfriend, and he'll never have that opportunity if you TELL him what he will want.
2007-03-22 07:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow what era did you grow up in?????? Quit treating your son like a mama's boy, he needs to have friends, yes even a girlfriend. If you are afraid he'll have sex have the talk and by all means get him condoms!!!!!! He probably has already had sex, if not he's just a big mama's boy so cut the apron strings and let your son live his life. He's missing out on the best nonstressful years of his life because you don't trust him.Trust me trash goes to college too! You are way outta line keeping him from a normal life. He'll despise you for it in the long run...remember these words!
2007-03-22 08:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Cyn 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
tell him he can start dating when hes in college... at least that way.. he will have another motivation to go to college... or you can tell him what you just told us and im sure if you brought him up right... he will make the right decision and go out with a girl thats not just gonna be a baby making machine.. she will have aspirations to go to college
2007-03-22 07:10:21 · answer #5 · answered by dramoonzer 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about his future and what lies ahead. A man who has a profession should discuss it with him.
2007-03-22 07:13:04 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU DON'T! ITS NOT YOUR LIFE IT IS HIS. BY DOING THIS HE IS GOING TO REBEL AND MAKE THE WRONG DECISIONS. HE IS YOUR CHILD, NOT A PIECE OF PROPERTY. ITS HIS LIFE, LET HIM LEAD IT.
2007-03-22 07:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥ LINDA ♥♥ 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋