my wife has a so called guy FRIEND thats she says she has feelings for and can't leave alone is she cheating

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on me.she told me that they are just friends and that they do have feelings but not like feelings she has for me.she me him when she was upset at me for reasons she never tried to discuss with me and everytime she not around me she calling and sending messages to him and when she comes home she says she is always tired and doesn't want to talk so i found the number in her phone and called the dude and both stories don't match up so what should i do.and also so goes to club every weekend and meets up with this cat but says its girl night out.and works a 2nd job and tells me i don't spend time with her so right now i a wreck should i let them be together or beat his *** and tame my wife.

Answer 1

Your wife is playing you--She is obviously seeing this guy--or thinking about it--You should NOT be okay with this--tell her to get out if she is acting this way--it is unexceptable for her to be doing this to you--She is making a fool of you--tell her-if you want to have feelings for him--go ahead--adn get out of my life--she might need a shock like that to realize she is blowing it and might lose you--if you don't take a stand she is going to lose all respect for you--and continue doing this with this guy adn maybe even others--marriage only works when both people ahve the same idea about what marriage means--meaning--loyalty--love, affection, consideration and respect--etc...She is mistreating you and openly disrespecting you--don't put up with it--trust me--she is not worth it...

Answer 2

She is more then likely cheating and she thinks she has your fooled.. Fallow her to the club, show up and watch from a distance if you want the answer, or the same for when she is supposed to be at work, her lunch breaks.. You are not going to be able to decide until you know in your heart what exactly is going on.. If the stories do not add up that is another thing too... and why the hell does your wife feel she needs a man friend to spend time with instead of you, sounds like she is phasing you out.. good luck tho

Answer 3

First off, why are you going to beat his ( )( ) when you probably should be beating hers? I have never understood that. You could make this guy gone, and down the road there will be another. So, did it solve the problem by taking on the guy? If your lady is going to fool around, he just happens to be the one SHE chose this time. Letting him know your feelings will only make them more careful. Looks like wifie thinks your not very bright! I hope someday you can look back on this and laugh, because you need to get on with your life, without her. I wonder what she would think if the tables were turned. Even if you solve this, will you ever trust her not to continue on? Your in a mess my friend. You need to understand that there is someone out there that would be very happy with you, and it don't seem to be your wife. Try to keep up your self esteem, and get on with whats left of your life. Good luck.

Answer 4

Sorry to say but it sounds like she is cheating or really unhappy. I would suggest TALKING to her calmly about this, and discuss everything you discussed here. Maybe some therapy might help. It really does help if you love your spouse and want to get to the source of the problem.
What do you do while she goes out like this? Do you work? If she is working two jobs, I'd say she is tired. If she is doing all the providing, I'd say she is probably not very happy... need some more info. really.... But try counseling, as far as beating his ***, you don't know anything yet, so don't make a *** of yourself. As far as 'taming' your wife, she is a person, not a dog, maybe THAT is the problem.

Answer 5

I am sorry it sounds like your wife is a player that is married. Don't be aggressive and forward with her if you want to keep her, play it kool, first call the dude and say what hell is going on between you and my wife, put the heat on him, and if he says nothing, then tell her yeah I called him, nothing is going, so come clean you want to be married to me or not, but be prepared, he might tell you that he and she are in love or involved, it maybe very unpleasant, so go in knowing this could be difficult. If you love her work things out if she is worthy of your love, if she is an inconsiderate player toying with your emotions, you might do best to cut her loose and save your sanity, remember you can't tame a wild animal.

Answer 6

You should definately talk to her about this before you beat anyone's ****...I know its a hard thing to do..I am going through a very similar thing with my husband and its hard for me to bring myself to talk to him....but you must!!! If anything it will bring you the closure you need when you leave her sorry ***...or it will bring the two of you closer together
Also you can't "tame" her....no woman wants to be "tamed"...it will only push her away from and you will DEFINATELY be left alone....

Answer 7

She is or will soon be cheating. Do some investigative work. Follow her to the club, or have a friend that she might not recognize follow her. Borrow his car to follow also.

Answer 8

MORE proof that women know in their hearts they can't have "guy friends."

Ladies, stop deceiving yourselves. Play a fun game with your "guy friend" - offer him a free romp in the hay - I'll bet you $1,000 he is naked and on the bed in under 2.7 seconds.

Buddy if it was my wife I'd kick that guy in the balls so hard he'd taste them for a week. Then I'd dump her selfish arrogant cheating a*ss.

Answer 9

GO BEAT HIS ***. THEN BEAT HERS. THEN WHEN SHE LEAVES YOU FOR HIM, YOU CAN GO OVER AND BEAT BOTH THEIR ASSES