Acceptance?

Question

Since I don't do drugs no more, my signifigant other seems to not be able to grasp hold to the fact that I have changed. that's because he is still in his addiction. I'm in recovery which is good thing. It's just hard to let go sometimes

Answer 1

I know exactly where you're coming from. First of all, let me congratulate you on you're recovery. CONGRATULATIONS! It takes a strong person to realize and admit they have a problem but it takes an even stronger one to quit. I don't know your personal circumstances (with your partner) but it seems that they are not ready to take the steps to quit. It's hard to stop doing drugs as the craving still lingers, but if the drugs are in your presence or within your grasp, the outcome might not be in your favor. You say it's hard to let go- are you referring to the drugs or your partner. If you think that he may never want to recover and you stay with him, your recovery might not last as long as you'd like. Evaluate your life and the positive things that have come out of you no longer doing drugs. What lifestyle do you really want to live? Can he share that life with you? Don't make him your next addiction! Good Luck and keep up the great job! :)

Answer 2

Yes it's hard. The reason that your SO acts like that is because your recovery is an indictment on him--you had the strength to change while he is still in the addiction. Of course he's going to feel defensive about that, and will probably accuse you of acting superior and judging him. Its easier to point the finger at someone else than to admit that you have a problem.
I commend you on your recovery. Take care and good luck!

Answer 3

Congratulations on your sobriety! Though I don't want you to perhaps hinder your recovery by still having a person who is active in his addiction. In order to remain on your path of recovery, it is vital that one surrounds him or herself with a positive support system of people that understand addiction as a disease and that you know that being around others who use any type of substance to cope can be a trigger for you to start again too. Please do really ponder about whether being in a relationship with someone so unhealthy is worth possibly putting your life in jeopardy as well.

There are 12-step peer self-help support groups for those that feel 'stuck' in a pattern of having unhealthy relationships and wanting to 'fix' the unhealthy person. You may have heard of Co-Dependents Anonymous (CODA) which may be of benefit to you, and perhaps they hold a meeting nearby. Al-anon is another self-help group and is for those that have a relative or friend who has a drinking problem (they also have Nar-anon for families and friends of drug users). I'm really hoping that you continue in your recovery and do what you need to do in order to have others in your life that are supportive in your sobriety.

Answer 4

Let go of what? if it is drugs you are referring to, it is hard lo let go; if you are referring to your significant other then I would say it sounds complicated if he is still addicted and does not see your changes. The question comes to mind: How important is for you to make this other person see you have changed? in what ways that could be of interest to him?

Answer 5

If you're in recovery, you should really consider not seeing your SO anymore. He will drag you down.

Other than that, did you have a question? I couldn't find one in your post.

Answer 6

if is no harm to you there is no problem. If someone try to talk you into drogs again get rid of the, fast.

Answer 7

first of all i think that's amazing. do what's best for you, that's your first priority.