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She's usually pretty rude to me, and last time she called, she told me that she'll get even with me, and called me a *****, etc. I hate having to screen the phone all the time, and they have a daughter together, so changing the number or not answering is'nt an option...thanks

2007-03-22 06:37:13 · 13 answers · asked by bartender36koc 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting Baby Names

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Well there's really nothing you can do since your boyfriend and his ex have a child together so he's going to have to deal with her. But you don't be rude to her and you might want to have a talk with your boyfriend to set some ground rules when she calls your house that she can't be rude and if she does then her call or visit will not be recieved. The one thing that pisses me off is exes who do call and are rude to the new wife or girlfriend when she needs to know that she's calling YOUR house and that you are not going to tolerate the disrespect because her problem is with herself and her ex not you. Some ex wives and girlfriends are jealous if their exes moved on with their lives and some are extremely selfish and don't want to see their exes with anyone else.

The problem is that when you have kids with someone you're forever bound to them and because you and your guy arent married please wait until you're married to have children. Also keep in mind that women like your man's ex will also use manipulation to get what she wants and you also have to be ready because she might even get the courts involved which is something some women will do to get their way or to see their ex. If she's calling your house your man needs to tell her straight up if it's not about the kid DO NOT call my house and he should set her straight about your position and place in his life letting her know that you are his significant other and if she can't respect that then that's not his problem his focus should be for the welfare and well being of his child not some bitter broad with issues of moving on with her life.

Women like that waste their lives hating the new woman and if the relationship ended in a different way meaning the guy wasnt cheating then this woman obviously has some animosity towards her ex and can't seem to get over it and move on. She's setting a piss poor example for the child acting childish herself and very immature. I would try that by asking your man if ground rules are sufficient and that he is to enforce them when the ex calls and if she's not going to respect you and his house then he will tell her don't call if you're going to be rude and disrespectful.

You and your man shouldnt tolerate that kind of BS in your house and that needs to be made crystal clear so she's fully aware that she better straighten up her attitiude when she's calling YOUR house to speak to her child's father. Also if she's calling a lot and has been nasty towards you for no given reason keep track of any and all voicemails, or any kind of written or recorded correspondence because that can be useful in court if you need to seek a restraining order against her because she wanted to get stupid and threaten you when you're not the enemy here. Be sure to have dates and times that's the most important piece of detail that people seeking restraining orders are without are dates and times.

2007-03-22 07:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 0 1

I don't know what the court has ordered in this case but for me and my ex it is ordered that no bad-mouthing of any sort can happen be either party. I would tape the conversations and take them to the court and get her for harassment and for violation, if its ordered. The only thing that the father and mother should be discussing is about the child and that is it. If problems to not cease to exist after you have your boyfriend talk to her about the way she treats you, then have him take it to court, along with you having a restraining order against the mother.
My ex has threatened my boyfriend on several occasions and the courts do not take kindly to such actions.

2007-03-25 19:55:57 · answer #2 · answered by Over and Over 5 · 0 0

how very childish of her. I pray to god that she evolves her views and gets on with life. meanwhile, a restraining order would be prudent.

How come your boyfriend hasn't had a discussion with her? I think it is his responsibility, if you cannot, to ward her from being hostile towards you. Honestly, if he left her, it was for a reason, and he should tell her that it didn't work out before, and won't in the future.

As for answering the phone. If he cannot answer the phone, allow it to get to the answering machine- if it is the child, then you can answer, and if it is important it will be known by the message.

2007-03-22 06:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by deadwhisperer 3 · 0 0

well the only way it will stop is if he puts a stop to it. he needs to tell her that hes not coming back and that she needs to get on with her own life.I dont know how old the daughter is, but if she isnt calling to speak about her daughter then you will have to file harrassment charges against her. tape the phone calls, and make sure she knows that if she continues to act this way, no one will speak to her at all.

2007-03-22 06:46:31 · answer #4 · answered by dynamite136 3 · 2 0

restraining order hon, she threatened you that is serious. and tell your bf to put her in her place! this is HIS ex, he should be dealing w/it. if the ex can't behave herself then you and your bf should seek legal action. have your bf talk to his divorce attorney...this kind of behavior COULD land her back in court on harassment charges and she could be ordered to see a therapist...which sounds like that is JUST what she needs. document EVERY call she makes in writting (keep a phone journal, date, time of call, what was said etc.), and record the conversations if possible. keep ALL messages from her on your answering machine/cell phone.

2007-03-22 06:51:09 · answer #5 · answered by ☆MWφM☆ 7 · 0 0

tell your bf to step up and be a man by telling his ex-wife off. If he wants to get back with her then let him go, he's not worth it. But if it is just the ex-wife that wants to get back then he needs to tell her that it's not gonna happen and that he has to respect you or he'll limit phone conversations to pick up and drop off times for his daughter.

2007-03-22 13:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by Katie G 3 · 0 0

the only thing I can think of is get a restraining order against her for you. She has made threats to you... and verbal threats are enough to get one.

With the kid.... when time to exchange... find a government place .. that you can exchange. My brother does this...Its court order.. but it does help the tension for both sides.

2007-03-22 06:42:04 · answer #7 · answered by life 4 · 0 0

Perhaps being sympathetic may help. Whilst its not the right way to respond to rudeness, she is bound to be bitter, remember that she has lost something very dear to her, that you now have, imagine how you would feel if you had a daughter with him and he was with her, I expect she feels incredibly lonely and extremely jelous of you!

2007-03-22 06:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Debs 3 · 1 1

Well, I hate to be the odd ball here but this is your boyfriend's responsibility. Your boyfriend needs to tell his ex-wife to stop harassing you and only she and he needs to talk about concerns relating to their daughter.

2007-03-22 13:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by stergre1975 3 · 0 1

When u have lost a man to some other girl and you have no reasons why. Then we'll see if your question doesn;'t flip!

2007-03-22 08:41:36 · answer #10 · answered by brwnladi 2 · 1 0

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