How do you know if you are on the rebound?

Question

After finally ending my marriage (3 years plus a 8 month seperation when we still saw each other) I have met someone new and it feels like love. My friends say take my time and this is a rebound? How does any one know if they are on the rebound?

My marriage lasted 3 years and 8 months. This is my first relationship after breakin off with my ex

Answer 1

If you are not thinking about x, then it is not a rebound. If you still had your x in your heart (deep doesn't count because he will always be deep in there), then it would be a rebound.

Answer 2

Whenever you first start dating after ending a long relationship, you are in rebound. Most of these early relationships end, because it was too soon to start one. Anything different from what you had been through is going to feel great! Usually after some time, you start seeing clearly again and realize, this really isn't what you want. Most people need time on their own without another special someone just to get their head together on who THEY really are themselves. Don't jump into anything to soon! Have a bright future!

Answer 3

I don't think you should listen to your friend. I had almost the excact same situation (married for 3 years, w/ a seperation), and I'm still w/ the guy I started dating when I was going through the divorce. And it's been 5 years...rebound? I think not. Just go w/ it, honey. Life's too short - if you don't take risks, then you'll be stuck with the "what if's", you know? Good luck!

Answer 4

To me, "rebound" means right after the first relationship broke up, not 3 years after.

PS, guys always marry the rebound relationship, but women NEVER do!

Answer 5

Go slow and see if you still love her in like 8 months and if it dont last that long then it was a rebound.

Answer 6

no one can know who and when u are on the rebound if u still have strong feelings for the ex then u might be on the rebound but know one can tell if is really hard to say when and if u r

Answer 7

i would say it is a rebound if you are just looking not to be lonely..........or are just trying to get back at your ex-----i mean if you have not really talked to your husband in months, or seen him in like years or never had sex or whatever, then i would say that you never had a real relationship w/ him in the first place......and it is time to get out and find someone who will love you and treat you the way you WANT and DESERVE to be treated! Good luck and keep us posted!

Answer 8

Okay. I may be way off the charts here because I don't see what difference it makes. You aren't going to get married yet right? What do your friends think you are doing wrong? Isn't it okay to love someone? Are you supposed to avoid the word love? Then stop saying it. But you deserve to date someone and get some fun out of life. Better you stick with one man than 12 one-night stands, right?

If you are planning to marry him or move in with him then you need to put that info in your details. Also, how long since you left your husband? You said how long you were married, but how long ago did you leave him and who are you living with? Do you work? All these details matter. Please try to add them if you want to get more answers that are worth having.

Answer 9

Have you spent enough time alone to where you actually question whether or not you want another man in your life?

If not, this is a rebound most likely.

Answer 10

well its a rebound until you feel completely OK with being alone
if you love this guy cus you dont feel alone or rejected then its a rebound
you should love him for who he is and not how he makes you feel its OK though we all go through it sooner or later its normal