Some parent from the UK told me I was *grooming* her son and to cut off all contact?

Question

He's gay and he said he desperately needed a support system, so I thought I was helping by being a friend, NOTHING MORE.
Is that wrong? Can she continue to threaten me? BTW, she's in Wales and I'm in the U.S.

Answer 1

It's not wrong for a mother to be protective of her son.

Answer 2

Thats terrible, the poor kid probably felt he couldnt discuss such things with his mother and a relative stranger was probably easier.
You have to understand his mothers concerns though, there have been several cases of dirty old bastards trying to lure children into a paedophile ring here in the UK in recent months (as Im sure there has been in the US, and of course i dont think you are a dirty old bastard), so i imagine she is just being overly protective.

I know that of all computer related crimes, the grooming of children is taken very seriously by international agencies, so I would be very careful or things could get rather awkward for you. Why dont you send a final message explaining the situation and then sever contact.

Good luck

Answer 3

You've done nothing wrong by being a friend. It's obvious his mother won't listen to him. If he's over 18, he can talk to who he wants, without having a parent breathing down his neck and threatening you. I live in England, but know some of the older Welsh people are a bit set in their ways and refuse to accept homosexuality. They see it as some horrible disease that can be cured by locking their kids away from anyone or anything to do with it. Threaten the woman by telling her you'll get a solicitor to deal with her, or threaten to write a letter to her local newspaper about narrow-minded people. Believe me, she'll do anything to avoid publicity. It's good to see you're not about to give up on the guy, when he needs a friend. Good luck

Answer 4

If the parents are in denial about their son's homosexual tendencies then support systems can indeed end up looking like encouragement. It's all a matter of perspective. In their eyes you are helping him become gay, something they don't want to have happen. My advice: Back off. It'll work out best for everyone.

Answer 5

If the kid is a minor, then she can tell that to you. If she is threatening you, that is a different story. I dont see what she can do to you if she is in Wales and you are in the US though. It is a family issue and she probably wishes to handle it in her own way. I would tell the boy that his mother asked you to cut off contact and then let him handle it himself. She is his mother. If the boy is of legal age, he may make his own decisions, if he isnt , then his mother may make them for him. Either way, you are caught in the middle which isnt a good place to be. Back off for a little while and see what happens. Pax - C.

Answer 6

There's probably not much she can do legally yet, but if the boy's a minor and a parent tells you to cut off contact, you have to, or else you could get in trouble. (Not sure how well international agencies work together on such things, or how much has to happen before they do, though...)

Answer 7

Is he over 18? If so continue contact until he says he doesnt want you to anymore. If not better do as she says.

Answer 8

cut off contact if he's under 18.

Answer 9

i dont understand what grooming means. Gayness is wrong. So, if you tell him that is wtong, then tell him as much as possible. If you're saying that being gay is ok, then tape your mouth shut and turn off your computer.

Homosexuality is immoral and wrong.

:)

Answer 10

IF HE IS AN ADULT, WAIT FOR HIM TO CONTACT YOU. IF HE IS NOT AN ADULT, DO NOT EVEN REPLY TO HIM.