I think my mom wants to take in (adopt) another kid?
she has that look about her again. like she's thinking about one thing and only one thing. the only other time she's had that look was (1) a month before we adpoted my 10 year old bro Jake and (2) right before we took my 16 year old bro Derek in foster care. what are the odds she thinking about another poor lonely kid who needs a family? i have mixed feelings about this. 18 kids already live in our house (it's a long story i'll add it in a "addition details" thingy. another kid would be another person hogging the shower and the bathroom, but yet again, i love my sibs, wouldn't trade them for the world, maybe this one is a girl. i just want to know how old he/she is. how can i ask her? what if there's not even a kid and i'm jumping to conclusions? watch should i do?(and just n case your wondering, i'm 17)
2007-03-22 06:24:04 · 17 answers · asked by Big Sis 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
my parents always tell us when they are taking in a new kid, family meetings are held every time. mom and dad talk it over and pray and decide if they personal can afford it and then they gather us around and we discuss it and then they go to social services or whatever. right now, i think my parents are in the "talking it over stage". i'll prolly find out soon enough. but i wasn't blessed with the patience my mom has.
2007-03-22 06:24:27 · update #1
Mike (8), Shayne (8), and Josh (6) my step mom had with her first husband.After he was killed in a car wreck, she adopted Emma(11) and Bridget(15). Then she remarried to my dad. who already had 8 kids (my momdied of cancer when i was 10), 5 his own (me (Leslie, 17), Jaymee (14), Zack (12), Kyle (12), and Sylvee, (9)and 3 adopted ( Jason,19, Maddy, 7,and Jayde 7). after they married they had Noah, and adopted Jake and Derek is now in foster care.mom's pregnant with twins. and my cousins live with us (jonah, 3 and Zoe, 2) i think that's everybody.
2007-03-22 06:33:15 · update #2
no, there's never hot water. even to wash your hands. i think it's because my sister gets up at 5 and uses it all up.
2007-03-22 06:53:22 · update #3
What a blessing to a mother that one of her kids can read that look on her face. Damn the lack of hot water and bless the luck of being raised in a family that can love with out blood. The little annoyances of your life are surly overshadowed with great blessings.
2007-03-22 07:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by NakasEvilTwin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How the heck do they afford 18 kids? I would assume that if they already have 18, there will probably be not much holding them back from adoptng another.
It's a great thing that they are doing for kids, and I would be supportive because you only have 1 more year to live with that amount of people and I am sure it is an experience that not a lot of people get to go through - so you will definately have some interesting stories to tell your own kids/grandkids...and it probably teaches you a lot about tollerance, which is an important lesson to learn in life :)
I think you should just be supportive and happy that your parents are wealthy enough to be sending 17 other kids to college. You all must be millionaires!
2007-03-22 13:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aww! What a good big sister!! And WOW!! You have got yourself a big family!! I see what you mean by people hogging anything and everything!! I have 11 brothers and sisters..... The number of people living in my house is 13 That is counting all the niece's and nephews too....Maybe you can talk to your Mom or Dad alone and tell them how you are feeling.. If you don't want to do that then talk to a trusted adult. No, you are NOT jumping into conclusions! You are just curious and worried. Just make sure you find out ALL the details befor emaking a fool out of yourself in front of your family (and/or) friends. E-mail me if you wanna talk!! I am not 17 but kinda close.. (14..) :) Hope this helps!!!!
EDIT: I agree 100% with courage78!!
2007-03-22 13:28:26 · answer #3 · answered by Brown-Eyed-Beauty 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG OMG OMG!!! that is a LOT of kids in 1 house!! around here my best frien has 9 people living in her house and we all think that thats a lot - boy were we ever wrong!!
if ur parents decide to adopt another it will just be another person to love and care for- and youll be his or her big sister so they'll probably look up to you!
GOOD LUCK!!
~cathy
ps~i admire you-you can live with that many people!!
i go nuts with just 1 sister and 1 brother and my mom and dad!
2007-03-22 14:04:56 · answer #4 · answered by cathy_melcher72 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that is the least of your worries, go ahead and ask. Do you know what kind of person it takes to welcome total strangers into your home and take care of them like they were your own? That is a pretty big thing to do. And you should be commended as well because there are so many other 17 year olds out there that are total spoiled brats and wouldn't know a good deed if it bit them in their a**!!! You stay blessed and if you are a close, tight nit family, there is nothing you shouldn't be able to ask your mom. Good luck!!!
2007-03-22 14:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by Chen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That would be really hard, but your parents seem like great people. I think you are old enough to be a part of what is going on now...maybe not the actual decision making, but the process.
It's hard to tell you how to bring it up, when I don't know the dynamics of your family. With mine, I would sort of joke about it. Then it would all come to the table.
Good luck!
2007-03-22 13:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by courage78 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's nice that your mom wants to adopt another kid and frankly it's her choice. Do you even have enough money to take care of 19 kids? Tell her to wait until most of the kids are out of the house.
2007-03-22 18:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you really need to talk to her sweetie. Try to talk to her in a way that explains how you feel instead of saying things like "you never think of how I feel".... This will just make her upset and start defending herself. stick with how you feel and how you think she has a good heart for doing this but that you really love her and need her. The more grown up you can have this conversation the more she will take you seious
good luck
2007-03-22 13:38:11 · answer #8 · answered by samira 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow! what a family! I am defininatly impressed with your parents, talk about big hearts! If it were me, I would just wait until I could be alone with one of them and then ask them straight out. It seems like they would be open to discussing things with you.
2007-03-22 13:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by western b 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should tell them that they need to focus on caring for the family that they already have and not try to save the world. I think it is great what they are doing, but everything becomes a burden when it is excessive.
2007-03-22 13:30:33 · answer #10 · answered by country_girl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋