Women who don't have children are women too!?

Question

Why do some women think that if your a woman without a child, that you are somehow worthless. I am a 29 year old woman with no children, and at work i always seem to get the short end of the stick.

Answer 1

Thank you girlfriend! It seems to me, like women who have children see us as a plain, meaningless being. I feel the same. Like we don't measure up. I am not saying ALL women, but quite alot. And heaven forbid if I mention that I may not want children...OH LORD like I just grew another head! Please let us be, and let us make our own decision as to what and when such an important, life-changing decision will be right for US! Just respect us as a person, and do not judge us for what we DON'T have. (p.s...I am almost 34, you should see the way they look at me!)

Answer 2

Some women have no maternal instincts and do not desire to have children but they do in a way long for the relationship that they see with mothers who have small children. I am 22 and my sisters have children, I am in no rush to start for another few years. My husband and I love our time together and much like you your time spent is with work. Since more women are having children at a younger age it makes the more work endused women seem to receive a old maide persona. Don't let it get to you too much, if you are happy with your current situation then don't fret.

Answer 3

Thats probably because you are working with mothers. I had my child when I was 30. Its a big difference but trust me you are not worthless because you dont have a child. Thats silly. I feel like a failure every day and Im a mother.
You probably get the short end of the stick because they seem to think they have an ''excuse'' to get less hours etc.
Stick to your guns and dont be used.

Answer 4

I hear ya. I didn't have my first child until I was 36! Throughout my career I was singled out (no pun intended) as the one to work late, work on Saturdays, and come in early. People with kids were allowed to leave early at holidays, while us non-mommies were expected to pick up ALL the slack.

I started taking college classes so I had my excuse to leave early and say "Nope, have homework" when the asked me to come in. They never accepted any other excuse until I went back to college! Then they went onto the other women without kids that weren't taking college classes, like they had nothing better to do than pick up the slack!

I had many, many years of insensitive remarks about not having kids, and I certainly never expected to have my first one let alone as many as I have now. It's a very personal choice, not to mention none of their friggin business, and your employer has no business treating you any differently than anyone else. That's discriminatory. Regardless of what those idiots may think, what you do with your uterus is your business.

If they expect you to do things that the "Mommies" don't have to do, then tell them something about a child to get out of it. Like you have to take your nephew to see the Easter bunny or that your plans with your god child prevent you from doing so-and-so. If it works for them, it should work for you!

I just hated all that. It made me feel like crap, and I hope you realize they're being petty. Probably very jealous that you get to sleep in on Saturdays if you choose, and that you don't have any stretch marks!!

Give 'em hell!

Answer 5

People in soceity are morons! It's hard to be a woman in a man's world, or in a stereotypical world. People with children have different lives, they have to put their children first whether they want to or not. People without children do not and it's hard for the two to mesh. I occasionally get irritated with my best friend who has a small child that we do not have more "girl time" together. I understand that she has a child and I don't. It's because people have different proirities. You should just mesh with other people that are childless. I love my best friend and would never trade her in even if she had 80 kids..but we just have different priorities in life.

Answer 6

Believe me I feel your pain. I get the same treatment in my company too. (I'm 30). Personally, the older I get the less I want them-especially when I see how poorly children act nowadays. I know that it is a reflection of the parenting but the way I see it, IF I have a child they are going to interact with other children and I will have to interact with these parents on some level. I really have no desire to.

Answer 7

Yes you are still a woman.

Women should not be judged by their reproductive ability alone. You know, people criticize Islamic nations because they place emphasis on this (at least to the Western mind), but we do the same thing.

Also, women should not be judged on their level of attractiveness, housekeeping skills, or any archaic mess like that!

Men don't want be walking paychecks or such so why do this to us?

And why do women judge other women this way?

It sucks. Sorry

Answer 8

This is so unfair. But in most businesses, this is how it seems to be. Family before business. But i do have children. and I say stand up for your rights. You should be treated the same as any one else. I say congratulations for your choice to not have children. I never do anything on my own. I always have 2 kids on my heels everywhere I go. I would love to have just 1 night that was kid free. I don't feel that you are useless, I feel you are free.

Answer 9

well thats just wrong but if you are giving advice when they speak of there kids and you say this and that without the experience yourself you may get a dirty look otherwise your all the women they are your just not a mom yet simply tell them i wanted to have a career on track then ill think about kids if in fact its what you want some people just dont want kids

Answer 10

no meaness intended ( i am a woman with 3 children) mothers are to a certain extent considered "disabled". you are not "disabled". therefore you are unreliant in needing the long end of the stick. so many companies cater to mothers in fear of being discriminitory (sp) to mothers and getting a lawsuit. yeah, it sucks. but until someone challanges those "special" laws you are just gonna have to be more insistent on what you expect in your job. and FYI, as a mother, i've sat and seen the non-females get the promotions just because they don't have children and have nothing but their job to focus on.