I told her I liked her several times that I liked her, and she never said anything other than hoping it would not affect our friendship. I then confronted her for flirting and seemingly interested behavior. She explained it all away as nothing. Now, she continues to flirt and try to be good friends, so I have backed off. Last night she called to ask if I was mad because I do not carry conversations with her anymore. I said no. What is her problem? We used to be friends of many years.
2007-03-22 06:19:18 · 16 answers · asked by +TheEndIsInSight+ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She skirts around issues I bring up, and she says my feelings are my fault alone!
2007-03-22 06:20:16 · update #1
I am hurt!!! :(
2007-03-22 06:20:31 · update #2
I think you did the right thing by backing off. If she was truly interested in you the way you are her, she would not risk hurting you by flirting with other guys (if that's what you meant). Unfortunately, people like to play games and when you're unaware of that, you can get hurt. Follow your gut instinct. She sounds to me like she doesn't know what she wants. I think you should start putting yourself out there more and flirting with other girls right in front of her the way she disrespects you. You want to know what she wants from you? It sounds to me as though she only wants you to want her. She likes the feeling of you wanting her and even being jealous when she's flirting around. Just try not to let her use you.
2007-03-22 06:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by peaceseeker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that u can be friends right now because the more u hang around her the more u feel for her and that her flirting is hurting u and that u just can't take it any more and want to go find someone that can make u happy and if and when that happens and u wants to be friends then u will give it a try then.
2007-03-22 06:25:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She definately has a problem. Sounds like she's just messing w/ you. Probably not on purpose. But she's so self-centered that she can't realize that she is flirting w/ you. I'd say she isn't a very good friend and would be a TERRIBLE girlfriend. So, unless you're looking for a fling, you'd be best to just cut her out of your life. Otherwise, she will continue to cause you pain and confusion.
2007-03-22 06:24:31 · answer #3 · answered by asig33882003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants to feel good about herself and get your interest yet the silly thing is she doesn't want anymore than that - she has your attention which gives her more self confidence within herself. Women - weird bunch hey!!! Oh and move on - she probably wont like it but bad luck!!!
2007-03-22 06:25:41 · answer #4 · answered by Mal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants what she wants. She wants to continue the way you were. You will need to explain to her that you cannot do that. It is a statement of hurt and lacks sensitivity, therefore you are hurt. Maybe start looking at the true her.
2007-03-22 06:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I understand your problem. Is it that she flirts with you and in doing so, is suggesting she wants more than friendship, and you only want to be friends?
If this is the case, just tell her...."All I want is to be plutonic friends, nothing more, nothing less."
2007-03-22 06:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds complicated to me. Maybe she just wants to be friends, but she felt that to HOLD you- keep you as afriend, she had to be flirtatious. Then she back off from that, because you liked it way too much. Maybe se knows that your thinking of hr would get less friend-like i she was a love.
2007-03-22 06:25:13 · answer #7 · answered by answermaker96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she flirts and this offends you because she likes to flick around with your feelings then she plays you. DOnt let this hurt you. If you have feelings for her and she rejects any for you then she's not worth it. Also, she could be afraid with commitment
2007-03-22 06:24:42 · answer #8 · answered by dennys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things almost never work, take her to dinner as "friends", then let it be know that you have feeling on another level for her and you can't be just her friend. I can't say what to do next because it all depends on her, but its hard and trust me you can never be just friends.
2007-03-22 07:18:53 · answer #9 · answered by shocker83_fear_me23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is she wants to be your friend while you want more. This is a big problem talk to her see if you can take it to necxt step if not do not allow her to flirt with you.
2007-03-22 06:24:25 · answer #10 · answered by Ans 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋