I am so tired of being called a liar! My husband has crazy ideas all the time. He is always accusing me of cheating and lying. I have never done anything to him! I have never lied to him-I have never cheated on him. He always says that I play word games-semantics-Like when I say I have not done anything wrong-he will say "what is your definition of wrong?" Also, my dad had an affair with another woman when I was young and he wound up with a child-My husband assumes that I think it is ok to cheat because my dad did it and I love my dad? I am so tired of everything-I have kicked my husband out of our house so many times because of drugs or alcohol-we have small children-I keep telling him that if I was seeing someone else-I would never have let him come back. I have nothing to gain(money) from having him here. It is just so hard not to make him act like that-if I miss his call-not home before he is-if I pause while on the phone with him?-he starts acting suspicious!!! Help!!!!!
2007-03-22 06:19:06 · 22 answers · asked by orangecat43 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to leave him and his insecurites and move on with your life. Why spend the rest of your days miserable cause you have to spend every waken moment trying to convince someone you arent lying and cheating. that is not fair too you and its consuming on your life, soul and mental state.
Remove him home cause you are so much better without him and he is going to in turn pass his negative behavior onto yall children especially if they see you accepting it like its ok. his actions are alot different than what your dad did, you love your dad for who he is not what he did
2007-03-22 06:27:08 · answer #1 · answered by Amazing_clarity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off... If he is doing drugs around small kids then you shouldnt have him around. Alcohol only makes it worse and with him being so insecure you never know when he might turn against those little kids. He needs to go ASAP. Those children arent safe and neither are you. If anything, think about the kids.
2007-03-22 06:25:33 · answer #2 · answered by Worried wife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is either A. cheating on you or B. having episodes of delusional jealousy which is an anxiety disorder (can be treated with therapy and/or anti anxiety medications)
i would say the best thing to do is possibly have marriage counseling or if he is not interested then leave him because your children dont need to be around the alcohol and drugs
2007-03-22 06:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is cheating on u........My ex use to accuse me of cheating as well, but he was cheating on me. It was his guilt getting the better part of him, so he had to direct it towards me to make himself feel better. He was a drinker too. Tell him to get help with his problems or ur divorcing him...Don't let him come back till he gets help, that is if u want him to come back at all, not good situation for u or ur kids. Been there done that. Keeping u & ur kids safe is first..
Good Luck.........
2007-03-22 06:35:29 · answer #4 · answered by cindy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecure, sweetie, and it is only time that will cure him of this mental deficiency (and there is no guarantee that time will fix it). You need to bolster his self esteem, if you think the person and the effort is worth it, and this is a long and arduous process. Think marriage counseling. Think replacement husband. Think about him swearing off alcohol and drugs or getting out. But think!!!
2007-03-22 06:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this could be a relationship you will possibly desire to probable get out of...its not healthful so which you could be placed on the rollercoaster of you're stressful...then i admire you and that i miss you....I easily have got here across that when is a mistake two times is a trend..in case you have caught him mendacity that plenty, he isnt going to end.... i replaced into in a protracted distance relationship for 6 months and not in any respect as quickly as did my husband tell me i replaced into stressful or lied to me....its not generic the way he's treating you...i comprehend it ought to not be straightforward to flow away, yet on your psychological wellness that is probable the final ingredient so which you could do
2016-10-19 08:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him out to dinner away from kids or other distractions and explain life to him, I'm not cheating, never have and never will, it hurts my feelings when you say those thing and I'm tired of it. If it happens again one of us can leave and there be no looking back.
2007-03-22 07:17:22 · answer #7 · answered by shocker83_fear_me23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have noticed when a man or woman starts to accuse the others of something that they know is not true it means they are guilty of the same thing..
2007-03-22 06:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's dealing with his own trust issues. So to justify his wrong, he accuses you. Sorry that you're going through this. the only thing I can suggest is maybe getting him to go and talk with a counselor.
2007-03-22 06:30:48 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs an extended stay at the nut hut. Just tell him that you're no longer going to discuss his accusations - that, from now on, you're going to ignore them. If it continues, tell him he must get help or you're leaving him.
2007-03-22 06:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋