My EX told me earlier this week that she is planning on taking our daughter (3 1/2) to Disneyland this summer. She had made me promise that I wouldn't take her, which I don't want to do till she is a little older and can remember it. So why is it bugging me so much that she is going to take her?
2007-03-22 06:15:59 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Because you want to see your daughter smile and be the hero of the day.
Its perfectly natural, I get those same feelings almost like guilt when my ex takes my daughter somewhere special.
But your right wait until she's older besides you can make her smile at home. Kids don't need to go somewhere to have fun, reading them a book or playing a game can be just as rewarding.
your a good daddy, I can tell keep up the good work.
2007-03-22 06:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by 2shay 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because it is something that kids remember forever and you want to be remembered! You are normal. Take her again yourself in 2 or 3 years when she will remember even more of the cool stuff you did together.
Honestly, how much do you remember from when you were 4? 7 or 8 maybe, but 4? Not so much.
It'll be fine.
2007-03-22 13:23:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously b/c it's your daughter too and you had it in your head already to do that with her. You wanted to be there with her for a fun trip to disneyland. And now she's going and not you.
It's pretty obvious why you'd care. Why don't you not do what your ex-wife says next time when it comes to things like this? I can understand you 2 making a major desicion together, but she shouldn't be able to tell you that you can't take your daughter on a fun vacation. Try planning another thing you 2 could do together. Not so you can one-up your ex-wife, but so you can enjoy a fun thing to do with your girl.
2007-03-22 13:20:00 · answer #3 · answered by nymom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be bothered by that too. Its not fair for her to make you promise something that she herself isn't keeping up with. I say you don't allow her to take your daughter, after all she is just as much yours as she is hers. I think both of you shold reach some sort of agreement on who gets to take her. I would NOT let your EX take her because she was the one that originally suggested she was too young to remember it. OR....you could always let her take her...and 2 years later, when she is actually old enough to remember Disneyland, YOU take her.
2007-03-22 13:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by pestross 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that age is too young to enjoy the full benefits from Disney. I am guessing you're upset because you're going to miss the great happiness that your daughter will experience thre without you. Do you get along with your ex well enough to make it a family thing?
2007-03-22 13:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by kat_sista 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because SHE is taking her. you dont want your daughter to remember mommy as being the cool one. so here is what i would do, take her again when she is older, like you had planned, so that she will remember it. it is a pain to take a 3 year old anywhere. be glad that you arnt the one doing it this go round. wait until she is like 5, so she can brag about it to all of her little kindergarden buddies.
2007-03-22 13:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by smcopeland16 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be relieved that's she's taking her! Disney's a god-awful experience for adults & it's super-expensive. My ex took our daughter when she was 5. I took her, too, & dragged my best friend/cousin along to help, when she was 7. She remembers both times VIVIDLY. Consider yourself lucky! I'd rather sitck rusty needles in my eyes than go back to Disneyland or World ever again!
2007-03-22 13:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by napqueen 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because she told u not to take her so that now she can take her and it was not right most parents wants to be the first to take their kid to do stuff like that well take her to like six flags or to some where u think she will have fun and has not been to before but it makes u mad because she will be the one to see the first looks on Ur child's face and not u.
2007-03-22 13:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because deep down inside, you wanted to be Cool Daddy and take your little princess to the Magic Kingdom.
Trust me on this---at 3 1/2, she's too little and wont remember anything anyway...And Disney is always changing, so if you take her when she's 6 or 7 or 8, etc. you'll still be Cool Daddy
2007-03-22 13:19:27 · answer #9 · answered by Munya Says: DUH! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well im sure that your daughter will remember most of the vacation.. if not she will have pictures with the characters and other memorabilia! your probably bothered by this because her first memories of Disneyland wont be with her dad... understandable but what can you do? just make sure that when you take her there its extra magical!!
2007-03-22 13:21:22 · answer #10 · answered by melissa c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋