CUT?!?! please read and respond?

Question

alot of people at my school have resorted to cutting themselves because that is how they want to deel with their pain.. i want to show them that they really are not alone in the world. so can u please tell me if u know some one who has cut or if u do/have cut and why!!!???! thanks! it means alot!

Answer 1

i did cut myself a lot of times....really a lot of times and to tell you frankly that's the most stupid thing i ever did .....even if you cut yourself a million times the pain will never go away & you will even regret it if you can see the scar. the best way is to talk to someone whom you trust, & remember that all problems or pains you encounter as long as you are still alive...there's always a solution. ;>

Answer 2

I used to cut and I have a niece that has cut and I have at least 3 other friend I know of that have done it. Sometimes when a person is angry or depressed they do this for attention. Some do it because they feel that if they create physical pain it will overpower the emotional pain. And unfortunately, some do it because at that moment they really just want to die and end all the pain. Personally, being someone who has tried several times to commit suicide as a teenager ( by the way I almost became braindead once, I had to be brought back to life once.)I can honestly say that someone out there was watching for me. I think now that behaviour like this is a severe cry for help and your school's guidance councellors should be addressing this issue seriously. I don't condoan this behaviour but I do understand it. I understand it enough to assure you that cutting does not solve any problems short or long term. All it does is leave ugly scars on your arms that you have to explain when you are older and a lot more smarter and secure with your life. Good luck to you and your many friends and aquaintances and anyone else out there that feels that life is too big to handle. But this world is yours to discover and you can't do that if your are 6 feet under.

Answer 3

I don't cut, but I do have some other self harming tendencies. Why? I don't know. It is like someone else has control of me for that time, because I am normally a very rational person, but I can not reason with myself in these situations. I imagine cutting, like a lot of other psychological issues in the past just weren't recognized or handled the way they are now. Perhaps the triggers have changed? I'm not sure why most people cut. My habits stem from stress usually related to not feeling perfect even if hurting myself doesn't make me perfect. Try not to judge so much, you really have no idea what can go on in someone's mind to make them do this to themselves.

Answer 4

No one cuts themselves because they want to, but because they think that it would be better to feel pain phically rather then mentally. I think it's really great that you seem to understand that and that you want to help. Some people just want to talk someone, so try and be the someone they can talk to. Just please remember if they do talk to you, to respect their voice and problems. I know this isn't suicide, but try treating it as a case that could build up to it and always remember: “Suicide is not chosen; it happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain.” Cutting is one of the ways to try and cope pain, even though, based off of what people say, it doesn't work.

Also please remember that some people won't listen and/or don't want to talk to anyone, and please respect the fact that therefore talking won't help very much and may make them feel worse about themselves. Sometimes people feel shot down and even though they hide it, their selfconfidence is at it's minimum. Some feel so horrible about themselves that cutting just seems like a good way to punish themselves for being so "worthless". For those who lack that confidence, just try and boost their confidence, make them feel good about themselves or defend them if others say something mean to them. The people normally don't mean anything from their teasing, but eventually the teasing and hurtful comments add up. If someone is teased once or three times in front of you, then it doesn't seem like much. But then consider all the times they aren't in front of you and if they get teased then. Or if they're alone. Sometimes being alone is worse. If you defend them, then it makes them feel like someone does care for them, and whenever they feel sad or lonely, they can reflect upon that experience and remember that there are kind people out there who do care.

Just being a kind person is one of the best things you can do in my opinion, but in some cases seeing the school nurse or other professionals may be better for the person. Just remember that every one of these cases is special and that listening and trying to understand is the key- not patronizing, beating the person down, telling them they need help or saying that the same thing happened to such and such, ect.

Sometimes, you ARE the help for people.

And sorry for making this so long!

Answer 5

Some people cut because of stress others get an adrenaline rush from seeing the blood. Others that's the only way they know how to deal with pain. Some people cut in various spots (like somewhere easily hidden by clothing) I use to know this girl that was raped twice and molested various times and she cut by her vaginal area to have a different type of pain instead of emotional she got physical pain.

Answer 6

Um i used to cut myself.Alot.It's depression, pain, and lonliness.When you feel the pain in your heart it hurts so much worse than it would on your wrist.It's a way of letting it out. See I felt as if i was alone in this world and everything was going wrong. My mom didn't care.never has really.I haven't seen or heard from my dad in over 10 yrs.i do all the work around the house and all she does is sleep,eat (i cook), and watch T.V and complain and holler.Then I watch my younger siblings and do my schoolwork.I've always gotten good grades.No one ever made me, but I did.but sense I had no one to guide me, had no direction or support i made a few wrong choices, with some of the wrong people, that got me in alot of trouble. trouble I couldn't talk my way out of. Went to some of the wrong places and did some of the wrong things. That's when all the trouble started. Plus when all this was happening my dad was on trial to serve 8 years.When i thought I hated him somehow this hurt me. even though we were on two different sides of the country and i hadn't seen him in forever. Then he was found guilty and it made me angry. I don't know why..all when i thought i hated him.anyways back to the trouble.it was creeping in on me. And no one was there to help no one offered any hand to even see what was wrong, no one cared.So with no dad, what a hell of a mom, and no older siblings where am I to turn? I was on a dead end, cut off. It got worse till the point where i wanted to die.Didn't want to wake up in the mornings.And cried at night. I went crazy trying to stop. what I did was I took hairbows and rubberbands around my wrist and popped them.I tried to get rid of as much as possible that I could hurt myself with.If i didn't have access i couldn't do it. And I started writing poetry.I have a few on here in some of my questions.I even wrote one on my cutting. poetry helps release stress too. and i prayed for help. But best luck and love to your friend and you too.
Please help her try and stop and be as supportive as you can be as my friends weren't really.it's nice that she has a friend that will go through trouble for her. I now think it's stupid and i can still see the scar.I really that they would go away.

Answer 7

hi, well i understand where your coming from and the kids that are cutting! as an ex cutter i now look back and dont think it is a way to relive pain but alot of people have alot of anger built up and depression and dont know how to deal with it sometimes things are in your head and cutting will help relive it alot of kids do not cut to kill themselves just to relive pain it is not a good thing to do but alot of the time you will c that cutting can sometimes help them and make them stronger

Answer 8

Cutting is not something to brag about.I cutt myself,it is a way of cooping with things.Do you know what its like to get a scrape on the knee then to get a bigger injurie somewhere else?You focus on the bigger injurie becouse it hurts more.In this case when you cutt urself it makes you think about the outside pain and distracts you from the inside pain.Besides did you even know that emo realy does stand for emotional?

Answer 9

i used to be a cutter. for most it is only a phase i know alot of people that have done it to like i said for most it's only a phase all you can do it try to be there for them. most of the time you won't really know what to say but sometimes you jsut need to listen anyway. hugz help jsut let them know if they ever want to talk about anything your always ther to listen let them know that they are not alone. if they are doing it in a way that is very dangerous to themselves such as on there wrists or over major arteries. or you really think that they are going to commit sucide seek the help of an adult that you can trust. personally i never wanted to kill myself it jsut made me feel better. myself and evryone else i know who has or does it says the same thing " it's like all the pain comes out with the blood" know i wouldn't cut myself for nothing and i haven't for a couple yearseven though my life was very stressful but i did other things that were probably worse for me in the long run. the number one thing is do not blame your self if you can't help them. you can't help somebody that won't let you. BEst of luck and God bless you for careing so much about your peers.
btw it has nothing to do with wanting attention it's a personal thing and most don't want evryone knowing about it

Answer 10

I have know someone to cut and then I known someone you died from cutting themselfs. People cut for many reason but it not the way out of your pain. Don't cut or you might end up dead like my friend. If you know someone or if you are doing it get help for parent, teachers and even doctors.