35 & 32, big age difference for dating/marriage ?

Question

Im 35 years old and the guy Im dating is 32 and a half (he's 2 and half years younger than me)
We just figured out each others ages after 4 months of dating.
I look really young for my age and he thought I was only 27-28 tops. I do take good care of myself (little sun, little drinking, never smoked, good diet/exercise and genes)
But he wants to have a fmaily of at least 3-4 kids.
He now acts like Im SO old compared to him.
I dont feel old and in some ways look better & have more energy than in my 20s.
Should I give up on him or explain that I have good years left ?
Is 2-3 considered a big age gap for dating ? It doesnt seem like it to me.

My grandparents also live/lived for a long time (93-104)
My grandmother is 92 still drives and jokes that she wishes she HAD married a younger guy (she's been widowed for 2 yrs)
I guess my guy is just being nutty.

Answer 1

32 and 1/2??? Your age difference is nonexistent. If he is that stupid to be worries about it you are better off without him.

Answer 2

2 and a half years is most certainly not a big age gap. I will be honest and say that this guy sounds like the type that likes younger women for whatever reason (35 is still young to me and that is supposedly when women hit their sexual peak). I think you two should sit down and talk about how you both feel about the small age difference and see where it goes. Also, he needs a little reminder that if he considers YOU old, then he is well on his way to "old-geiserdom". Also, you said you know he wants 3-4 kids. How about you? Do you want to be running after little babies when you reach the prime of your life ? You guys just need to lay the facts out on the table and talk about it.

Answer 3

A 3 year gap is not the real issue here. You state he thought you were much younger than 35. Did you lead him to believe that you were 27? Did he just make the assumption?

If you were responsible for him thinking you were 27, then the real issue is deception. But if he never asked your age, then the issue is his ignorance.

Think of it this way...let's say you are dating a man you believe to be 37. Then you find out later he is actually 43, how would you feel?

Answer 4

It isn't a big age gap, he is upset over nothing. Frankly I think you are both at a perfect age for each other. Try to make a joke of it, like ok so I collect pension before you but can you keep up with me!!! You are not old you are not even middle aged. He is being silly. If he won't stop about this then you have to make up your mind if you talk to him and he stops this or carries on like a child and you end the relationship which is it going to be? Communication is the key to all relationships, take care Heather

Answer 5

No its not a gap , i am 3 1/2 yrs older than my husband of 5 yrs. And its has never been an issue. Since he wants 3-4 kids you may want to talk too him and let him know what your plans are for kids this way he doesnt feel like you are at this age and have counted children out. Let him know not too be fooled by your age , but to notice and be reveled in your actions and beauty

Answer 6

Girl stop it !!!! 35 is not old,don't do that to yourself. I am 35 and the man I am with is 29 !!!! And trust me it's all good. We can talk, laugh, grow, and love together. Even at my age I still look forward to having kids with him. So, how does he feel about you being 35? I mean if you're gonna say you're old, then 32 is not far behind. So cut it out. You still have time to have your family if that is what you want. I wouldn't say wait til you're like 45 or something (LOL) but it can still happen. I have hope and faith for myself and I do for you too. Don't just give up and be willing to walk away, this may be just how it was all supposed to happen for you. Hey maybe you can have triplets and that knocks out 3 of the 4 he wants right? (LOL) just kidding, just hang in there, what's meant to be will be. good luck.

Answer 7

No 2-3 years is not a big difference at all. Think about it. In today's standards that is pretty normal. People date/marry others who are 10, 20, 30 (!) years there senior and/or junior. Personally, I would be with someone who is no older than 10 years. 35 is still young, so don't be hard on yourself! Hope I helped! :)

Answer 8

WOW!!!!! 2 and a half years difff.

My wife is 27 and i've been 39 and holding for 24 years now.
So he's looking at you for a production dept? what do you want? Is 1 or 2 enough for you.? call it quits? Takes a lot to raise 2 nowadays. I've got 11 and 15 year old girls. If he acts like your so old now what about 5 years from now?
I would think hard on this were I you.

Thank God the wife still conciders me 39.......lol

Answer 9

The age difference should definitely not be an issue. If you feel young and take care of yourself, then who is anyone to say you are old. I am dating someone 8 1/2 years older than me. True I am the female and i guess society accepts that more, but my mom is 10 years older than my dad. I can understand their parents weird reactions to that age, but not in your situation. You are just a few years apart.

If you guys are doing well in the relationship and have tons in common. I don't understand his issue.

He seems to be acting very immature when it comes to the age thing. Good luck!

Answer 10

Hes problably joking,or just wants out of the relationship and is too big of a coward to admit whats really going on. Age is just a number it dosen't matter at all. 60 is the new 40 now anyway as long as you are in shape and feel young dont even worry about age, find someone who feels that way also.Good luck!

Answer 11

No that is actually a great age range just because you both grew up around the same time era and should have a lot in common. It sounds more like he's uncomfortable being the younger one in the relationship. I'd continue with the relationship if he can get over being the young stud syndrom if its worth it. If you look this young at 35 you'll be one hot momma if that is in your future with him.