I have heard from both gay people and straight people that marrige is something they don't want to do or wish they hadn't done. I want to get married so much. I'm dating this absolutely wonderful guy right now, and even thought we've only been dating for about six months, I can't wait to marry him. I feel like marrige is like a next step in a realtionship. I mean once you've gotten over the insecurities and the "honeymoon" period I think you take another step. I don't feel like we are ready to get married, but I really want to. I just don't understand why people look down on it so much.
2007-03-22 05:31:06 · 15 answers · asked by Adam 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Its because when you get into a relationship, your not only taking yourself but your also taking your past.
A lot of people have a hard time letting go or absolutely loving the person they are with.
A lot of the times, partners want to find in someone, that they have never found before. A lot of men find that they have married their mothers, so to speak. They get tired of it, becuase they don't like to be told what to do, what not to do, etc.
If partners didn't take all their hurt and anger and frustrations into the realtionship, found help, and acutally looked into why they are afraid, they would be fine and couples would get along just fine.
I think you need to figure out why your so afraid. Whats the one thing that someone said to you about getting married? If you want it so bad only you can make it work out.
You just have to learn to love and respect each other and be honest. Tell each other everything. Be as HONEST as you can. Your relationship, will never fail.
2007-03-22 05:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In other countries marriage is still sacred, in the US however social changes and gov law make marriage not as appealing. First of all the base of a man and a woman has been tossed in the air by gays and lesbians, second the divorce rate is up so high that many people are discouraged to get married, and the are laws the make marriage not appealing. The divorce rate has gone up for many reasons but some are that both parents are working so much that the family is torn apart and the government gives advantages to be single like you get free day care if single and cheaper housing when single. After your married you basically have to work your butt off to survive. So being married today is more difficult. It is easier for a woman to have a kid then get the man for child support because then you get cheap rent and daycare.
2007-03-22 05:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by The Captain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To the main question there are two answers
1) They are not looking for the right person, which is why they are always finding the "right now" person
2) Most relationships are based on something physical, sex, looks money etc. None of which are real and none of which can last. Therefore marriages or relationships based on these things also DON'T LAST,
Because of this and because they do not know how to look for compatibility within they JUMP in having lousy marriages and relationships and color their perceptions on the institution of marriage to others.
2007-03-22 05:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by Matticus Kole 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To some, marriage is just a society standard that really has nothing to do with what they feel in there hearts. I will not be any more in love with my partner after we get married. I'm already 200% in love and a marriage license wont change it. In my heart & mind, i'm already connected to her for life. If the only way you can feel completely devoted, dedicated and committed to a person is if u have a piece of paper signed & a ring on your finger...how in love are you really??
2007-03-22 05:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its probably because they have had or witnessed bad marriage experiences. Personally I have been married for almost 3 years now and I think its the greatest step we could have ever taken. Dont do it till you are ready obviously, but if you feel its something you both want go for it! Marriage is wonderful!
2007-03-22 05:34:47 · answer #5 · answered by ♥♫♥ Crystal ♥♫♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 08:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, marriage is so sweet when you get Mr. Right. But i want to advice you not to rush into it because you may end up regreting it. Just seek God's intervention, He will surely leads you to the best way of marriage. I suppose to have entered into marriage since the last two years, but i,m waiting for God's wish for my marriage because i don't want to regret for my getting married.
2007-03-22 05:59:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm married (9 yrs.) and while it is mostly good, it ain't exactly a walk in the park. It takes a lot of upkeep, nurturing, etc. like taking care of a pet or plant. 6 months??? Better date a few years before you committ to marriage.
2007-03-22 05:38:27 · answer #8 · answered by Suzanne S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has been my experience that marriage is like a bath-tub in two ways:
1) Once your in it, after awhile it's not so hot!
and
2) You go in and end up in a lot of hot water, eventually leaving because you got burned.
wink
bga
2007-03-22 05:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by bga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to people who have been married for about 10 years and ask them, "Is marriage so great that you would recommend it?"
2007-03-22 09:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by truthyness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋