After being hurt so bad when he left? If they really did make the changes that made you so unhappy? Did it work out?
2007-03-22 05:27:25 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I haven't, but a friend of mine did, and she said, "Then I made my second mistake, marrying the same fool TWICE!"
My cousin however, remarried her husband, and they stayed together after that, and still are, years later.
But if betrayal, like cheating happened, I'm not sure I'd try it again. I'm divorced, and remarried, and I gotta tell ya, if I couldn't live with them the first time around, why should I think I could live with them the second time around? People don't change THAT much!
2007-03-22 05:31:20 · answer #1 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes I did, but I kicked him out cause he was cheating on me. I let him talk me into coming back said he loved me & this wud stop. Plus we had 2 boys. Well he did change for awhile I guess but then I found out he was doing it again. So no it didn't work out. Guess it depends on y he left u? But most people don't just change over night, it really takes yrs to do so if ever. I know i'm not the same person, when I look back on when I took him back and the thing's he did to me, I wud never give anyone a second chance to hurt me that way.....
Good Luck......
2007-03-22 12:40:08 · answer #2 · answered by cindy j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I tried 3 times and each time it was a no go. Things would be great for a little while and next thing you know the old troubles start to seep back in. If you truly want to make the relationship to work try doing some counseling together and see if you disputes are workable. Who know maybe this is your true love and you just have to work out the ruff spots. Good Luck hope it works out for you.
2007-03-22 12:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by mellow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he really make the changes? Temporarily or permanently? And why - just to get you back or because he realized he really wanted to change? Only you can know what to do. Trust your gut feeling. The very first impression is 99% accurate! Trying to fix a marriage is admirable. There are way too many people out there that don't think it's a big deal to get a divorce. But God thinks it's a big deal. And ultimately, it's your relationship with God that suffers when you aren't true to yourself. God does forgive. You should too. But only if it's for real! Listen with your heart and pray about it! Good luck and may God bless you and keep you close and safe.
2007-03-22 12:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by lmdonhowe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leana, very difficult to go back and expect all is going to be a bed of roses. In my case it did not work out, however, maybe you man did make the changes. If you have not "forgiven" him then it likely will not work out. I wish you the best in whatever decision you make. I know what it is like to be torn/obviously you still are in love but....you could be setting yourself up to experience the same pain you felt when your ex left. Like pouring salt on an open wound.
2007-03-22 12:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by sunset 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, actually. Not me, but a woman I know. If was a lot of hard work, but they both realized they couldn't live without each other and were both willing to go to counseling and do what it took to work it out. They are still married (this was years ago) and are happy. You have to be really careful, though. BOTH people have to have the same level of commitment and it has to be higher than it was before (obviously) or it won't work out again. It's dangerous, but it can be done.
2007-03-22 12:38:57 · answer #6 · answered by ralomi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, Pam Andersen went back to Kid Rock. Elizabeth Taylor married Richard Burton twice.
Stupidity. I think you have issues.
Show me a messed up relationship, and I'll show you TWO messed up people who got together because they were messed up. If you want him back, you are still messed up. It's that simple.
2007-03-22 12:42:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would anyone want to get hit by the train - survive - and then stand in front of it again hoping for a different result?
2007-03-22 12:31:37 · answer #8 · answered by Devdude 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my brother and his ex wife just got remarried and the second time around was the charm for them they live apart for a few years and when they both had time to grow they became reconnected and they are the two most happiest people i know :)
2007-03-22 12:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by notyochic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Know way, not a glutton for punisment, thank you.
I always say "keep going forward, never look back".
2007-03-22 12:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋