If a man tells you he doesn't initiate sex because he is intimidated by you, could that really be true? That makes absolutely no sense to me. Maybe insecurity on his part? Any thoughts?
2007-03-22 05:22:50 · 21 answers · asked by Lotus 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, I'm not overweight. 5'3", 114 pounds. I'm very fit and work out 4-5 days a week.
2007-03-22 05:30:10 · update #1
It could be true, but insecurity is a more likely answer.
2007-03-22 05:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose it is possible, but yes, he does sound insecure, however it is possible that he is a virgin and is unsure about how to start things. It is also possible that at some point he has tried ot initiate sex and gotten in trouble for it and now he is shy about trying it again. If you have had sex with him before and he is still afraid to initiate it, maybe he is getting some mixed signals from you about whether you want to or not. Best thing to do is talk to him about it, make it clear how you feel on the subject and be willing to listen to why he acts this way.
2007-03-22 12:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, Green Eyes, it could be true. But such a level of insecurity is kind of an issue, isn't it? So initiate the sex yourself and see if he comes around. But keep in the back of your mind the thought that this guy has already manifested one serious shortcoming, and there may be more looming on the horizon. Issues come in pairs, or threes, or messy buckets! But give the guy credit. Maybe he is just shy and inexperienced. Watch him though!!!
2007-03-22 12:32:33 · answer #3 · answered by John Timothy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex told me that a man once said this to her before. She's an attractive woman that really enjoys sex and is good at it. She and this man had talked a bit about sex, and that's when he made the comment to her. Could it be that this is your scenario too? Have you and this man talked about sex and maybe between these talks and your good looks he's afraid he can't keep up, or may be overly excited the first time and embarrass himself. If you want to, why don't you initiate it the first time, and then maybe he will take the driver's seat the next time.
2007-03-22 12:42:24 · answer #4 · answered by Dino 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sexual experience can be intimidating to someone who is not very experienced.
Pump up his ego a little bit and tell him how good he is and how much you enjoy being with him and eventually he will come around and not be so intimidated.
2007-03-22 12:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I could be true for a shy person who may not have confidence in his sexual ability. Maybe he isnt sure he can effectively please you. I could also be as you said an insecurity problem in general. I would think if it was a good match sexually that this impasse would fade over time.
2007-03-22 12:29:35 · answer #6 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you intimidate men for whatever reason. There is nothing wrong with seducing them. He might want an aggressive woman.
2007-03-22 12:28:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When men don't initiate sex it is because they don't like being rejected. Well, either that or your breath smells like a sack full of buttholes.
2007-03-22 12:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by Disco Mudda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is tired of you saying no all the time.
He takes that as being rejected by you.
After awhile he just waits for you to let him know when you want it. That's better than being told no and being rejected.
2007-03-22 12:33:44 · answer #9 · answered by Tarro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been turned down before, its not a good feeling! But, I have also turned down the offer from a woman also...it depends on how strong he is mentally!
good luck!
2007-03-22 12:30:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋