my finace and i used to have lots of sex. then it stop..now im lucky its once a month. is it stress? is she unattracted to me
?even if it has been a while... when i try to start something.. she says stop..does she not want sex from me? is that it?
2007-03-22 05:18:21 · 9 answers · asked by country4skot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have been together a yr.
2007-03-22 05:25:13 · update #1
i often feel that i have to compete with her past ... with past boyfriends.she isnt romantic,she doesnt like to b mushy.she seldoms snuggles with me in bed when we are in bed. she doesnt like to b touch while she is sleeping.
2007-03-22 06:06:38 · update #2
she always wants to just sit and watch tv together or do house works together.i wood like to have a bath or shower with her at 3 times aweek...she thinks i am smothering her.she works 12 days in the month ... 3 days a week. 12 hrs shifts
i take the kids to school or pre k. i feed bath them. 3 kids. i clean cook... the prfect "hubby". and still i cant get any.....?what is wrong that i am doing?
2007-03-22 06:30:05 · update #3
Brush your teeth, clip your nails, wear a clean shirt, shave, buy flowers, wash the dishes...then you can get some.
Good luck
2007-03-22 05:22:40 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems that there may be a problem she perceives that does not involve sex at all. It could be that you have done something to offend her-such as not helping her when you should or saying something that was insensitive that may have hurt her. It is little things that take away from the feelings of romance and attraction that affect the female more than the male. You need to talk with her and ask her what you can do to make things right again. At least you may find out what the real problem is. It has nothing to do with your performance or your physical attractiveness. Sex is largely, in the mind for the female.
2007-03-22 12:28:01 · answer #2 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You failed to mention how long you two have been together.. Young man and I'll assume you are about 22 more are less if older it cool. But what you two are doing is called back in the day or old school term Courting one another. which is to say you are testing each other for a long term relationship (marriage). Neither marriage or sex is considered love But love is having the ability to respond to each others needs (responsibility) putting the other first and so on. But you two have giving all your goodies to each other first and now that she has eaten of your fruit she is bored Not saying that your boring but that she may be that kind of person. she gets turned off after having apples for a year. now she desires oranges. Perhaps! But nevertheless courting is finding out if this one is the one for you, and she may not be marriage material So with that said we people tend to make a great mistake we jump into relations penis first heart next fully committing ourselves to a fall. But lucky for you you are not married . dust yourself and learn from this. Stop thinking "I love Her" that is the feeling part of a relationship she is not responsible.
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But of course I dont know the whole story.
2007-03-22 12:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by cHeAp_ShOt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I used to have lots of sex too. I kinda stopped wanting to after a while. I think it was because of the fights we had. Sex for me and a lot of women is mental. If there are problems-it is just hard to get into. I am still very attracted to him-that has never changed. I was not attracted to the fights. Also, another problem was the routine. He got lazy-he did not make an effort. I am never gonna be into lets just take our clothes off and do it! I like the foreplay-the chase-I want to feel like he really wants me. He used to be very sweet-and he put a lot of effort into getting with me. So, one thing I have come up with that forces more foreplay and anticipation is role play. It has a somewhat of a story line and it keeps things from happening too fast. I always get really into it! Change up your approach-be nice and sweet-pretend like you just met her and are trying to get some? Just don't complain a lot because that just makes it worse. If you can stand it-wait for her to approach you for it! Hope this helps-I really don't know your situation.
2007-03-22 12:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by orangecat43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her cause if you are having sex problems before marriage wait til about 3 or 4 years from now you will be lucky to get it at all. Yeah you should dump her and go out and find some freak in the sheets....or stay with her and still find a freak in the sheets
2007-03-22 12:24:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
time to move on and find someone else. If she doens't care enough about your needs to even try and suck it up a few times a week, she doesn't love you and your just punishing yourself by staying there.
2007-03-22 12:50:25 · answer #6 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be he is attracted to other things like kissing,hugging etc
2007-03-22 12:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
:) you have lost something precious
ur love
go get it back tiger
2007-03-22 12:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by xrudylimx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh....that's easy....she's getting sex elsewhere.
2007-03-22 12:25:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋