I recently got a better job offer and moved to Durham NC. If anyone is from here, you have a beautiful state. Well, every since I got here, I have been hit on constantly by white men. I expected Opie and Andy Taylor when I got here. But I see professional men and these strapping farm boys. They have such a sweet, sensual way of talking. Their approach to a woman is beautiful. I have seen more black women with white men than I have seen in my life. And by looking at them, my goodness, I can truelly understand. I am slipping. I am a newlywed and please give me all the reasons you can think of, enough to make me feel guilty, why I should not top off this caramel with some vanilla?
2007-03-22 05:18:06 · 41 answers · asked by 2fine4u 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
as a true blooded southern boy born and bread in the south i can positively say us whit men just wanna bang ya...ya know bone ya like we own ya...without owning ya....hey but you ought to try it white men love to go down on a woman,,,so im sure you will love that.eva had that popo ate????i mean really eaten youll love it...heheheheheh makes ya wanna just grab it and massage it dont it.... GET THEM HANDS OFF THAT POPO... let us white boys do it for ya...
2007-03-22 05:25:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Girlfriend, reading your statement makes me wonder why you got married in the first place. I also get the opinion that if it was fine chocolate around you would find a reason to go for that too. I'm not judging you, I just think you need to consider who you are, where you are and what you want. If vanilla is irresistible, then go for it. But know what you are giving up, even if your husband doesn't catch you, you'll be violating the sanctity of your marriage vows and you will know what you did. Your marriage will never be the same after that. So, it's up to you, do what you want. Also think about how you might feel if you come across a statement from a man on this forum describing himself in familiar terms that sound exactly like your husband, only he's talking about that vanilla in female form and needing someone to help him get a grip. Be strong. Stay away from forbidden sweets.
2007-03-22 05:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by sustasue 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Girl u silly. I am stationed in Ft Bragg, NC and maybe i see good lookin men all the time i never compare them to your man. This more of your man to compare a man you dont even know, but find attractive. Just cuz a man talk to you nice doesnt mean he would keep on being nice to you if you was newlywed with you. Now it does make me feel like you dont care of your man much now. If other men make you tempted and make you doubt your marriage then i think you ran to altar too fast. Sorry there is really no way to work this out. Whether you work on your temptations or you leave your man for those other men. Oh and by the way race is not an issue. I personally always been colorblind so dates within and out of my race all the time. I seen pieces of **** and good men among any race.
2007-03-22 05:38:21 · answer #3 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are a little too full of yourself. You are in your early thirties and have a son but yet your talking about other men when your married, somethings really wrong there! By what i am hearing you say i do not think you deserve your husband he deserves better. Why the hell did you guys get married then your a newlywed and still thinking about other men. ha come on your in your early thirties but sad thing is you need to grow up ALOT.
2007-03-22 13:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can give you the best 2 words that you said recently.
I DO !
And then you became as one !
Don't be fooled by a few good looking guys , if they them
self's were any good , they would not be trying to pick
up a Married woman , remember if you stray with one
of thees types , if they were willing to try to pick you up
when you were married , well they will surely be doing the
same when they are involved or married to you.
So sit back and enjoy the ride marriage is not the end
of the world it is just the beginning of a hole new chapter
in your life ! Good luck hoped this helped.
PS. Thoe if you are not happy and things are wrong
by all means don't stay, for that in its self would be a tragedy.
2007-03-22 05:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by RONBO 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your profile says u are mostly single???? Now I see why.
No one can tell u to feel guilty.
I am not going to judge u but try to limit the lives u may destroy with yr behaviour.
There was a 3 legged dog who went into a Durham NC bar looking for the man who shot his PAW!
2007-03-25 13:16:35 · answer #6 · answered by front door 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are married and more than likely took effectively an oath to be true to your husband should be enough.
If you are continually having thoughts of being with other men, your bond with your husband isn't strong enough. Either get counseling or get a divorce, don't dishonor yourself, your husband or your vows by doing what you already know isn't right.
2007-03-22 10:02:25 · answer #7 · answered by Black Dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Main reason to keep you faithful is simplu your love for your husband. If you love him that much, you wouldnt do anything to break his heart. You wouldnt replace him for another one sweet guy you dont know that much. You married him therefore you share a commitment with him..that is to love him and be with him for better or for worse. Love is not only about physical apperance. Love comes out when everything doesnt seem to go your way. Your husband will always be a part of your life so dont waste a wonderful relationship
2007-03-22 05:24:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Apparently you don't love your husband otherwise you wouldn't be considering the attention you get from FINE guys. It seems you didn't get the attention from where you came from. 2 fine for you? What will happen when he gets FINE women hit on him? Will he begin debating the same thing you are now? Physical beauty fades, true spiritual beauty stays. Your too superficial and immature. There will always be men hitting on you, wait till your wrinkled and old and see if your husband begins looking at young fine things. You will understand it was all about commitment and respect in the marriage when its too late....
2007-03-22 05:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by Charisma 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You probably need to concentrate your thoughts on your husband because you took a vow to be with him only until one of you dies. If that is not enough to make you feel guilty, one night of pleasure might get you a lifetime of problems like STD's. Cheating should not be a option no matter how attractive you might find someone. You have a husband!
2007-03-22 05:25:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you just got married, it's normal that you are feeling a bit mesmerised by other men. But leave it alone, just be friendly with them and faithful to your husband. After a while, the feeling should leave.
Kristine
2007-03-22 05:21:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋