Why don't most teens consider older, lonely people when they make out or talk about their sex lives in public?

Question

I find it very ignorant that couples (especially teen couples) show off in public of proving(why?)how cool they are by kissing and talking about their sex lives in public amongst lonely people that are twentysomething and especially older than that. The lonely people haven't had a boyfriend or girlfriend for a long time, have seldom or never have had one or the other, and have rarely had or never had sex in their lives. I know that lonely people like me when witnessing couples like this sometimes feel like killing, lecturing, and mocking them in public. It's fair enough if they just want to smooch every now and then - making it discreet in public, BUT COME ON! I see some couples all over each other in public! TO COUPLES: Do MOST of your fondling and smooching in private! Don't over blab about your sex lives either! Some lonely people would feel way too jealous and insecure about their own love/sex lives otherwise. What do the rest of the people (lonely and paired off) feel about this?

Answer 1

I agree with you that it's inappropriate to talk about sex or show a PDA (public display of affection) when theres a bunch of other people around,but that's life there are all sorts of things people do that I don't approve of,I just try not to let it affect me.Did you re-read what you wrote? That you sometimes feel like"killing" when you witness these acts in public?Do you think that is a normal emotion to feel over someone Else's display of affection for another?Because it's not,and if you really feel that way you need to get help,for yourself and the possible love birds that you may encounter along the way,who innocently kiss in front of you and don't know their lives are at risk.Don't take your deep seated emotional problems out on the world,but instead address them please.

Answer 2

Why are you listening to other peoples conversations? If two people are having a conversation about their sex life then why not walk away, stop listening and mind your own business. I agree that some people are a bit over the top with their public shows of affection but you know what I do when I see something I don't like, I look away. If it really bothers you that much don't look at them this is more your peoblem than anybody elses. My fiance kisses me at the train station before he leaves for work and I take my kid to school and if anybody said anything to us I would tell them to mind their own business. You might wanna get some help for you anger feeling like killing people isn't a good thing.

Answer 3

I'm one of those older (42) people, single for 5 years. I don't get jealous at all because I know why those couples are together and it's just a temporary thing. Besides, it's not all that special or out of the ordinary to have sex. I actually feel kind of sorry for the ones who are all over each other in public.

Answer 4

You could walk by them and spill a coke on them. "oh so sorry" Of course they might turn on you and beat you almost to death. And they would perhaps be in the right in the eyes of the law. The sex in public isn't the only irritation out there. Its best to just look away. We have been put in the position of acting like the Germans had to when Hitler was persecuting the Jews. I do hope you can make the connection. Do nothing and all will be well, sweep it under the rug.

Answer 5

I think you need to get help. You have obvious anger issues and the "feel like killing, lecturing, mocking" line was what did it for me. I'm single too, but happy to live in a free society where I can choose to "smooch" someone in public if I want to.

Answer 6

In the US, it's usually just kids who do that and they are just going through a phase, it's a new toy for them. If you don't like it I would advise you not go to Europe where people of all ages are similarly demonstrative.

I'm not a doctor but I think I'm safe in saying that your reaction is not healthy and normal and you should tell a professional about these feelings you are having.

Getting a boyfriend or girlfriend will not solve this for you.

Answer 7

I am paired off but not lonely. I am ok with hearing and seeing people who are in relationships...on the other hand, I do not like to see people all over each other in public. It makes me uncomfortable to be with people who are fondling constantly.

Answer 8

I don't think a couple should be discouraged from kissing in public just because someone who is single might be bothered by it!

That is like saying, "no one should drive a car because someone who can't afford one might be bothered", or "no one should take their kids out in public because someone who is unable to conceive might be bothered" You can't live your life always worried that your happiness is going to be offensive to someone less happy than yourself!

When I was single, I was never bothered by teen aged "romance" in the malls because (most of the time) it isn't REAL. It's just puppy love.

Answer 9

wow this is really sad and pathetic if you ask me. Why do you care so much about others...you should focus on yourself and the help you need to get for yourself...have you thought maybe thats why your lonely...cuz ur just a little bit on the psycho side...just putting it out there b/c if your really gonna let other people being happy you need a life

Answer 10

In my experience as the mother of a teenage son, teens tend to be very shocking and use sexuality to shock mature people. I don't believe that they know that you might be single or lonely or whatever, so please don't personalize it to that extent.

I was very shocking as a teen, and still am to some extent. Teens don't have that internal control to stop and think about the overall consequences of their viewed behavior.

But I love them anyways.