I recently got married and I love my wife with all my heart. So far everything has worked out in our favor, but there is this one thing that is hanging mostly over my new wife's head. My ex-wife. Now, I dont talk to my ex-wife, unless I really really really have to about my kids. the problem is that my ex-wife lives in my mother's house 1500 miles away. Its a long story, but she ended up living with them and my kids. They obviously get along good. It hurts me to think what my lovely new wife must think about this. I know for a fact it bothers her alot, and I just want to know what we can do to get over this stage in our marriage. Please any suggestions might help.
2007-03-22 05:14:06 · 6 answers · asked by D C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My kids love my new wife and she loves the ALOT also. And no, my ex does not bring new partners to my parent's house. (that I know of)
2007-03-22 05:56:54 · update #1
I feel for your new wife and am definitely on her side....We all have some strange things in our lives and your ex living with your parents definitely ranks up there....What is going to happen when you go to visit your parents? Where is your ex going to be?..
You sound like a very intelligent man and therefore I think that you should give a great deal of thought as to a solution instead of how to cope with it.....
One big thing here that is not mentioned on your part is how your children are handling this and they are very important...So, I would suggest that you put your mind to it and see that your ex finds a new living space...By the way ..does she bring her partners in to your parents home and around your children??
Good luck to you and keep your new wife" top" in your life...
2007-03-22 05:51:30 · answer #1 · answered by foxygirl29303 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally speaking, I always looked at my husband's ex-wife which he spent 13 years with as the mother of his children, and someone he'd have to have contact with for a very long time. Not to mention, she'd been in his family for so long, why should I expect his family not to still be close to her? She was there so long! Whatever happened between the two of them before me, was before me. Once they divorced, and we hooked up, their lives together as a couple was over, but they still have children, and family members that love them both. Just assure your new wife of your love for her. She has to understand that the divorce was between you and the ex. Not between the ex and your mother. However, I will say, it's a bit odd to know they're living all together. It'd probably sit funny with me, but only for a second, and I'd be like..."whatever"! Your marriage is between you and your wife, and all that other stuff is just stuff.
2007-03-22 12:44:05 · answer #2 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ex-wife will always be in your life. You have children together and therefore whether you or your new wife like it you have a life long bond with her. Your new wife needs to understand that she is the mother of your children and nothing else and although you need to maintain somewhat of a friendly relationship with your ex, that is all it is.
2007-03-22 12:20:45 · answer #3 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her you really do love her and have a talk with your mother about the ex living with her. i would tell that ***** to go live with her own mother. and if the only reason your mother is letting her stay is for the kids then the ex should not even have the kids and you should, that way she doesn't need to live there. if she cant support herself how can she support your kids? just think about it.
2007-03-22 12:43:16 · answer #4 · answered by Geri B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds terrible, but unless the situation with your ex is going to change, then there's really nothing that can be done. You and your wife are just going to have to find a way to accept it.
Sorry... but good luck!
2007-03-22 12:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by doggiemom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will make it better.
2007-03-22 12:27:28 · answer #6 · answered by Stitch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋