I have been with my husband for 13 yrs we have 3 kids together. about 7 yrs ago we got divorced and were apart for a year and then got back together. He has never forgivin me for cheating on him 1 time . I have taken full resposibillity for messing up and he cant seem to heal his heart. we have been back together now for 6 1/2 years and we are trying to move past this but he is having a really hard time. I even told him I would move out so he could figure out what he wanted. please pray for him and our marriage. thanks
2007-03-22 05:07:24 · 27 answers · asked by mikentammy76 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Heavenly Father I come you in the name of Jesus. You are our Daddy. Thank you for dying on the cross and forgiving us of our sins. Thank you for washing us clean. Making us white as snow so that we can come to you boldly. Lord, you know this woman's heart. You have seen her. You have watched her. Lord, I lift her up to you and I ask for you to heal her mind, soul and spirit.....Reveal to her that You have forgiven her. Open her eyes to see you and to see herself as you do....A beloved daughter. A Bride of Christ. Lord, we all have fallen short and caused pain to others...I ask you to move on her husbands heart so that he can move towards full forgiveness and that He no longer has a heart of bitterness.....Allow your blood to flow over him so that he Knows what real forgiveness is so that He is a man of forgiveness. A man full of Your love because Your love for him is a Reality. Thank You Daddy for going before me and Delivering this marriage from the trappings of the enemy. Send forth your harvesting Angels and Harvest this marriage for your Glory Alone. I love you. Amen.
Now you sit back and Wait......It's coming....
2007-03-22 05:21:16 · answer #1 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hon, this is the Marriage and Divorce section. You can talk about your problems, and ask for prayer here.
I will pray for you, your marriage, and your husband.
Even so, you might want to seek some counseling--for yourself and children--if the spouse won't go.
Trust lost is not easily regained. Particularly with men, because their male status has been battered. it's a big deal to men to be able to keep the home fires burning: financially, intimately, and in the family.
To get trust, you have to do little. To regain trust, it will take much more. And your husband has to deal with those darker baser emotions (sorry): betrayal, anger, mistrust, hurt, pain, regret, a sense of loss, misplaced trust, etc. He may even be dealing with the image of you with someone else, which may disrupt interpersonal time.
Other than getting help, yoou will have to take it one day at a time. And this time, you will have to be the patient, understanding one.
The suggestion to get Christian counseling is a good one.
Also, you received some great advice. Someone mentioned Marriage Today. There is Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage as well.
I hope that things work out for you two.
And I hope this helps.
2007-03-22 12:32:34 · answer #2 · answered by 1985 & going strong 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you already know yourself that you are sincerely sorry about that. It was a long time ago. I can understand any situation from the 3 points of view. I can try to understand your side, I can try to understand his side, and I can try to understand the truth. Either way, some people will never be able to let something like that go. If it gets to be too much you already know what you have to do. Sometimes the hardest things in life, aren´t easy. So either way, there WILL be plenty of hurt feelings from atleast 3 people. Anyway, good luck. And don´t listen to people say, once a cheater, always a cheater. EVERYBODY in the world has done something wrong, so they are probably not much to talk. Good luck. And honestly I do hope you two can work this out. Take care. Love and Respect.
2007-03-22 12:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by nassim420 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay. I will leave here right now and sincerely pray for your marriage to heal and for him to forgive you whole-heartedly.
Okay now. I prayed with all my heart and in agreement according to Matthew 12:13 and I believe that what the devil meant for harm will also turn toward the good. Do not let atheists insult you or hurt your faith. God is real and he is aware of your problem right now today, Honey. Keep believing and trusting in Him.
Show your husband that you love him in every way possible and always be there for him because while he can forgive we can't always forget. Read the lady's prayer below and say that with her. She knows the Holy Spirit as I witnessed Him in her spirit. Be loving and honest and give your husband time to trust you again. God is very aware of you today because you have stepped out in faith, believing and not caring what others may think. You will see these prayers manifested in his heart. Remember that God seems slow but He's always right on time. I love you. Peace.
2007-03-22 12:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have said a prayer for you and your husband. But, it seems to me that your husband needs to grow up and either get over it or get gone. How long is he going to hold this grudge against you? Yes, you were wrong for cheating. But, if he has chosen to forgive you and come back, he should just let it go. Are you going to spend the rest of your life letting him make you feel like you have done the most horrible thing in the world? Him putting this guilt on you can actually kill you if you let it. Stress is the main killer of most women today. Give him an ultimatum to forgive and let it go or to move around. If he was doing his job back then you wouldn't have never cheated. I'm not saying you were right for doing so. But, I think if he hasn't let this go in the past 7 years, he never will. Relieve some stress and tell this man you can't keep beating yourself up because he can't let something go that happened ages ago.
2007-03-22 12:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't move out. Take him to a marriage counselor were you both have the freedom to talk openly and honestly. Speak your mind, but make sure to reciprocate and listen with an open heart. I assume you're a believer in God if you're asking people to pray for your hubby. If so, then you should go see a pastor as well. There's a great website too that has a disscusion board for such issues at www.marriagebuilders.com It's free, check it out.
2007-03-22 12:14:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there. His ego and his trust and faith in your is broken you will have to give him time to heal. That is a very hard thing to work out. Try talking about the events that lead to it and maybe both of you can work it all out. Otherwise, after the children are grown, there may be no reason for him to stay.
2007-03-22 12:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by mothergoose 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cheat on him and then find God? Fair enough though you seem to admit your mistake and are trying to make it work. I'll pray for you tonight. I think God may be suprised seeing as I'm not religious and haven't prayed in 20 years but if it's important to you I'll do it.
2007-03-22 12:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by SR13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should be over it by now. Just spend as much time with him as you can and make sure when your not home that he knows where you are at all times. Call him even in the middle of errands to tell him you love him or you were just thinking about him.
2007-03-22 12:15:08 · answer #9 · answered by My two cents 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It says when two or three gather in his (Jesus') name there is he (Jesus) is in the midst. There are more than three online and we did gather to answer your question so that qualifies. So in the name of JESUS I pray for your marriage and your family Amen. Although we are online you made an open request I believe God will hear your prayer, feel your sincerity and honor your request. Bless you both.
Nicole
2007-03-22 12:37:09 · answer #10 · answered by awynter77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋