I'm not sure if anyone has read my previous question but right now I'm in a very verbally/emotionally abusive relationship and, recently, I've found out that he's also cheating on me. I want to separate for a bit and go visit my parents to see how I feel about things when it's not slammed in my face. I told him that and he cried and begged me not to go, then twisted my words around to make it seem like i said something that I didn't. My question is should I leave while he's at work or should I get a ticket for in a couple of days and let him know before hand? We have a one year old daughter between us and I would be taking her with me...
2007-03-22 05:03:48 · 14 answers · asked by Phae2007 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please leave unannouced a.s.a.p. You stated yourself he is abusive and is manipulating everything you try to tell him anyway. Get out for the good of you and your child. With distance will come clarity.
2007-03-22 05:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by Jena P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go while he is at work or he will abuse you as a last minute attempt to keep you there. take your daughter and all you can bring for an extended stay. Get out now while you only have 1 child. Pray that he falls in love with someone else because his abuse will get worse no matter what he promises you. Use your head and slip away without a single hint that you are leaving. You owe this to your daughter if no one else. Go ASAP and leave him for good. This life will Never change. Get out Now.
2007-03-22 05:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You need to get out of this situation asap. You should go ahead and get your ducks in a row and get packed, and NOT return. Do this while he's at work. Of course he's going to beg you not to go. This man is dangerous and thinks he can do and get away with anything. It's time for you and your daughter to have a better life and one that's safe. Don't leave any traces behind and make copies of all important documents that you can that you have. Licencse, birth certs, bank account info, credit card info, mortgage, everything. Consider shelters where your parents live which you can find that out when you get there if you need to. You'll have to think on your feet and be clever about it. It's going to be alright if you tak these steps.Trust me.
2007-03-22 05:16:37 · answer #3 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that he'll try and stop you, are yell at you, then just leave. Don't give him a chance to confuse you. leave a long detailed note about why you need a break. Tell him you are not leaving for good, you just need time think through somethings. In the letter Explain to him how you feel. Don't tell him what he's doing wrong, just tell him when you do this, it makes me feel like this. This way you are owning just your feelings, in reality he can't argue with that. Tell him if he wants to contact you to write you. You can not and will not get into an argument with him while your are away.
2007-03-22 05:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by his.grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave while he's at work, you already told him what you was thinking of doing,, DON"T tell him any more just go .
If you tell him when your going it might get nasty so just go.
The crying and begging is because he knows he is losing, the twisting your word is control.
Save yourself a lot of bull-**** and just go and think thing's out before you start thinking theirs no way out.
Good luck and good plan.
2007-03-22 05:25:14 · answer #5 · answered by ღ♥ஐcookie1ஐ♥ღ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO NOW AND LEAVE A NOTE, THAT IN ITSELF IS TOO GOOD, BUT HE SHOULDN'T WORRY ABOUT THE BABY.
HE DOES NOT RESPECT YOU AND IS A MANIPULATOR, HE IS ABUSIVE.
WHY WOULD YOU HAVE TO THINK ABOUT IT.
YOU ARE SETTING YOURSELF UP FOR MORE OF THE SAME BEHAVIOUR IF YOU STAY IN THIS RELATIONSHIP.
CUT YOUR LOSSES AND GET OUT OF THIS FARCICAL PARTNERSHIP......
IF YOU THINK THIS IS ALL HE CAN DISH OUT TO YOU, YOU CARE BEING NAIVE... THERE IS MUCH MORE OF THE SAME AND WORSE TO COME.
YOU ARE STILL ALIVE, AND INTACT (I HOPE)... RUN AND DON'T LOOK BACK.
GOT TO YOUR PARENTS AND PLAN TO STAY UNTIL YOU GET ON YOUR FEET AND START A NEW LIFE.
THEY CAN HELP YOU .....
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT, EVEN THO HE TELLS YOU IT IS,,, HE IS CONNING YOU AND WILL CONTINUE TO DO SO. HE KNOWS YOU HAVE A CONSCIENCE AND WILL USE IT AGAINST YOU.
HE DOESN'T HAVE ONE...... AND NEVER WILL.
THE ABUSE STORY IS TRAGIC AND YOU CAN CHOOSE NOT TO BE A STATISTIC.
RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-22 05:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's always better to leave when there at work. You don't get to see them crying and you get ah chance to make a clean break. If this is what you want, do it, just go. Telling him beforehand may just encourage him to become physically abusive and you don't need that.
2007-03-22 05:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Emotional and verbal abuse is a very serious problem, especially if there is a child involved. You need to get out. Let him know you need some space, and if that backfires, just leave. Leave for a few days, leave for a few weeks. Just get outta the house and find help. If he doesn't see what harm he is causing you and potentially your child too, you don't need him.
2007-03-22 05:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by trikelkelley 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would suggest visiting your parents and writing him a little note before leaving...It will be easier for both of you...Your daughter shouldn't be in an environment like that...
2007-03-22 05:10:06 · answer #9 · answered by Alejandra2008 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave. Give him a day or two alone before you call him and explain. He needs to know that he cannot treat you badly and if he does, he risks losing you. Promise him that if you do came back and he ever mistreats you again, you will leave again and not come back. If he hits you-- ever-- call the police. Don't hesitate.
2007-03-22 05:10:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋