what is it when your miserable and have endured alot of hardship in your life, for whatever reason, and you?

Question

cant bear to see other people happy, or somebody grinning? and when you do see that it triggers feelings of anger and rage.
im 29 waiting for therapy, i dont have any friends or i have never been involved with any girls. i experience loneliness everyday. and i have problems with rage, low moods, social problems, discovering and maintaining relashionships .i put up barriers because ive been hurt in my life so much. i feel bitter and angry when i see someone happy and grinning from ear to ear, and it appears to come easy to them.
has anyone else ever felt shut out of society like this? and have anger and resentment at other people giggling, grinning and being happy?
why should i be happy, when i myself live a lonely, isolated life, battling with mental health problems? im physically ageing, i have nothin to feel happy about....then you see someone happy, revealing glistening gums, and wide smiles and grins.
it makes me frustrated and angry, clenching my teeth real tight

Answer 1

sounds like you are self centered, you feel like everyone else had a wonderful worry free live and you were handed a bag of rocks, but you are the only one who can make something out of your life. no one can make you happy, just like no one can make you sad and angry, we all have the choice. as long as you blame others for your situation you will never have the ability to change the way you live. you said you put up barriers so you won't get hurt, but the barriers are also keeping you from feeling joy, having friends and feeling happiness. this in turn is keeping you in the cycle of bitterness and anger, i sincerely hope you are able to find your self in all this and start to live in a way that you can feel some true joy. good luck!

Answer 2

I think you should go to church and meet people and live for Jesus people are not always happy on the inside but they can be at peace with there god.John 3 16 and 17. God makes the different.

Answer 3

i don't know what its called but i do know that walking around with a chip on your shoulder feeling sorry for yourself is no way to make it better

people who APPEAR to be living a more fulfilled life are probably just better at putting a mask on than you

pretend for a day that you are a happy and successful person and you might find that being happy is a lot easier than being miserable and you might do it more often
go on crack a grin

good luck

Answer 4

You keep coming on with the same sort of questions,
have you booked an appointment with the doctor yet?
I really do think you should.. Im not trying to say your mad or anything like that but i think if yo just went and talked to him/her and told them how you were feeling they would be able to help you feel better in yourself.
I hope the next question i read from you is alone the lines of that.

Answer 5

im so sorry for you misary but
Try to have a brighter outlook on things. Count your blessings. Go for a long walk and appreciate the world around you. Come out of yourself. Do something good for a charity. Even if it is giving some old clothes to Oxfam. There are hundreds of ways. I have just recovered from cancer, and I sure appreciate what there is out there.

Answer 6

I am presuming this is a serious question asked by someone who is telling the truth.

Your appointment with a mental health expert is overdue. I am surprised that your GP has not represented urgency in your case.

Be assured, you are not beyond the opportunity to get a better outlook on life and the medication, these days. is superior to the'old days' when a patient would just be taken to a safe institution to languish.

I wish you well and a happier, more restful life.

Answer 7

I love to see and make other people smile, despite having been close to death more times than I can count, being beaten as a child, being put in care by parents who beat and did not love me, and siblings, who followed suit and used me as a scapegoat.

Despite being beaten by a violent first husband and being left alone to raise five children of the marriage and despite losing a second marriage after 23 years to a younger female, and being made homeless as he left me for her and crashed mortgage.

Despite being run over by a lorry, in a bad car crash, and neither were my fault.

I could go on and on for hours about the awful stuff I've had inside my life, and the heartbreak I've endured, but I'm happy I'm alive because I've seen heaven... and I'm sane (which is a miracle itself) and I'm blessed to have had more miracles than i can count afforded me, to save me and repair me, and keep me and my six kids safe across the years.

I know we never die and life is but a test... and God, is in control, so never I never fear death.

I also know to throw the towel in on my life now or back inside those bad times, would be to chuck the most wonderous gift of all, LIFE... back into my makers face.

You WILL endure hardship, we all do in our lives, we all face loss and pain and injury and rejection in a lifetime, we are human, it is the human condition to suffer in these ways, because we have a weak and physical shell that hurts, and feels and bleeds.

We survive them and never give in to them, it makes our souls much wiser, much stronger and one day... when our time is right, we will all have the answers and the understanding as to why... and most of all, the blessing of our Father and only then will we go home and be happy in his care... and then, we can watch over all those other follk who suffer.

In the meantime... look around you, see the pain on other faces... smile and say hallo and open up their hearts and minds and make them smile as well.... use your pain and channel it into something good... overcome it and help someone who is much worse off than you.

There are millions of them out there... it's about caring more for them, than about ourselves.

That's the mark of God inside our lives!

Answer 8

You know.....a lot of people have had a very unhappy life but they seem to look on the bright side. You should be glad that you can eat/breath/drink see the sky/ocean etc. Why not change the direction of your life rather than dwell on things that have happened in the past. Their is always someone worse off than yourself.

Answer 9

It sounds like issues from your past have never been resolved and this in turn has turned to jealousness concerning those around you.
It's easy to wallow in self pity and resentment but it is just another way of hiding from the real issue. You need to be able to come to terms with the things that have happened to you (sorry to put it in such broad terms, but I don't know your past so don't know what it is you are dealing with) and then put them behind you. Cut the rope that ties you to them (cheesy I know but I couldn't think of another analogy)
You can't continue to resent a world which you set yourself apart from.

Answer 10

OK first of all dont become a dentist second do not keep any kind of firearm in the house. Thirdly go get the therapy i have a feeling you are not as tough as you think or you would not be on yahoo answers. So someone may well beat the shite oout of you