We are both in our early 30's and happily married, but I have a higher sex drive than my husband. He never seems interested in sex. I am very attractive and get plenty of attention from other men, but not from my own husband (which is what I want) He is not your typical walking hard-on man...even movies do nothing for him. Any ideas?
2007-03-22 04:57:28 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he has a physical thing going on and needs to see a doctor. I would try being very seductive and tempt him in the evenings first. If that doesn't work, he need to see a professional. There could be other issues at play here.
2007-03-22 05:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have the same issue as far as wanting it more than my husband. If he works long hours it is understandable why he would be tired and sex be the last thing on his mind, but he is a MALE. He has to want it some time or another! Maybe try bringing something into the bedroom, a toy or book? Or start early in the day through an email or note in his lunch with something sexy or provacative written on it, when he goes to leave give him a really sexy look and deep passionate kiss, maybe grab him and hold him close for a minute or rub up against him, if you have time to talk to him during the day keep up the heat either by talking sexy to him on the phone or sending him more texts or emails. By the time he gets home he will have anticipated it all day and hopefully will be rearing to go. Maybe try changing up the scenery too, instead of just in the bedroom try other parts of the house. Do things to him that you never have before, catch him off guard and it just might be enough to get his motor going!! Goodluck!
2016-03-17 00:41:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
None. You can't change him no matter what you do. WAIT!! Maybe you should ask your best doctor though about some Viagra or one of those prescription drugs for men. They should work on a low sex drive. That's a great idea if you can convince your husband he needs to do something before your marriage breaks up. Glad I thought of it. Because other than that, his lack of desire will only make you feel unattractive, lonely and dissatisfied. Call your doctor ASAP!!
2007-03-22 05:03:19 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Problem with a question like this is, every man is different. Foreplay can be an all-day event for some. No one knows your husband as well as you. Ask yourself, what does he like? or what is it that distracts him from me? Maybe he is burdened by too many responsibilities. It may be that you just need to get him away; go somewhere where he won't be distracted and check into a hotel.
2007-03-22 05:03:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Women reach their sexual peak in their 30's.... men on their 20's! So now, he feel confortable at home and seems content with the current bedroom situation.
My advice to you is to spice things up a bit to keep in interested. Men are fools for bjs, so start him up that way. Try to tease him outside the bedroom, and try to get him when he is not coming tired after work. Lunch quickies and mirning revendouz are prefect, men are easily aroused in the morning or during work hours.
Good luck
2007-03-22 05:06:28 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may have erectile dysfunction or some other medical condition that prevents him from becoming aroused. You may want to talk to him about it and see if he is willing to consult a doctor about it. Many men with this problem are embarassed by it and would rather not have sex then admit that they cant. I believe medicines like viagra even give a weeks free sample for you to try, get him some and see if it helps.
2007-03-22 05:01:56 · answer #6 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Typical walking hard-on man?
Judging by the amount of viagra spam mails I get, that's not typical at all! LOL.
Have you asked him?
There's a lot of missing information here. It's really hard to give advice without knowing the extent of the situation and his point of view too.
2007-03-22 05:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he may need some healthy living so he has more energy for such things in his life. Low energy can be the reason he seems to not want you. My spouse went through it and I have at times in our lives togther. We both take suppliments and eat healthy and stay active and now even in our forties and having been together for 13 yrs we still have a very active sex life.
2007-03-22 05:05:05 · answer #8 · answered by Dayla 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may be depressed or not happy with his body or the way he looks. You should talk to him about it and tell him what your needs are. If he is unwilling to listen to you suggest counseling. It sounds like something is going on with him mentally or physically because this is not normal for a man, most men would love for their wives to be like you.
2007-03-22 05:02:34 · answer #9 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it out with him. See if he's under alot of stress. Generally, women sexually peek in their 30's (higher sex drives) but men do their peeking in their 20's.
2007-03-22 05:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by trikelkelley 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋