I am in a great marriage on paper. He's a great support both emotionally and financially. We have two small children together and get along as friends. Our sex life is non-existant. There are more things about him that annoy me than interest me.
My ex and I have been talking again. This is the man that I feel I will always love. I left him though when we were together to try to get my life together. He and I had it really rough financially and I moved back home. He is currently in a relationship with his live-in girlfriend and they are expecting a baby.
My ex and I spent the afternoon together this week. We both still love each other very much.
Should I stay in my sex-less marriage because we have children, and are financial stabile? I don't have to work. If we split, I would have to find a job.
My heart is screaming for a deeper love and for my ex but my head is pushing me around saying that I would be silly to split up a good thing. HELP!
2007-03-22 04:36:30 · 11 answers · asked by elizabethrbarr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is rough but I have to said is that only you can figure it out depending on how you truly feel in side of your heart life is too short to live in a realship that you are un happy before you go please sit back think hard analy your thoughts together
If you love your ex do you think he love you enough to get back and work things out or if you love your husband and you are not getting long what you need is to sit back and talk about your problems which means before making the decision please think and be open mind don't hold anything back just talk to your husband and if you feel is no change than you do what going to make you happy think of your childred ok because they will hurt as well hey be open minded ok tell him what you feel and what you can or can't deal with to make it better .
2007-03-22 04:50:00 · answer #1 · answered by boricuasexy1210 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't love your husband ever!?! You said yourself you had it rough financially when you were with the ex, but you left anyway. If you truly loved him as deep as your saying, then you would of never left to begin with. You do have children involved, as does he having one on the way. Also there are other people involved as well. If you connect with your husband on every other level, maybe you should try to spice things up a bit, because your sex is what you make of it. You may even think of counseling to help re-kindle those feelings. I'll tell you this though......the grass is always greener on the other side. Look at what all is at stake and decide. In the meantime, cut off communication with the ex, it's just wrong. Good Luck!
2007-03-22 04:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by Green eyed girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want the truth? Stay where you are but make a few changes (if only by rearranging the furniture) to make it seem different. Your first love has changed now because we all do and you two are both bored and want to be free and younger again. His wife is pregnant so he wants sex too. After the baby is born he will think of things differently no matter what he says right now.
The advantages you enjoy far outweigh the chance of a successful relationship with a married man who has a pregnant wife. You may learn to love your husband again because he stands by you and provides such a good living and so much security for you and your children. I think you already know this and it's what you need and want. My opinion, based on many years of experience, is that you would be a fool to throw what you have away. Don't play around with it either. You don't want to hurt your husband and you don't need the guilt.
2007-03-22 04:55:34 · answer #3 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you, you are married and should not be putting yourself in the position that you did with your ex. You have children now, you HAVE to think about them. If you leave your husband and get a job, the kids will be raised by someone else in day care. Do you really want to sacrifice your relationship with your young children for a lust. You would not only be causing a rift in your own childrens life, but you would be splitting up another family (your ex, gf, & new baby.)
2007-03-22 04:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already cheating on your current husband. The damage has already been done by you talking/meeting with your ex. Does your current husband know this ? You know the saying, the person who puts their hand to the plow and looks back is not fit for the kingdom,, Talk to your husband, tell him your feelings, in a nice way. But you need to tell him about your ex,not in a threatening way. The grass is not always greener, especially on the old pasture,,,
2007-03-22 04:45:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this feeling its very painful so try 2 b so honest with urself and get the divorce from your husband and start a new life clean life and b good mother to your children and try 2 find work cause this will open new life 4 u and forget your ex he will hurt u so much if u continue in this disturbance in ur life
2007-03-22 04:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by catroza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP talking to your ex. You gave a vow to your husband. Work on your marrital issues and bring passion into your current marriage. Have you already forgotten why you and your ex divorced? Get your act together before you loose your good man. Go see a marriage counselor. STOP talking to your ex.
2007-03-22 04:46:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u need to think........ money isn't always everything, and u'r kids cant be an excuse!!..... So listen to u'r heart Not u'r body or u'r mind........ if the sex was in the recent relationship would u go look for someone else?........ ask u'r self that question
2007-03-22 04:43:03 · answer #8 · answered by •°♥Ms. SeXy♥°• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and him (the ex) seem not to worry about his gf and the baby she is carrying or your kids so go for it and i hope you both get what you have coming to you . good luck
2007-03-22 04:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by bluemist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea that's right just think of yourself because to you nobody else's feeling matter.
Your married for heavens sake. Make it work.
2007-03-22 04:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by Valentina 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋