I'm talking like a problem or issue that may be has been ignored or buried for years. Something that you know has always been ther but for whatever reason your brain decides to rehash it out today. Then you are left wondering where in the h*ll did that come from? Ex. I feel madly in love at 15 to a guy that was 21 and that was 14 years ago we dated for a year and a half and he found out that he had Hepatitis C (we never had sex) so he let me go.( If your guys have ever seen the movie The Notebook you can understand how I felt about him.)Now we are both married and miserable with our spouses ( for various legitimet reasons) and we both have children. I spent the last 10 yrs trying to bury his memory, but my brain keeps purdging it back up. I have woke up in Nightmares that involve him every morning for the past several days and I have no idea what to do ..or why this is happening. How do I make this all stop?
2007-03-22 04:31:54 · 6 answers · asked by Destiny 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Most thought takes place outside of conscious awareness. If you haven't put this matter to rest, haven't resolved it, your brain will continue to struggle with it. That means that when you go to sleep, if these feelings are still active, they will associate with images of him in a dream sequence. This is how it works.
You can make this stop by consciously working through your feelings. I encourage you to make a long list of why it was a good thing the two of you never get married. Maybe your current spouses were mistakes, but very likely he wouldn't have worked out, either. When you accept that, the nightmares will stop.
I had the same problem with my high school sweetheart. We went to separate universities and he just stopped communicating. It remained unfinished business for me for a long time. I probably had 100 unwanted dreams about this relationship. What worked was consciously acknowledging why we were a bad match. There were a number of reasons, I just hadn't laid them out before and realized the truth. I now can see this once intense relationship in its proper perspective...and no more dreams!
2007-03-22 04:58:15 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
put it back in the filling cabin there nothing you can do about the return member, unless you can help someone Else in the same satin.went you have time to think ,,we think, its not all bad .when i wake up like that i think about it for a while how could i have made it different. my mother had a saying where threes a will there a way, i was just thinking about this guy i fell madly in love with him I meet him in a bar.I dance with him broth him home never had sex with him,as son as i quit going to the bar i didn't see him any more one day i new i would never see him again.I swore my heart crate into.marriage is for ever ,that love you felt for that guy was problem Not a true picture off him. look at my love what was that man to me a dance better yet what was i to him, how come i got away.I think its the dvel trying to brake up your marriage. i have been marriage and divorce and had 5 kids to raise by my shelf it not ease. 2 end up in person the Grails is OK but a man make the different. when you get divorce you open your kids up to the world .
2007-03-22 05:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you’re probably preparing yourself for the realization that your marriage is unhappy. Your mind is bringing you back to a time where you felt ultimate love. How wonderful that a guy thought about your needs before his own at such a young age. That is a powerful message when we have to deal with the every day criticism of our mates. When your current husband makes you feel unwanted it is very natural that your mind will work its way back to a time when you did feel that very emotion that you seem to need right now in your life. Talk to your husband. Be honest with him. Let him in on how you’re feeling. I bet if I told you that it’s really your husband that you want that kind of love from you’d question my answer. In the end you’ll find that we end up with the people in our lives for a reason. Having been married for many years, some of them not so grand, I can tell you that marriage is all about falling in love all over again. My guess? Your husband is feeling very much like you are.
2007-03-22 04:59:45 · answer #3 · answered by Reba 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Does he like you now?if not,it's time to move on and forget about him.if you start over,it might end in heartbreak again.Remember he ended the relationship last time on a lame excuse i think you'd be better off without him.your nightmare might have stemmed from your longing for him.Try to patch up your relationship with your husband for your children's sake.There might be unresolve issues with your ex because you keep thinking about him.i suggest you solve the issue and move on.good luck!
2007-03-22 05:02:28 · answer #4 · answered by aMUSEd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
looks such as you have the what if syndrome, your depressing now so which you think of it is your fault because of fact in case you may of made a distinctive determination back then to stay with him you will possibly not be depressing on your relationship now. the certainty is that in case you may of stayed with that guy extremely, you 2 could be depressing right this moment. you're saying you have little ones, I advise couples scientific care,and in case you could desire to get divorced do not bypass back to the previous you in basic terms might repeat the present.
2016-11-27 22:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by shawn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
REMEMBERING YOUR FOND MEMORIES ARE WONDERFUL BUT LOOK WHAT THAT GOT YOU ! HE MISERABLE AND SO A RE YOU BUT DO NOT ACT ON THIS BECAUSE HE LEFT YOU ONCE DO NOT SET YOURSELF UP FOR ANOTHER DISAPPPOINTMENT
2007-03-22 04:42:13 · answer #6 · answered by 2003bf 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋