IF you were in a loving relationship with a man who would do anything for you and is always there sexually to meet you needs and be romantic ( flowers, candles in the bedroom , love notes ) . I am a man and have been told that I am good looking ( I think I am average I am 43 years old) I do all of the things I mentioned for my girlfriend of a year and a half . I do them because I love her more than anything on this earth and she appreciates it and says that she loves me the same way my problem is that I am worried that someone would come along and take her away away from me .she has not done anything like that to me before and she said that she never would because I fill all her needs . We talked of my insecurity several times before and she understands because she has insecurities 2 .l she says I treat her like her dad treated her mom and she loved her dad dearly . I have an engagement ring I have not given to her yet until I can work this out in my head . want this to work
2007-03-22 04:25:52 · 29 answers · asked by el diablo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess that my worries are magnified because in the beginning of our relationship she confesst to having an affair with her now exhusband . She was married to him for 16 years and she was extremly unhappy because he was always distant and controlling with her and never liked to express emotion , She says that she wanted to feel desired again and to feel loved . I know this to be true because I have grown close to her young children and they are also having this type of problem with him . I know that is no excuse and I am nothing like him but I am worried . I don't want to look like a fool
2007-03-22 06:10:31 · update #1
Go for it, ask her to marry you, it sounds like a good match. I think we all have those fears of getting hurt. I fear it everyday, as I keep thinking if my husband is as beautiful to me to everyone else someone more attractive than me could sweep him off his feet. He tells me I am silly for worring as he loves me. There are people that would come on to your woman, you have to trust her and believe she is the one, and you are one for her. Best Wishes.
2007-03-22 04:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by Maria A. 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would never cheat on a man I was in a commited relationship with. Cheating is juvenile and stupid. If you are everything she wants and needs then I can't imgaine that she would ever dream of cheating on you!! There are good women in this world just like there are good men. Don't be soo worried just follow you heart, sometimes we get hurt when we love, BUT if we don't love then we are miserable. You have to take the chance or you'll never know what might have been!
2007-03-22 04:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by suzyalexisandgabe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every relationship has some insecurities, BUT, if she says that she loves you and hasn't given you any reason to not trust her, then you are just making life stressful without cause. We have all heard that there are no guarantees in this life. You have to take that chance if you ever want to be completely happy. Sounds to me like you two have a very good foundation. KEEP IT THAT WAY. Don't tear it apart looking for something that might or might not happen one day. You will miss out on much happiness if don't.
2007-03-22 04:35:22 · answer #3 · answered by ~*Live*~*Laugh*~*Love*~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be afraid. This girl has accepted your insecurities and make her promise to remain understanding about that!! You two sound like a great couple to me and I don't see any problems. I would like to advise you to always put her ahead of your family and friends in all matters if you want her love.
Now give her the ring!!
No, I would never ever even think of cheating on my husband. I could never hurt him like that or in any other way when I have a choice. If I hurt him accidently, I would cry more than he would. No infidelity here and nothing will ever change that for me. Good luck and much happiness.
2007-03-22 04:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I wouldn't cheat. And I am in a relationship like that. Been married 11 years and I can't question his love for me. I think you need to trust that she loves you. She knows about your insecurities and she is still with you. Relax and enjoy your relationship. Many a time a relationship has soured because the partner grows tired of the insecurities. They see it as you not trusting them. Again, relax. You have much to be secure about. Good luck!
2007-03-22 04:30:21 · answer #5 · answered by ESTamez 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My husband is just like you I was married before and then was single and dating of course for 7 years before I met my husband I had no plans of remarrying but when I met him and saw how genuine he is and how much he loves me and I love him I could never picture my life without him I now believe in true love and I can't imagine being intimate with anyone ever again I too was very insecure but my husband has shown me that I have nothing to worry about he is mine all mine and I never have to feel insecure again because in his eyes we are perfect together
GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!!!
2007-03-22 04:51:33 · answer #6 · answered by Nautia75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first and foremost, women LOVE men that are confident! No matter how well you treat a woman, if she doesn't feel like you are confident in your actions, she may stray. It's not a question of will a woman cheat, it's why would a woman cheat. You may think you are fullfilling all her needs, but you may not be. If you love this woman, show her. Don't do things that you think she wants, or will cause her not to stray.
2007-03-22 04:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by trikelkelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't cheat. It sounds like you are a good, loving man. Don't allow your insecurity to push her away, though. If you love her then you have to trust that she is going to do right by you. Everyone has insecurities, but don't allow them to rule your life. Enjoy your relationship and stop worrying about what "might" or "could" happen and take it for what it is right now, a good loving relationship.
2007-03-22 04:33:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that you have a problem or something to worry about. Right now,your feeling scared because your in love and because of this strong feeling that you have for her, one of your insecurity is coming out. But you must stop this nonsense feeling, just let you heart and mind do the talking.
As a man it's not bad to have this scary feeling,I think I will vow my head to you sir because you are one of those man that got away to some women that's looking for a relationship that you have given to your fiancee. It's absolutely normal to have this feelings, just put it aside and don't let this ruin you. life is to short and you have everything that you wanted in life, all you have to do is reach for it, embrace it and be happy.
2007-03-22 04:41:52 · answer #9 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be so insecure about your relationship. If you are all that you say you are there is no reason for you girl to go and look into anyone else.
Before you get engaged you need to get past your insecurity or it will never work.
2007-03-22 04:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by Valentina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait on getting married. You are too insecure yet. Why do you have trust issues with her? Getting into counciling before you get married. Did you cheat ? You sound like a wonderful guy that any woman would love to have in her life. Get into counciling and work on relationship before you tie the knot.
2007-03-22 04:33:06 · answer #11 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋