Last yr we had a heatwave I buy a huge A/C & had no 1 to install it. Sears was too expensive. I ask 1 of my neighbors to install it & offer to pay him, he agrees. I go to leave a note in his door, the note only said I'd pay him for installing my A/C & to ring my bell when he returns home. A young lady is coming out the apt. She stops & asks can she help me - "I'm his wife" - she had an attitude - wasn't friendly - she read the note, I told her what it was for, she seems mad, took the note & said she'll tell him. This is a guy who offered to help me with anything in my apt if I ever need help. That's why I ask him. Ever since then when I run into this lady she has attitude at me & always looks mad. 1 day she's coming out the elevator, I'm going in, she lets the door go. I saw her today & she looks mad at me. I thought I should say something to her to break the tension & assure her I meant nothing I just needed help that day & he offered to help me. Should I? Or leave it alone?
2007-03-22 04:24:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let me also add that I posted this in another forum but it's bothering me that much I wanted to post it elsewhere. I've never done anything wrong to this young lady or her "husband". He offered to help me with anything in my apt & the day I saw him we were having a heatwave & I asked him to help install it. I went to leave a note on his door later on because he wasn't home when I tried to reach him to get the A/C installed & I wanted to let him know I would pay him & I was at home, that he can ring my bell when he returns home to install the A/C. This lady acts like I did something wrong to her & I'm really sick of having to be the one to try & make PEACE with people who get attitudes over stupid things when I didn't do anything. It bothers me when people act like that with me because I don't want any trouble & I don't want to be disliked but I didn't DO ANYTHING WRONG!!!! Maybe I should ignore her & not let her attitude bother me. She seemed to have an attitude even before then .....
2007-03-22 04:25:01 · update #1
she has issues that are not your problem. getting too involved would probably make it worse.
the best thing you can do is forget about it and move on.
2007-03-22 04:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by raspberryswirrrl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might "stray" from time to time and she has to keep a short leash on him. I wouldn't worry about what one snooty, over protective person thinks of you, after all she may have good reason. On the other hand, he might be genuine and just wanted to help you. At any rate, don't let it consume you. If you really want to make peace with her just leave her a note with a few flowers and a note explaining your situation. If she is any type of decent person she will accept your apology for upsetting her and you may become friends. If she has reason to distrust him you probably won't hear from her again. Anyhow, don't ponder it forever, if we all worried about what one person thought of us we would all be basket cases. Enjoy the rain throughout your life because without it you can not enjoy the sunshine.
2007-03-22 11:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by nancy w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go and lay low...there really isn't much you could say to her...if she wants to carry on being mad about nothing I would just let her. You know you didn't do anything and thats what matters. Also maybe don't ask the guy for anymore help :) that sucks you have to see her all the time but personally I would just leave her alone and let her be mad, you didn't do anything wrong.
2007-03-22 11:29:22 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He offered his help so your fine. Be happy that he helped you and satisfied that the task was taken care of. The wife is another person, did you ask her for her help? No. (It doesn't seem you did less I read your post to fast:P) Don't worry about her, maybe even tell her, "Please tell your husband I appreciate the help he gave me, and I am sorry it clearly upsets you. I won't request his help any longer" then close the door.
Seems simple to me. :D Good luck and have a great day.
Kristy
2007-03-22 11:31:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not just ask the guy? Catch him as he is leaving for work or somthing and have a talk with him about it. If he don't know then why not try talking to her? If that don't work try just ignoreing her or be childish and make a mean look back. becareful with that though she might tell a lie to her so called husband and you might be in a fight.
2007-03-22 11:30:39 · answer #5 · answered by Jason B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well then you should tell her exactly what you are telling us then and if she still has beef towards you then leave her insecure butt alone. Stop beating yourself up for not knowing that this guy had a wife. If he offered to help you then that is just that. Yes address this issue with her asap.
2007-03-22 11:29:34 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she has trust issues with her husband, maybe he has cheated on her before and she is afraid he is doing it again. You should try to talk to her about it, but she may not be very willing to talk to you. All you can do is try to make her understand you have no intersted in her husband and if it doesnt work, just ignore her. You know you did nothing wrong.
2007-03-22 11:29:33 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it. some women are just like that. they feel threatened and need to "hate" u for some reason. if u want to tell her again that u meant no harm and was only trying to give him $$ for the a/c then maybe it will calm her down. but if it doesnt just dont worry...she is probably very insecure about herself and relationship and feels the need to take it out on u
2007-03-22 11:28:20 · answer #8 · answered by jenivive 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you ask to spk with her and ask if there is anything that you did. At least this will clear the air somewhat.
2007-03-22 11:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her insecurity is not your problem, forget the whole thing and move on....
2007-03-22 11:28:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋