I having problem with my ex.
we have been seprate for a 1yr and we first made a deal that our son would be going to see his dad every second week and he has to stay at his grandmother house plus no gf to be around my son.Things have change which my son would spend three days with his dad drop down to a overnight . Due to My ex works 4 days and get three days off he wantes a day to himself. But now I am getting muck around due to his mother can't handle having her grandson at her house every second weekend. So it change once a month.Now I get abuse due to the week that my ex want to see his son happen to be call off due to I allow my son to got to a birthday party which is a sleep over.Plus early this year my son go to preschool he goes on tuesday which my ex try to get me to change it so that he can get his son. I told him No . I have made other plans for my son which happen to fall on the day that his father comes and pick him up .He think I doing it so that he can't see his kid
2007-03-22 04:22:49 · 6 answers · asked by MOONBEAM7699 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The plans that I got my son doing is sport and other actives he want to do . I had enough waiting for my ex to tell me what day he coming to see his son and when he does show up half of the day is over.
I would like to move on . I spoke to my son about it and he doesn't even like going to his dad becasue his father all ways got someone with him and he is to busy with that person who happen to be his date that don't last long.
My son even told me that he had enough watch his father muck around with his playmates and doesn't do anything with his son.
But my son also told me he like his uncles better then his dad.
But when I try to tell my ex that don't bother to show up due to his son got other plans it fall on deaf ear and I get the abuse when he show up for the visit.
2007-03-22 04:29:56 · update #1
I try going through court and my ex never show up .He excuse was he didn't want to take it to court . becasue he know that he will lose out . But My ex want it to be his way . I allow my son to have a life as well . think about it he got to travel once a month now soon it will change . He hate it .He miss out on birthdays parties and stuff like due to he had to see his dad. he would like to play sport on the weekend and his father doesn't like him doing that .
It all come down to the break up I face this due to his father could not give a poo when we were living with him. That he want to wreak it .
2007-03-22 04:43:53 · update #2
It sounds to me that you are letting your bitterness for your ex stand in the way of a possible solution. Children often feed off of this negative energy and become bitter themselves. The courts should be in my opinion one of your last options, because it will almost always turn ugly. Try having a sit down conversation with your ex and work something out. I know it sounds easier said than done, but for the sake of your son you should try. Even if you are no longer together, you will always have to be a part of each others lives one way or another, try to make it as friendly as possible.
Good luck and God Bless!
2007-03-22 07:22:04 · answer #1 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to family court. You two can't work this out without the Judges help. Do not take your son away from his father without going to court. His father may not be an ideal father but he IS his father....
2007-03-22 11:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to have custody established so that your ex must be a part of his son's life. If he violates the decree then he can lose visitation , or even have to have supervised visitation to make sure he is doing enough when his son is supposed to be with him.
2007-03-22 11:32:50 · answer #3 · answered by Master Ang Gi Guong 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should work together with your ex to give your son the best relationship possible with both of his parents. Doesn't your son deserve that?
2007-03-22 11:28:03 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
stop stop both of you . have to stop the crap.i see that the only one that's hurt is both of you.you still in love with your ex. you are using all you can to get the ex to talk to you and hurt him by this. stop it before the kid gets hurt by all this crap. you wake up. you have to let goooooooo. of your ex. then go on with your life
2007-03-23 00:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by freeman3905@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE SEE A LAYWER WITH YOUR PROBLEM. If you have a written agreement and you are not following wath is pointed out he might put charges on you. Get legal advice, don't act only with your protective mother instinct.
Good luck. Big hug.
2007-03-22 11:28:38 · answer #6 · answered by belgium 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋