Im trying not tohave a pity party for myself but I am so stressed and I am 11 weeks pregnant, my bachelorette and my fiances bachelor party is tomorrow night and I just keep picturing him with strippers and I feellike Im gonna cry. he is a good guy and I trust him i just think Im emotional. Plus my Dad just went into the hospital to be tested for prostate cancer and Im trying to be tough for my mom. Am I hormonal or being dramatic, Im at work and fighting back the tears when I should be happy. No one knows about my baby yet, I might have too tell my parents now before the wedding. How do I relax, what do I do???
2007-03-22 04:19:41 · 10 answers · asked by Bored 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm sorry about all of your troubles. The tradition of strippers at a pre-wedding party is sickening to me. From men I have been acquainted with in the past, I have heard that oftentimes a heck of a lot more goes on than a semi-nude dance. If you weren't pregnant, I'd advise not marrying him. I am sick to death of engaged and married men who think they have a right to naked lap dances etc. Wonder how he would like it if you had a nude man shake his genitalia in your face.
This society is getting so obnoxious, that wives are made to feel like crap if they don't happily accept their men's escapes with stippers and strip clubs. Nauseating!!!!!
2007-03-22 04:32:02 · answer #1 · answered by 13th Floor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CRY! You need to let it.
People express their emotions in different way. Some people cry, some people hold it in, some people have anxiety attacks. Crying is an extremely good release of your emotions.
I'm sorry to hear about your father. Keep your chin up....technology has come a long way. Keep the faith.
Congrats on the baby and don't worry about the bachelor/bachelorette parties. If your fiance is a trustworthy man you have nothing to worry about. You are probably feeling a little jealous about the strippers or whatever because of your pregnancy. He obviously loves you or he wouldn't be marrying you. Forget about it and have fun!
2007-03-22 11:25:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 20 weeks pregnant when I got married. I was insecure about hubby going to see strippers too but it was his party. Well he went and a stripper sprayed him and his buddies with breast milk!!! He said it immediately made him want me. LOL.. perhaps something like this will happen for him. You are going through a very stressful time and it is OK to cry. You may be trying to be strong but sometimes even the strongest people need a break. My brother in law just got tested for prostate cancer and it came back good. His prostate is just enlarged. Keep your chin up and hope for the best. Good luck
2007-03-22 11:30:23 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you gotta trust your hubby!
I'm sure the whole time he is at his bachelor party ... he's going to be thinking about you and his baby!
He is going to be with you and that baby forever .. one night of a bachelor party isn't going to change anything .. just think of the long term with him and your baby .. and not just that party tomorrow night! :)
Yes, tell your mom about the baby .. that way she'll have something positive to think about while your father is getting his tests done.
Maybe you should tell a couple of your friends too .. that way they dont try and force you to drink or do something harmful to the baby at your bachelorette party.
The due date is going to show that you got pregnant before the wedding (which happens A LOT) .. so you might as well tell people now .. and let everyone share in your excitement!
People are going to be so happy for you .. and congratulating you .. you're not even going to think about his bachelor party .. it will be about you and baby!
congrats! good luck! God bless!
2007-03-22 11:28:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 3 months pregnant when my husband and I got married so I know what you are going through, the only thing I can say is you just have to trust him. My husband and my dad, and my husbands step dad all went out for his bachelor party but I knew he wouldnt do anything because my dad was with him!! But they just went to a couple bars around the house. Just ask where he plans on going, and tell him that you really dont want him around women especially strippers.
2007-03-22 11:26:25 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear about your father! I think it is perfectly natural for you to be feeling sad and overwhelmed with everything that is going on with you right now. I'm sure the hormones are not helping the situation either. I think the best thing you can do right now is allow yourself to have a good cry, it always seems to help me when I feel sad. I think telling your parents is a great idea! I'm sure they could both use some news as exciting as a new addition to the family. Best Wishes to you!
2007-03-22 14:41:56 · answer #6 · answered by krista_focus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath. I also suggest calling your fiance when you can and talking to him. Be honest and explain how you are feeling, make sure he knows that you don't think he would be unfaithful to you at his party, but that you are feeling emotional today. It's great that you are trying to be strong for your mother, but now is also a time that, once she knows, she'll be trying to be there for you. As wonderful as having a baby is, it is also an emotional roller coaster, and you need support. Good Luck.
2007-03-22 11:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by LadyKaede 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow you have a lot on your mind. I would get the baby thing oout in the open first. Start there and things should get better. Try and do something for you...get your nails done, get a massage, go see a movie, just don't drink alchohol. lol Bachlorette parties can get that way...and if they don't know you have the baby then you might be tempted to. just looking out for you.
2007-03-22 11:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by barbiebabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're having a very normal reaction to a stressful time in your life. It may be wise to talk to your fiance, let him know that the hormones are kicking in and that you need some support. Also, it may not hurt to let your parents know you're pregnant...they can help. And who knows, it may help them to get through this stressful time to know they have a grandbaby on the way. Don't try to do it all alone...take advantage of the support available to you.
2007-03-22 11:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by mamasonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-03-25 11:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by marketingexpert 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋