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Im still confused!Me and my brother are so close n me dating his friend will ruin our relationship coz he is stubborn!We're all in our early 20s and all grew up on the same street n Me and Sam hav jus started datin n he is sooo perfect for me ive known him since i was a kid coz he's been friends with my brother for like 10yrs but he's like 3 yrs younger so we werent close then we r gettin to know bout each other now! My brother isnt speakin2me- he found out we kissed n was not happy n sed we werent to see each other again! He hasnt told Sam to stay away hes told me. I know he loves me n is lookin out for me n doesnt think Sam is good enough but I know he is. Sam treats me soo good n is being soo careful with me coz of who's sis i am!We're not kidz n all this sneaking around is hard n i dont kno wat to do! Should i just forget it b4 it gets too serious we r really taking it slow coz alot is at risk! Sam is a good guy n there aint that many of them out there! I dont want to lose anyone!

2007-03-22 04:15:08 · 10 answers · asked by zara 2 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

10 answers

talk to your brother about it. find out why he doesnt think sam is good enough. tell him that you REALLY like him. let your brother know that sam is not going to replace him, and that you still want to be bestfriends.

2007-03-22 04:19:36 · answer #1 · answered by smcopeland16 3 · 0 0

This is a fact:Just like a fathers, brothers are possessive regarding their sisters. Its just because you have both been made in the same factory with the same materials. Don't worry, as you both become more mature, he will let the rope loose. Just be a little bit patient with him.
I will add another afct: Between boys, mostly if you grew up together and you are best friends, between them there will be no secrets. So your bro know a lot about Sam, maybe did many things together, like wooing other girls. But now that Sam is turning to you, your bro is thinking that he has a bad eye on you. Dont worry, with time everything will settle.

2007-03-22 04:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 0 0

You and Sam need to discuss this and decide together what you want to do. Don't continue sneaking around, your brother will eventually find out and it will hurt him more if he finds out by accident than if you tell him yourself. If you two want to pursue this relationship (personally, I think it sounds like a good idea) you should both speak to your brother together. He needs to hear from you that you're a grown woman and should be allowed to make your own mistakes and he needs to hear from Sam that he has no intention of hurting you and that he will treat you well. Ask your brother why he has concerns about the relationship and try to ease his fears. If he is still upset then there is nothing more you can do. I think even though he may not like the idea at first he will eventually come around.

2007-03-22 04:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by Vivita 4 · 0 0

Give it time the reason your brother is acting like this is probably because he thinks you are going to take sam away from him and loose their close friendship he could also be jealous of the close relationship you guys will have.
try to include him in as much as possible dont argue with him just explain that you feel something for him and you want to see how it goes and that his and sams relationship wont be effected.
he should be happy for you both as you are both obviously 2 people in the world he cares for.
look at the friends situation and monica and chandler ended up getting married :--)

2007-03-22 04:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Hi, Does your brother know something about Sam that you don't? perhaps he dosent want you hurt. I would ask him why he is behaving like this is there something you should know that he is not telling you, or is it because he fears you are taking his friend away from him. You are so close he should tell you. Good Luck to you.

2007-03-22 04:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0 0

It sounds like your brother is scared of losing the relationship he has with you and his mate, he thinks it will change everything and it probably will because the two of you will want to spend more time together on your own and therefore your brother will be left out - hence is loses out twice!

You have to understand how he feels.

2007-03-22 04:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by luz2loz 3 · 0 0

Ok sit down with your brother and tell him how you honestly feel . . .then tell him that you think Sam? is the love of your life and that you hope that he can accept that and move on tell him that they can still be friends, and you can still date but he just has to understand. .you feel very strongly for Sam?
Tell him you value your relationship as well . .
Good luck . . .this ones a toughy!

2007-03-22 04:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by sam_roxmysox 2 · 0 0

Your brother's best friend.......is usually off limits, and just maybe your brother knows things about his friends that he thinks dont make him suitable for his sister......but however...if this guy cares about you...he will be patient...and try to help you work out things with your brother........

2007-03-22 04:21:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

that's a ridiculous rule...speak to your brother about it he seems very immature

2007-03-22 08:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by haze 2 · 0 0

Ask yourself this: Do you want your brother at your wedding?

2007-03-22 04:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by siany warny 4 · 0 1

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