through out my life i thought about bein bi....so this year i became bi 2 c if i was coo wit it....i noe i shouldnt keep dis big of a secret from my parents. . .but i dont noe how dey will react!!!. . .i dont want den 2 not trust me wit gurlz n not let them come over . . .im scared dat if i tell den dey wont want me 2 b around bois or gurlz.. . . . sooo should i tell her or should i keep it 2 myself till later in life?
2007-03-22 04:12:31 · 7 answers · asked by Breyana R 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
How old are you?
Well im lesbain. I knew i was when i still at school at 13. I kept it quite (to myself) through school till I was 21. I didnt say anything (between 13 and 20) because i wanted to be totally 100% sure for myself. I didnt want it to be a faze i was just going through and as you said I didnt want my family to be upset or over react about it. However i waited till i was IN my first relationship with a woman till i came out. We were serious for eachother and i could no longer keep making up excuses for her to stay in my bed. (I had a double bed and a single bed in my room). I used to tell my mum and dad its easier just to top and tail rather than make the spare bed up.
Anyway You may want to test their reactions first. I did. When i was 18 I joked about with my mum one day and said to her what would she do if i ever told her i was gay? Her answer, she told me she'd find me a good doctor and my dad told me the same!!!! Ofcourse that put me off the idea of ever telling them. So when i was in this serious relationship and more mature i made the decision that i HAD to tell them no matter what their reaction would be.
If they couldn't accept that i was still the daughter they brought up then i was prepared for that. I had no idea where i would go really if they did kick me out but i would of dealt with that if and when it came to it. Thankfully they were both fine. They still love me for who i am. I know deep down that mum would really love me to have a child and marry a man and that dad wants the same but they only want for my happiness.
So i guess my advise to you is test the water first.
ONLY tell your mum if your truely sure of your feelings and if your under 18 atleast wait till your 18 so they cant use the phase that your still only a child and cant think straight.
Be prepared for the worst outcome of telling them.
Stand up for yourself and dont let them pressure you into anything you dont want to do.
Live for yourself and be happy.
and remember.......the most important person in your life is YOU.
Good luck
2007-03-22 11:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mystic Magic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take a seat her down and inform her. Be grownup approximately it and if she says "oh its a section" or anything like that then permit her feel that. You recognise your self larger then any person else on this planet and also you comprehend your sexuality. My quality buddy got here out to me after we had been thirteen however she had identified for the reason that she used to be within the 4th grade. When she advised her mom and dad, they freaked out however now they be given her for who she is. Just keep in mind your mother will consistently love you.
2016-09-05 11:53:11 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the secret until you are living on your own, Your parents are not going to be overjoyed about your situation, and maybe they will accept on the surface, but you will notice glances towards you all the time, and if they don't accept on the surface, living with them could be hell.
You are , who you are, no need to apologize...It will just be better to tell them when you don't live there.
2007-03-22 04:29:27 · answer #3 · answered by bob shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let me tell you this, this is the heardest thing in the world and its the most wonderful thing in the world as well once you know who you are then you can repect your self
if you are Happy with who you are then you should because that is the next step but you should do it when you are ready
just think about this your family are the ones who love and care about you
2007-03-22 04:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a teenager don't tell them yet wait a while,if you are a grown *** man its about damn time you told them!
2007-03-22 04:20:10 · answer #5 · answered by Dai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should tell ur mom cause she is gonna love u no matter what!
2007-03-22 04:22:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats no-one's business but yours. I'm straight and I don't tell my parents about my sex life. Dive in!!!~
2007-03-22 04:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by booger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋