what do i need to do to be able to make this happen? ie: what is the procedure? i aslo want to make sure that my children will be cared for by him in the event of my death, what do i need to do in terms of wills etc. the children's biological father does not have parental responsibility.
2007-03-22 04:11:49 · 24 answers · asked by tegcur 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Adoption is the best answer, so he is the legally recognized "father" of the children.
You need to make a will that explicitly spells out responsibilities
2007-03-22 04:14:22 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Partner?? Is he just a b/f? How do you know you'll be together that long to give him that kind of burden?
If you were married then I could see it, but you called him your partner........ be 100% sure before you do any thing with the law~ You don't cant it to back fire on you.
As for your question~
For any one to have any kind of parental responsibility, they need to adopt your children.
Every state has it's own laws as to what you can and can't do.
I know in my state the father regardless of his connections with his kids STILL has to approve any and all kinds of legal procedures that take place with his kids.
Talk to a lawyer or even a state Representative. I'm sure you'll find your answers there.
As for the death part, you need to make out a will. FYI the real dad can fight for custody if you don't do it the right way.
Again I suggest that you speak to a lawyer and tell he/she your wishes as a parent.
Also does this guy you're with now want all this responsibility?
If so, more power to you both!
Good luck!!!!!!
2007-03-22 11:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by Loveable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you want is called a Step-Parent adoption. Depending on your state, it's a fairly simple process. Contact an attorney who does adoptions and they will give you all of the information you need to complete it. You can either have the biological father sign off on his parental rights or it can be forced in a court (that all depends on the situation) be prepared for visits from children's services and have your partner be ready to answer serious personal questions. They will conduct a background check on your partner and look into his financial status (not that it always matters, but they want to make sure that adopting your children will not cause him a financial hardship).
The process can take from 6 months up to 1 1/2 years, depending on what children's services and the courts recommend.
It's a pretty nerve racking experience, but in the end it's all worth it.
Good Luck!
2007-03-22 11:26:32 · answer #3 · answered by † Walk by Faith † 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to get you a good lawyer. This is the only way to go in the event anything does happen to you. I have a question for you though, does your partner want the responsibility of being these kids father? Just do everything legally and through the court systems and you will automatically come out on top. Good Luck with your situation.
2007-03-22 11:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by Christina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To adopt your partner's child or a relative who normally lives in the UK you will need to tell your local council that you plan to adopt at least three months before starting your adoption application with the court.
The court will ask your local council to provide a report on you, your husband or wife, the child and the birth parents, to help the court make a decision. The report will be prepared by a social worker. The child's other parent(s), holding parental responsibility for them must normally agree to the adoption, although sometimes the court may decide this is not necessary.
You do not need to go though an assessment with an adoption agency when adopting a relative or stepchild who normally lives in the UK. However, the law does require that both you and your husband/wife need to adopt the child, even though one of you is already the child's parent.
2007-03-22 11:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by bez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way this can legally be done is by going to a solicitor and getting your partner to adopt your children. You can nominate him as a legal gaurdian however in the event of your death this could get taken away from him and if he wanted the biological father could come and claim responsiblity.
Your best bet is to make an appointment with your solicitor and get him to go through i all with you but adoption is probably the only way to go.
2007-03-22 11:17:56 · answer #6 · answered by dubgirl26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does your partner want, this is a big responsibility. If he adopts with permission of your childrens' father(s) then it is a pretty easy fix. You will be giving up child support. The father does have parental responsibility, whether he is being a father to your kids or not, I do hope you are collecting child support.
2007-03-22 13:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by sunset 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is what I've been told by a family member who was in the same situation as you....
First, you have to be married for 6 months to your partner in order for him to be able to adopt the children. Then, you have to get the father to sign his rights away.
That is supposedly the process in Washington. I don't know about other states.
If the father won't sign his rights away, there's nothing you can do. He will always have the rights. Sucks! Especially for those deadbeat dads that don't have anything to do with their kids and don't pay for them either!
Good luck!
2007-03-22 11:16:46 · answer #8 · answered by Shelly N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The procedure is simple: Love and care for him as much as you can and make your children love him too. Legal issues will follow. Once you have win over a genuine place in one's heart with love, you can be sure you'll never be thrown out from there. Your children is a part of yourself, so if you win him with love, your children will win too!
Love is the solution to every problem, the remedy for all disease and the answer for all questions!
2007-03-22 11:21:28 · answer #9 · answered by Goldenheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to have the biological father sign away his parental rights,
Second, you should marry your partner, it looks better for the Courts.
Third, your partner needs to file a Petition for Adoption with the Court.
2007-03-22 11:19:37 · answer #10 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋