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I have a friend who cleans houses for a living, privately, not through a company. One of her employers, she's been working for them for several years, hardly ever around when she's cleaning, she has a key. Anyway, about two years ago or so, the husband started being at home when she was cleaning, maybe once or twice a month, and about a year ago she caught him in bed with another woman. He begged her not to tell his wife, and paid her off. She was desperate for money at the time, so she took it, and promised not to tell. Now, recently she overheard a conversation between the guy and his fling, and turns out she is pregnant. Now, this guy's wife is also pregnant (8 months). What does she do now? She thinks the wife has a right to know what her husband is up to, but she took the money to keep quiet the last time. She could get in trouble for saying something when she promised not to, lose her job, or what, but her conscience is getting to her now. Help.

2007-03-22 04:10:45 · 13 answers · asked by tinaroonie 2 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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She will likely lose her job, and their marriage will be ruined, but a job is a job, and she can find another. Their marriage is already in shambles, the wife just doesn't know it yet. The guy has gotten him self into a situation there is no way out of. There is no pretty or pleasant answer, All I can say, is if it were me, I would tell the wife. Some would argue it's not my place to break up their marriage......but the husband already did that

2007-03-22 04:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Wow! I'd say in her situation, not to get involved and not say anything. She kept the money which was her decision, and being financially in bad means, I can certainly understand that. But look at it this way, his wife is going to find out eventually w/o this woman saying anything. The "fling" will want child support and all kinds of things and eventually he's either going to have to tell the wife or she will, child support isn't something one can keep quiet. Just let her know to continue to do her own thing and everything will happen (good or bad) on its own =)

2007-03-22 04:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0 0

Now, she does nothing. She has already taken money to cover up her knowledge, which legally could be considered taking a bribe and/or blackmail.

At this point, it would probable be best if she quit this job before she is required to testify at the couple's divorce proceedings. Her conscience is not an issue here; she's already ignored it once. Any further involvement with this couple's mess would be just plain stupidity on her part.

She needs to distance herself from this mess at once and never look back.

2007-03-22 04:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by MomBear 4 · 0 0

the guy shouldn't be cheating but she shouldn't have taken money to keep quiet. Is she friends with the lady? I mean, If I had a friend and I knew her husband was cheating I would tell her and I would expect her to tell me. But, if it is just someone randomly or someone that I work for there personal life isn't anyones business and I would keep my mouth shut and not say anything...So, I don't know...Since she took money I think she should feel bad! But, I honestly don't know whether she should tell or not since she already is sorta in the wrong for taking money!

2007-03-22 04:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by bjd72003 3 · 0 0

Gosh! This is why u stay out of other people bussines in the first place now she stuck with this. Well I dont know what she should do I mean it s not her job to save this relationship She should stay out of it and maybe just give the wife hints or a clue of whats going on.. Well Good Luck

2007-03-22 04:16:42 · answer #5 · answered by flaca 2 · 0 0

It really is none of her business, she works for these people and her only obligation is to do her job, its and terrible situation to be in for all involved and looks like no one will come out smelling like roses but the reality of the situation is she is just an employee not a family member or close friend, ultimately she will suffer if she tells, she can always look to work elsewhere if her conscience is bothering her

2007-03-22 04:19:07 · answer #6 · answered by ms_lovelace2 3 · 0 0

The wife of this man NEEDS TO KNOW... she should have told her in the first place.

Tell her to sit the wife down and explain everything. Tell her that she needs to be calm well doing so, and start off with the fact that she doesn't want to lose her job, but she thinks so highly of the wife that she just needs to tell her....also make sure that she adds that she knows its really not her business to meddle, but thought the wife deserved to know. Make sure that all details are accurate.

No one deserves to be treated this way... NO ONE... this needs to be stopped right now.

2007-03-22 04:18:15 · answer #7 · answered by Scared 2 · 0 0

As an employee, it's really none of her business. The Wife will find out eventually anyway.
If she still needs money, I'd recommend asking the cheating husband for more funds to keep the new information confidential.

2007-03-22 04:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by Carol D 5 · 0 0

I never tell on people I just help things along in my own little ways. If the money was truly needed then she chose survival over telling on the man. Plus it is something over heard not told to her, and maybe he's trying to see if she'll tell on him now cause he is chicken. Maybe she should quit working for them. Or she could pray for them.

2007-03-22 04:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0 0

She could find another way for the wife to find out without telling her.

2007-03-22 04:14:54 · answer #10 · answered by angie a 3 · 0 0

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